What do you think I should do?(About a girl)

Hi.
To keep it short as it is very complex.
She likes me,I like her(either as freinds or more likely as people have seen,a date/girlfriend) we havent said we like each other.
She hasnt text or replied in 3 weeks.
-Said yes twice in person meeting up
-Said we can meet up just us two in summer
-Called her randomly no answer.text back right away next day first thing apologising and said was sleeping
--Called twice no answer then text what times are best to call.
-----No reply in 3 weeks nearly------
-She works constantly(like 7 days a week)
-Told me she is a bad texter in person and via WhatsApp
-Called me regularly to go out when we were on a student holiday since I was close by.
I have been told wait and now let her come to you and it would or could be hard for her as she hasnt replied in weeks.
When we meet again at university she might start wanting to go out or not.
Should I just keep on living my life and see what happens?
I have been very upset over this but feel like I'm on the right path to recovering from being very upset and do feel here and there.All answers and advice will always be very much appreciated.
Thankyou.

Yes keep on living your life and do NOT chase her. Let her chase you. If she text's you DO NOT reply immediately, wait an hour or so.

Thanks for your input👍

Her behaviour shows she is not keen and leaving the ball in her court is good advice.

Thanks Zarek!👍 Yes,she is a freindly type but also a shy,confused,not sure of her emotions type of girl,it is very hard and has always been more extroverted around other people,other women and men but has always had this distant, shyness,like she is not sure about me,another girl told me she did ask her where I was and have you seen me 2x in the same hour and she has quietly stood beside me when on talking to other guys.It is good in person,she is quite touchy but so cold over texts.

Dont think badly of her though, she may actually be very busy with other stuff. I know a girl like that and it is a pain as she never replies to my messages,lol, and tells me she is bad at replying os thats ok with me, and still friends anyway.

Just being honest and I don't know if you have been through this before,it is definitely upsetting and as a guy it is hard when you have feelings for a woman/girl that you thought being masculine you possibly couldnt have.She really did wake me up with emotions and now know what it is like to like/starting to feel and care for someone.It hurt bad at first then I realised it isnt going well via online.

Just being honest and I don't know if you have been through this before,it is definitely upsetting and as a guy it is hard when you have feelings for a woman/girl that you thought being masculine you possibly couldnt have.She really did wake me up with emotions and now know what it is like to like/starting to feel and care for someone.It hurt bad at first then I realised it isnt going well via online.

Thankyou for your comment! That is an interesting reply.How long have you known her? And is she a freind? Or are you planning to ask her out?
I have asked her out in person and she said basically,we can plan something via text both of us,after looking away and blushing going red....it has been months already.O dont or couldnt think bad of her,I do think she is such a wonderful person but very confusing and some people have said a little rude or rude for not replying to texts..though of course she doesnt have to,but it just stops the confusion?She works neatly all week,she sies or did study full time and said she has no time to go anything really? Is someone really that busy? People like family say,she could at least send a quick text as it does just take seconds.

I’ve been through this a couple of times and know how upsetting it is. Dating is one of the few situations where how much you want something can have no influence on things working out. If a girl isn’t interested nothing can generally be done. The secret is to avoid turning things in to a complete mess all round.
More positively I have realised that there is not just one adorable girl, there are many, and it is all the sweeter when something works out. Keep at it

She is a very good friend but I wish for more. No I will let her making the running and be in control of where it goes. Your girl sounds very nice, and maybe just maybe she has been hurt in someway in her past she has not told you, and thus she will be wanting to take things easy and build up trust and friendship slowly. That may be why she is slow reply. Also sometimes she might not even have the confidence to message you, that really also is quite possible, I cant say more because I dont want to identify anyone but consider that, she may lack confidence etc and think you might not want to hear from her so maybe you have to gently prod her, ask short questions that require an answer as that gives her excuse/reason to respond.

So do you want to progress from friendship to a relationship? Maybe she is waiting for you to initiate as you never know since after all we are the men/the guys that should do the initating obviously leading to a balance in a relationship of 50/50 effort.Obviously go with your instincts and what she is like in person,the hints I have found out are good indicators but being men it is hard to read at times.
The girl I like is nice and and she looked after unconfident girls which I found so attractive.She does definitely have a caring personality too.
She has the confidence to call me and text me,or she did have the confidence to call me,she would call me randomly to meet her to go with her in a taxi so,we can go shopping together.
I did ask her quick questions and with pictures but she never answered them.zI know it was something she likes and on topics that she really liked.
That is crazy you have mentioned that as other peopl.I know or close members have said she seems unconfident and think there is something wrong with her,that she has been hurt in the past.She is confused,s wihth her emotions too.It is crazy that you have picked up on this from the details you know about her so far.People y this is a strange situation you are in.w about her s.She is 23 and I am 30

