Boyfriends lads holiday in Amsterdam

*Opinions/advice* Long post!! TW- mentions drugs.

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and for the most part we get on really well… my family really like him and he can be very thoughtful. He’s recently arranged a lovely activity weekend for my birthday & also brought me some very thoughtful gifts. He visits me at university most weekends and never complains about the travel time/costs.

However, he’s currently in Amsterdam on a lads holiday (but there are also 3 girls there too). There are 14 of them who are all staying in a shared air B&B for the week. I’ve got to be honest I wasn’t thrilled when he said he was off to Amsterdam but I respected his choice to go and just asked that he didn’t go to the red light district as that makes me very uncomfortable to be honest, he’s been before and him and his friends watched live sex shows etc. I also don’t mind that he’s smoking weed there as he doesn’t usually smoke but I didn’t want him to do anything stupid… he’s smoked magic mushrooms (shrooms) which as far as I’m aware are a class a drug and he’s got them off someone he doesn’t know at all.

I’d mentioned both of these things before the trip and he completely dismissed my concerns and did both anyway. I’m also uncomfortable about the sleeping arrangements, they never organised who was staying in what room before going. None of his other friends are in relationships who are going…

He’s claiming he’s just in a room with 1 other boy but that really doesn’t add up. He said there’s 4 rooms with 3-4 beds in each… I have a feeling that he’s sharing with some of the girls too which is why he hasn’t said who he’s sharing with. I’m very uncomfortable with this as all 3 are single and I’ve never met any of them. He also only ever sleeps in boxers.

I’m feeling really quite upset this week, he’s barely messaged me since Sunday & when he has it’s just been to say he’s going to the RLD or smoking/‘chilling’. I’m not expecting to call or anything during the week but I would have appreciated a few more texts and a bit more honesty over the sleeping arrangements.

Am I being overly dramatic?

I was happy for him to go on holiday with his friends but I’m really not comfortable with him going to the RLD/sex shows etc, sharing a room with girls I’ve never met when he’s practically naked too & doing fairly hardcore drugs… 😔

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*Opinions/advice* Long post!! TW- mentions drugs.
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and for the most part we get on really well… my family really like him and he can be very thoughtful. He’s recently arranged a lovely activity weekend for my birthday & also brought me some very thoughtful gifts. He visits me at university most weekends and never complains about the travel time/costs.
However, he’s currently in Amsterdam on a lads holiday (but there are also 3 girls there too). There are 14 of them who are all staying in a shared air B&B for the week. I’ve got to be honest I wasn’t thrilled when he said he was off to Amsterdam but I respected his choice to go and just asked that he didn’t go to the red light district as that makes me very uncomfortable to be honest, he’s been before and him and his friends watched live sex shows etc. I also don’t mind that he’s smoking weed there as he doesn’t usually smoke but I didn’t want him to do anything stupid… he’s smoked magic mushrooms (shrooms) which as far as I’m aware are a class a drug and he’s got them off someone he doesn’t know at all.
I’d mentioned both of these things before the trip and he completely dismissed my concerns and did both anyway. I’m also uncomfortable about the sleeping arrangements, they never organised who was staying in what room before going. None of his other friends are in relationships who are going…
He’s claiming he’s just in a room with 1 other boy but that really doesn’t add up. He said there’s 4 rooms with 3-4 beds in each… I have a feeling that he’s sharing with some of the girls too which is why he hasn’t said who he’s sharing with. I’m very uncomfortable with this as all 3 are single and I’ve never met any of them. He also only ever sleeps in boxers.
I’m feeling really quite upset this week, he’s barely messaged me since Sunday & when he has it’s just been to say he’s going to the RLD or smoking/‘chilling’. I’m not expecting to call or anything during the week but I would have appreciated a few more texts and a bit more honesty over the sleeping arrangements.
Am I being overly dramatic?
I was happy for him to go on holiday with his friends but I’m really not comfortable with him going to the RLD/sex shows etc, sharing a room with girls I’ve never met when he’s practically naked too & doing fairly hardcore drugs… 😔

Hmm, I would be more concerned for his safety taking Mushrooms than the gIrls. To be honest ,you know, IF a nice guy is truly in love with you then he would be faithful to you, if he isn't in love then it i always there that they may be unfaithful for pure physical side.