(HELP) My man wants me to wear a hijab so he can marry me. (We’re both Muslim)

If you are going to put on the hijab, you should put it on for the right reason, and the only right reason is you're doing it for Allah. If you put it on for your man, or maybe even family pressure, then best believe it's going to come off at some point (at least in my case this happened). Yes hijab is a requirement for us women, but it is not necessary for marriage and he needs to get rid of that mindset. If he's saying to put it on because his family won't agree, for example, then that's ridiculous because you don't need to change according to their beliefs/expectations. You want to be accepted as who you are and right now you don't wear the hijab. I may be looking too far into the future for you, but if he's forcing you to do something before marriage then I can't imagine what it will be like after. No matter what happens, make sure when you decide to put it on in sha Allah, you put it on for Allah and not anyone else. I'm assuming you're still very young so don't rush into anything too quickly and don't act on emotions, think before you do, you don't want to regret anything.

is it not haram to have a boyfriend in the first place lol

Hey yes I’m only going to wear it when I want. I’ve made this very clear to him. I’m not silly enough to wear it not for him and then suffer throughout the marriage. My issue is our families know about each other and it’s been kept very halal our parents allowed us to speak and familiarise ourselves so I feel like there’s a lot on the line. My question is, will his mind change or do men that say this stick to it forever? Because in that case I will have to take a step back. Thank you by the way for your response

If your life is dictated to you by others then this will only get worse. This is only the beginning. It is not your bf it is the family and pressure from others that will dictate your life from now on. Is this what you want? That is your choice. You need to decide in your own mind, and not be controlled by others as they want you to do. This is an issue over interpretation and beliefs. You are open to decide in a free society. These values of freedom have taken many hundreds of years to occur, and many have died for this. They allow women to be part of society equally, without being deemed as 'property' and without being coerced into a behaviour because it allows men to control them. Please think about this because it is a privilege of living here.