Upset about comments from guy I’m talking to

This is kind of another thread about how much I drink so if you’re sick of them click away now.

I met a guy online and have been talking to him for about the past month. We talked every day nearly constantly and I was really enjoying the convos and thought I really liked him so we were discussing meeting up in person. But he made some questionable comments and now I’m doubting whether I even want to bother with him or not.

I’m three weeks sober and he knows that, he also knows how much I (used to?) drink and that I am trying being sober for health reasons. I didn’t explicitly say I have a drinking problem but he knows how much I drink and that it isn’t good for me. But he made a “joke” that when we meet up he would get me to drink again and get me drunk so I would “loosen up”. And I just feel kinda sad and betrayed about it. That someone who I thought liked me was actually just planning on using me.

I haven’t responded to him after that (it was yesterday when he made the “joke”) and idk if I will again. He messaged me again today asking what’s wrong which I also didn’t respond to. It just feels **** because I have no friends and basically no contact with anyone outside of family and I thought someone actually liked me. But tbh I don’t miss him specifically, I just miss feeling like someone cared about me and wanted me around and wanted to listen to me, which apparently he didn’t so oh well, I guess I’m better for it.

Reply 1

Surnia

You are better off without him. Get out and about, indulge your hobbies and interests and try to meet like-minded people.

Well done on 3 weeks sober; keep it up. Please don't let things like this guy being an idiot knock you back.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

That was a scummy and weird comment to make even if it wasn’t related to something you struggle with.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Original post by Surnia

You are better off without him. Get out and about, indulge your hobbies and interests and try to meet like-minded people.
Well done on 3 weeks sober; keep it up. Please don't let things like this guy being an idiot knock you back.

Yeah I’m not planning to interact with him again, just wondered if other people would say I’m overreacting by feeling so upset and weirded out over it but I agree that I’m better without him lol