Employment barrister here, and outside of London whereas Blayze is in London, so very different sets and practices, but the answer is the same. When I was more junior I asked for advice all the time. I ask for it less frequently now, though still on occasion, and give it very regularly. This sort of thing, whether asking for advice, asking for thoughts on a particular situation, asking for views on particular opponents or experts etc is all very common. And no, no one charges anyone for anything. It's collegiate when you're dealing with other barristers. Most of it is on WhatsApp groups now. The same applies, incidentally, as and when you become a judge too. It's a much more collegiate environment that you would expect, and judges ask other judges for advice all the time too.
The actual atmosphere will vary from set to set, but it's much more relaxed for the most part than you likely expect it to be. Obviously when you start out everything can feel quite intimidating, much like any new workplace, but you'll likely quickly forge your own social group inside and outside chambers with others around your level of call and experience. And yes, there are drinks and socials. Again, it depends on the set you're in. There was a much more ingrained drinking culture in certain areas of practice and areas of the country, but that in my (admittedly quite limited) experience has fallen by the wayside recently not just because drinking heavily and regularly isn't the social draw that it used to be, but since Covid the nature of socialising has changed.