feel guilty leaving my mum for uni
out of nowhere it has suddenly hit me that i’m leaving my mum alone when i go off to uni. i have been so excited to go up to this point and she made a comment about how she’ll be lonely when i go off to uni which i was worried about but now ten times more. she struggles mentally and i’m just extremely worried. i don’t know what to do
Whatever you do don't change your plans and stay excited. Your Mum is an adult. She will cope and will find her own path and routine when you are gone. She will be so proud of you going off and finding your way, setting up a semi independent life. The household will be very quiet but people are far more resilient than you will ever know and she will adapt to the new normal. Enjoy your time and look forward to the time you can come home again and catch up with all your exciting news.
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Original post by elloell
out of nowhere it has suddenly hit me that i’m leaving my mum alone when i go off to uni. i have been so excited to go up to this point and she made a comment about how she’ll be lonely when i go off to uni which i was worried about but now ten times more. she struggles mentally and i’m just extremely worried. i don’t know what to do
Hi @elloell ,
This is a hard situation for you to be in, but I agree with what has been said which is make sure you don't change your plans because of this, no matter how hard that might feel. Try and talk to your mum about how you are feeling and see what she says - I am sure she will reassure you that she's happy for you and proud of you as it sounds like you are quite close so I am sure she is proud of you for going. This might make you feel better about going as you want to be excited to go to uni rather than worried.
While you are at Uni, you can still make sure you are in contact with your mum- call her or text her and that way she will see that you are okay and having a good time and you can also see that she is okay too! You will also still see her when you go home for the holidays and if you go home for a weekend you will see her too and she could always come and visit you one weekend if you wanted. You will have so many fun and exciting stories to tell her about your time at Uni which I am sure she will want to hear and it will make her happy thinking about you having a great time.
She will adapt to you not being there and if she has friends or family nearby this will make it easier for her too. While it might seem hard at first, it will become normal for you to be away at uni which will make it a lot easier.
I hope some of this helps,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador.
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