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How do I let a guy know I’m interested in him in a public place? Or more of how do I start conversation with him in a none awkward way!

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mein2024

depends on where you are, what you are both doing at time, how many others are around ?

Start with a smile

Original post by annajkn

How do I let a guy know I’m interested in him in a public place? Or more of how do I start conversation with him in a none awkward way!

Try talking?

I particularly hate it when girls drop 101 different hints and expect guys to pick them up. No one is obligated to act on your signals. This is sheer stupidity. If you want to talk, talk; you're not 5.
In fact, I automatically reject anyone who has communication skills and etiquette worse than 5 year olds. If they play any stupid mind games, they're either automatically in the friend zone (because it's such a turnoff) or I'm running in the opposite direction because of how toxic she is.
Don't let yourself be the one who introduces stupid, unnecessarily complicated, and nonsensical communication problems into the relationship on the offset. Life is harder that way,

If you want to start a conversation without being awkward, more often than not a gentle slide into the conversation is more than enough. Treat the guy like any human being, and he would reciprocate. Your first impressions tend to matter less than you think, unless you're in a professional setting, in a club, or in any other situation where you have a short time going through a whole roster of people who you are likely not going to meet again.
I would rather have an easy going conversation with a girl who I can vibe with on basically anything; it lets down my guard and I don't have to put on a mask for her. If there's attraction, it would be natural and you can move onto the next stage. If there isn't, nothing's lost.

If you want a guy who wants you in a relationship, he will usually need time to suss you out. He can't do that if you're not talking, and this is definitely not done via first impressions. If a guy just wants a quick fling, he would probably (I can't speak for all guys) jump in too quickly and not suss you out.

In terms of conversation topics, talk about anything. Be it something in your surrounding, something you found interesting, something that recently happened to the both of you. How do you start conversations with your friends? How do you start conversations with any person?

Key things to bear in mind:

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Be genuine, unless you're being polite - people want to get to know you, not the person you're pretending to be

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Feel free to feel any emotions or have any natural reactions - you're not supposed to be a robot

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Be mentally mature - no one likes someone childish

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Treat the other person with respect - unless he does something stupid or disrespects you. Alternatively, if you are trying to be polite, you can hold off the judgement.

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The pretending to be dainty and helpless shindig is annoying at best - only ask for help if you genuinely need help

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Calibrate to how he is reacting - if he's high energy, be a little more energetic; if he's friendly, be a little more friendly, etc. It's kind of a good way to tell if he is interested. It's social skills 101.

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Ask about what he thinks/his opinions about things#

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Even if you have absolutely nothing to say, "hi" is better than nothing

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No conversation = no relationship, nothing ever happening.

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"No" is always better than "what could have been" - don't regret things

Major turnoffs:

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Entitlement, arrogance

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Lying

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Overly shy

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Rudeness

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Overly disagreeable - do disagree on things that do matter to you

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Expects the guy to do absolutely everything or move entire mountains for you

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Expects the guy to make all the first moves - it's pure stupidity and you're treating him less than human

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Disrespecting men - "all men are..." it's an overgeneralisation, it's rude, it's misandrist, and it's a sure-fire way to get guys to step away

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Refusing to contribute something to the date or lack any effort on your end

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Power plays - guys have enough of this in their lives, they don't need you to add to their pile

Does the above sound like common sense? It's because it is. People are normal, and so is your guy. Don't overcomplicate things when you don't need to.