muslim dad doesn't want me to live on campus

I know muslim dads are protective over their daughters but he won't even let me get a job let alone live in a city for uni 50 minutes away with ppl idk. this uni would give ne the best chanced to get the future job I want but he won't care. what do I do 😭

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Amadeus129

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Original post by Anonymous

I know muslim dads are protective over their daughters but he won't even let me get a job let alone live in a city for uni 50 minutes away with ppl idk. this uni would give ne the best chanced to get the future job I want but he won't care. what do I do 😭

Salam

Trust for Muslim Parents is always a biggy. I am a guy and I wasn’t even allowed to have lunch at school. Home dinners every day in my teens (school was 10 Min walk So lunch half hour would be 10 mins). Uni wasn’t too bad but then again I went Not for a career but more to be with my herd of friends. Jobs expected to be home within 15 mins of shift ending.

It never changes but you have to reason with them and give them the Islamic perspective if that’s what they are worried about. Secondly explain times have changed and that you will have to work for 50 years so whether they dictate you getting a low paid and labour intensive job, or a skilled professional and well paid job that helps to ease your burden in the future is in their hands now. End with as my parents you are responsible for my future and will be accountable on judgement day if I have to struggle all My life lol

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Original post by Anonymous

I know muslim dads are protective over their daughters but he won't even let me get a job let alone live in a city for uni 50 minutes away with ppl idk. this uni would give ne the best chanced to get the future job I want but he won't care. what do I do 😭

Hey, I get it both my parents are insanely protective over me and it might seem overbearing but it's only because they are worried for you. Especially since you are a girl it makes them even more concerned as we are quite vulnerable. Living alone as a female and muslim is not exactly easy and is a risky choice so you could try figuring out a way that would work best with your dad and you, like someone could come with you?

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I7V

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Original post by Anonymous

I know muslim dads are protective over their daughters but he won't even let me get a job let alone live in a city for uni 50 minutes away with ppl idk. this uni would give ne the best chanced to get the future job I want but he won't care. what do I do 😭

Listen to your dad

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Original post by I7V

Listen to your dad

no way it's almost as if that's what I've already been doing

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username6742906

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Original post by Anonymous

no way it's almost as if that's what I've already been doing

Have you figured something out yet?

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Original post by ZainahK

Have you figured something out yet?

in the end I decided to just stay at home. I realise I am too young (I'm 17, will be 18 next year) and it's probably for the best to stay at home for uni. however in the future I may decide to pursue another degree, where I'll hopefully get the chance to live away from home as then I feel ill be more mature and my dad would hopefully be OK with me as a 21/22 year old (or even older) living away from home for the first time lol. thank you for your advice though!!

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