Hi Zarek,it is hard and does have a big impact on your life especially when she or a woman starts it by contacting you or adding you first via WhatsApp then becomes freindly and then personal when she made the efforts to give up on texting and just call so we,or she would spontaneously get me out and we went shop browsing together.she would contact more if I was closer as she knows it is a mission in her eyes to get to her as I live hours away and will have to travel into the city...which is fine as I love to drive and love my car but i would always be willing to do that for her.high contact to no contact is crazy .I think you are right in what you say.
Do you think I should keep trying with her? (As I definitely dont feel like giving up like quite a few guys would) I will let it play in her hands
Should I let her reach out when we meet again at university soon in a couple of months?
That's if she doesnt contact me then.it is very strange.I could text and get a reply in 1 day,instantly! like before,5 seconds,5 minutes,3 days,1 week,within 1 hour...but have not been reaching out as it's getting tiresome.
I do think talking to other women is good as it keeps you mind fresh that there are other women out there definitely.i am absolutely not the hookup type and will only be interested in women that want a committed relaxed trusting relationship where we share interests and,then to going out places like mountain hiking etc doing sports together,restaurants ...

Myself ?. I shall live in hope she will want more than friendship. I just got the feelings about your girl that she may be like my friend, who seems to fit that pattern of not replying quickly ,or at all, to messages etc. Maybe overloaded. I would just "keep the lines open" and dont get frustrated at late or non replies ,just occasionally give her very small message to allow her to reply if she wishes to ,withput her having to initiate (in case she is reticent to start the convo you have made it easy for her).

I know from my view obviously it impossible to tell but sometimes,just sometimes you have to think of that option of open mindedness and think,should I start to ramp things up slowly and see how she reaches out or reacts,as it for you could be tomorrow or it might be soon or possibly a long way a way if hoping and I admire that you can keep your friendship hurt dribs as you like her more then freinds.That is something I would struggle to do.I woild have to start treating her more special hoping that she will realise slowly what I am feeling that I feel for more then a freind.Obvioysly our situations are different and only we would know what to do in person since we are in contact and have met them in reality.
I do think she is or could possibly be overloaded.That is a good thought as you know she works constantly,does study a lot and other people have said she really has determination and unfortunately it might seem she just doesnt have time.
On the contrary people say it doesnt matter or shouldn't matter how busy she is....she should text as it does only take 10 seconds.This is what also is sad and confusing as it is true but do think is humans as a species are such complex creatures.
I don't get annoyed but only a little frustrated as I am not an aggressive type I'm more like Keanu Reeves or Jean reno type of personality a laid back type and become more sad and kind of depressed,it just gets upsetting really and you just feel sad knowing you think you might have fallen for her,you pictur scenes in your mind of happiness,the king her she is gorgeous,opening doors for her,just being there for her and taking care for her it just does makes you feel good
That chances of her replying are okay now but I feel I am reaching out too much for her.People would say she is not interested but she is unusual as she can flip things around.I could text but I will really have to think about this.
Thanks for the advice so far?It really does mean a lot,and you are great to talk to👍 I am glad I have come across you and the other guys/people on here.If you dont mind me asking,how old are you? Are you my age?

I would leave it to see if she contacts you again before uni and if not see what happens when you get back. This way you’ll truly will know if she’s interested. In the meanwhile keep hunting for new love interest options

Turn yourself into the sort of guy that doesn't get upset when relationships or budding relationships end.
Doing so has a double benefit.

Her pulling away is mainly because you've not been attractive enough to her. If Chris Hemsworth made a move on her she wouldn't go quiet on him.
Get an understanding of what it is that women find attractive. There's books and youtube channels from leading professional dating coaches devoted to this. And start behaving in more attractive ways.
Waiting for her to contact you is dumb. She's not going to do it. Contact her and ask her for a small favour. If it's a text, just ask her for a small favour without telling her what the favour is. If she contacts you back, phone her and ask for the favour. Make it something tailored to the 2 of you. And ask it in fun, flirty way.
If she doesn't respond to you, ping something into the void every once in a while. EG a "You'll never guess what I saw!" message, followed by a captioned photo or a very brief anecdote. Don't spend a lot of time on it or her at this stage, because she's just a highly provisional maybe and you should have loads of other stuff going on in your life, including you looking to meet and interact with other women.
Feel free to let us know what your next intended move is, or your next intended text to her.
There's a high chance you've been sending her too many boring / needy / clingy messages that have reduced her interest levels in you. Maybe you can turn this round maybe you won't...
From what you've told us, she doesn't sound that special at all, with her shyness and confusion.