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Online dating problem

Hi I became interested in someone online. I feel a connection and felt happy when he messaged me. He told me liked me and then I didn't message for a week. I had a burn out at work. I dont even think its that. I dont know why I was like that . My friends have said to me that I deserve it and to move on. Is it worth finding him online or is that going to put him off.
This has happened twice before. We match and unmatched. Once he didn't get back to me but I think he was probably busy. Then he unmatched me once, I didn't recognise him on the street. He is good looking but I just was too sick that day! That's my luck lol
I am not sure how long to pursue this. I am happy to try again but someone people dont understand this type of thing. I wanted some advice. I am female older than him
I think it's a bit rude to disappear without letting them know at some point that that is something you do, to reassure them. They would obviously not know what you're thinking, be honest with the guy.
Reply 2
If you can locate him on social media then simply be direct.
Reply 3
Okay than you so much. I didnt mean it. I didnt know how to communicate online.I am really into him. I just wanted to check with you guys that this is def my fault. I I keep thinking if he liked me he might have sent me a message to check on me. I also am worried as hes cut me off that i might appear to be stalking. But i really like him, so i am thinking of pursuing it.
Original post by Anonymous
Hi I became interested in someone online. I feel a connection and felt happy when he messaged me. He told me liked me and then I didn't message for a week. I had a burn out at work. I dont even think its that. I dont know why I was like that . My friends have said to me that I deserve it and to move on. Is it worth finding him online or is that going to put him off.
This has happened twice before. We match and unmatched. Once he didn't get back to me but I think he was probably busy. Then he unmatched me once, I didn't recognise him on the street. He is good looking but I just was too sick that day! That's my luck lol
I am not sure how long to pursue this. I am happy to try again but someone people dont understand this type of thing. I wanted some advice. I am female older than him

Repeat with me, YOU DON’T REALLY KNOW THIS PERSON. it’s 1 person out of the many thousands on dating apps. You’ve gotta move on or shoot your shot when you have chance 🤷*♀️ definitely don’t track them down on other sites, if they wanted to be found on them they surely would have told you them?
Reply 5
I tried to match with him.but its not working. I know what you are thinking. but we told each other we liked each other a lot. I was sick then. It not someone I dont know at all, i have seen him around.
Reply 6
Hes not showing up on hinge where I can post messages. Hes upset. You only get upset when you like someone though.
Reply 7
This thread is another proof that looks are everything. Girls fall in love for handsome guys thanks to their looks, not personality. They fall in love at first sight without knowing the guy, so how can it be personality?
Original post by Rr600
This thread is another proof that looks are everything. Girls fall in love for handsome guys thanks to their looks, not personality. They fall in love at first sight without knowing the guy, so how can it be personality?

Sounding very judgy in an Incel way there. Looks play a significant part… why wouldn’t they? And they don’t fall in love at first sight that’s not real. And it’s likely that the guys are charismatic and actually know how to communicate with women in a healthy way.
Reply 9
yes not I liked how thoughtful he is. I think attraction matters. i dated a guy who I wasnt physically attracted to , he was hurt but he move on quickly. I dont seem to do that. I
have paid tinder plat and sent him a message but he will think i am a psycho now. f@** I dont know what to do. it would have been better to leave him alone

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