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How to cut a friend off because of a guy

I’m 24 my friend is 35 ( she’s a girl and I really do like her) however she’s recently a divorcee and single mum of 2 her oldest son lives abroad. She has been kind of a hoe since she left her husband which I’ve just ignored but she brings a lot of men round her youngest son who is 6.

Anyways she had friends with benefits with a bad street boy who is 23!!!!!! Because she was desperate for company she allowed him to move in , now they are together. They have a toxic relationship and been together a year she said she will cut him off because he doesn’t financially help her but I don’t believe her she always calls my phone crying and I’m tired of it! She never listens to my advice.
One of her long term friends cut off of and one reason being this relationship she’s in

I feel the exact same way. She also owes me £100 which she says she can’t afford back yet and the boy is broke so cannot give it to her. However they’ve booked a holiday away. She’s owed me this money for 2 months.

I like her but I don’t agree with her situation I think it’s desperate low value and disgusting tbh. Her son school is now saying he’s been naughty in school and called social services in which she went to the school with her new bf and explained she has a new bf and that may be why. He’s also a bit controlling to her

Anyways am I out of order for wanting to cut her off

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

I’ve always felt like he’s used her because she has a nice flat and his parents always use to kick him out before he met her.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

I’ve always felt like he’s used her because she has a nice flat and his parents always use to kick him out before he met her.

he probably has hence why hes leeching off her for survival and he's using her. she cannot ask you for advice and not bother to take it into consideration. that's just wasting your time and hers. hopefully she pays you back soon but cutting her off isnt out of order in my opinion. i feel bad for her younger son

Reply 3

Zarek

If you like her stick with her. You don’t have to be drawn in to the ill advised relationship or lend money you need back, but a friend who cares is worth a lot

Reply 4

WUGO

Original post by Anonymous

I’m 24 my friend is 35 ( she’s a girl and I really do like her) however she’s recently a divorcee and single mum of 2 her oldest son lives abroad. She has been kind of a hoe since she left her husband which I’ve just ignored but she brings a lot of men round her youngest son who is 6.
Anyways she had friends with benefits with a bad street boy who is 23!!!!!! Because she was desperate for company she allowed him to move in , now they are together. They have a toxic relationship and been together a year she said she will cut him off because he doesn’t financially help her but I don’t believe her she always calls my phone crying and I’m tired of it! She never listens to my advice.
One of her long term friends cut off of and one reason being this relationship she’s in
I feel the exact same way. She also owes me £100 which she says she can’t afford back yet and the boy is broke so cannot give it to her. However they’ve booked a holiday away. She’s owed me this money for 2 months.
I like her but I don’t agree with her situation I think it’s desperate low value and disgusting tbh. Her son school is now saying he’s been naughty in school and called social services in which she went to the school with her new bf and explained she has a new bf and that may be why. He’s also a bit controlling to her
Anyways am I out of order for wanting to cut her off

Get your money and stop being friends with them. Simple, but make sure you get your dough.

Reply 5

Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

I’m 24 my friend is 35 ( she’s a girl and I really do like her) however she’s recently a divorcee and single mum of 2 her oldest son lives abroad. She has been kind of a hoe since she left her husband which I’ve just ignored but she brings a lot of men round her youngest son who is 6.
Anyways she had friends with benefits with a bad street boy who is 23!!!!!! Because she was desperate for company she allowed him to move in , now they are together. They have a toxic relationship and been together a year she said she will cut him off because he doesn’t financially help her but I don’t believe her she always calls my phone crying and I’m tired of it! She never listens to my advice.
One of her long term friends cut off of and one reason being this relationship she’s in
I feel the exact same way. She also owes me £100 which she says she can’t afford back yet and the boy is broke so cannot give it to her. However they’ve booked a holiday away. She’s owed me this money for 2 months.
I like her but I don’t agree with her situation I think it’s desperate low value and disgusting tbh. Her son school is now saying he’s been naughty in school and called social services in which she went to the school with her new bf and explained she has a new bf and that may be why. He’s also a bit controlling to her
Anyways am I out of order for wanting to cut her off

don't feel obliged to stay with her. She is 35 years old and think for herself. The situation doesn't make it sound like she will pay you back and infact, it just sounds like you are going to lose more money. Tell her everything you think and just leave. They booked a holiday despite them being "broke". Not only is the mother being used by the guy, but you are being used by the mother.