Making and staying friends

I recently met a new friend I've gotten on with really well ( I don't make friends easily), but I'm worried about it ending because I'm going off to university. We don't live near each other either.

We exchanged numbers and text regularly. There was this one time I suggested meeting up, and they said maybe but that it was a great idea.

I guess the problem I've always had is trusting other people because they rarely want to spend time with me.

I'm worried about this friendship ending because I'm going to university. I know nothing stays the same forever, but we've gotten to know each well and I don't want it to end.

What can I do to make sure this doesn't happen?

Reply 1

Blinkr

Original post

by Anonymous

It's really great that you've formed a new friendship and are enjoying it so much. It's completely normal to worry about whether it will last, especially with uni coming up, which is a huge intense change. The thing is we can't control everything that happens. We can influence it, but only to a certain degree. So, the friendship might change—it could get stronger despite the distance, or it might naturally fade a bit because of living far apart. That's okay. Friendships, even really good ones, are affected by our life circumstances.

It might be helpful to focus on staying connected with this person without putting too much pressure on either of you. Since they said "maybe" to meeting up, it might mean they're unsure/wary or busy. Friendships naturally evolve, but with uni coming up, you'll have loads of chances to meet new people in your course, societies (such an underrated way to meet new people!!), and events. Allow yourself to be open to these new possibilities too.

I hope this helps a bit. Good luck with uni, and I hope things go well with your friend, no matter what happens!