I started my schools program on theatre and I love it, I recently got an ROR (Role of responsibility) which involves me touching a girls face and holding her hand. This is uncomfortable and she did not like it, I didn’t mind, but was being open minded thinking about what she wanted
I started my schools program on theatre and I love it, I recently got an ROR (Role of responsibility) which involves me touching a girls face and holding her hand. This is uncomfortable and she did not like it, I didn’t mind, but was being open minded thinking about what she wanted
You saying that about touching her face, I don't know what really possessed me, but I really started exploring by hand the face af a young lady I know .All over face and lips everywhere ,I just find her so fascinating. I have never been like that before I just love it and she is so beautiful, her skin so soft. I wonder where it came from in me ,as I say it is a new one to me.
I started my schools program on theatre and I love it, I recently got an ROR (Role of responsibility) which involves me touching a girls face and holding her hand. This is uncomfortable and she did not like it, I didn’t mind, but was being open minded thinking about what she wanted
If the programs required actions are making her uncomfortable, then you need to let whoever is in charge know about it, and let them make a decision of what is & isn't an appropriate way forward. Obviously no one should be forced to do anything they're not OK with. Is this level of contact really necessary, or can a compromise be reached?
Does anyone know how to help me be more confident, oh and btw she’s taller than me
You need to be sure you're asking the right sort of questions. People in your case always ask "How can I get confident?" instead of "Why am I not confident?"
Someone's self-confidence is a complex product of their i) their innate personality ii) the life they've lived in the past and iii) the challenges they're facing now and in the future. I'll try and explain with these two guys... both in their prime (i.e. aged 22-23)
Mark:- Graduated from a "Good" university with a 2:1 in Banking and Finance; got a fast-track management program with a well known high street bank; got his own apartment in the city centre; drives a year old Audi TT; often described as good looking and keeps himself fit by going to the gym twice a week (plus a 10K run on Sundays); he has a cool set of friends whom he's formed an amateur 5 aside footy team with; However, despite all of this, he's still an insecure and anxious person
Dave:- Got expelled from school at aged 15; lives in a council flat with his mum; never done a days work in his life and he gets by on benefits (plus he sells a "bit of weed" to his mates); drives a 25 year old Ford Fiesta (without tax, insurance, MOT etc.); he's got a really bad BO problem and he's8 stone overweight and is known as (That Fat T**t round his estate); already got an ASBO (and another case pending)… still, none of this stops him from coming across as the most confident guy on the planet.
Is it really so crazy Dave should be far more confident than Mark?!? You COULD argue Mark has had significantly higher standards than Dave, so is far more likely to experience anxiety and uncertainty in his life.
And that's the approach you need to take. You need to figure out why you're feeling nervous anxious etc. Then come up with a plan to tackle those issues. People may suggest going to the gym... and that will work if you know or suspect it's your health or physical appearance that's causing the problem. However, if that's not the issue (e.g. social skills, finances etc.) going to the gym isn't going to help much.
As for this girl specifically, you can't make someone fall for you, if the raw attraction isn't already there. Physical attraction isn't a science, so there's often no logic to how / why we like the things we do. If there's multiple layers to your attraction, then there's a chance she may start to like you based on what she learns about you... but this is purely by chance, and I wouldn't advise counting on this to work. Instead, find out what your unique points are (what makes you stand out?) and work on projecting those traits. Then the right person for you will make themselves known to you.
Hi, It sounds like you're asking two separate things here, I'll try and consider them separately. If the programs required actions are making her uncomfortable, then you need to let whoever is in charge know about it, and let them make a decision of what is & isn't an appropriate way forward. Obviously no one should be forced to do anything they're not OK with. Is this level of contact really necessary, or can a compromise be reached? You need to be sure you're asking the right sort of questions. People in your case always ask "How can I get confident?" instead of "Why am I not confident?" Someone's self-confidence is a complex product of their i) their innate personality ii) the life they've lived in the past and iii) the challenges they're facing now and in the future. I'll try and explain with these two guys... both in their prime (i.e. aged 22-23) Mark:- Graduated from a "Good" university with a 2:1 in Banking and Finance; got a fast-track management program with a well known high street bank; got his own apartment in the city centre; drives a year old Audi TT; often described as good looking and keeps himself fit by going to the gym twice a week (plus a 10K run on Sundays); he has a cool set of friends whom he's formed an amateur 5 aside footy team with; However, despite all of this, he's still an insecure and anxious person Dave:- Got expelled from school at aged 15; lives in a council flat with his mum; never done a days work in his life and he gets by on benefits (plus he sells a "bit of weed" to his mates); drives a 25 year old Ford Fiesta (without tax, insurance, MOT etc.); he's got a really bad BO problem and he's8 stone overweight and is known as (That Fat T**t round his estate); already got an ASBO (and another case pending)… still, none of this stops him from coming across as the most confident guy on the planet. Is it really so crazy Dave should be far more confident than Mark?!? You COULD argue Mark has had significantly higher standards than Dave, so is far more likely to experience anxiety and uncertainty in his life. And that's the approach you need to take. You need to figure out why you're feeling nervous anxious etc. Then come up with a plan to tackle those issues. People may suggest going to the gym... and that will work if you know or suspect it's your health or physical appearance that's causing the problem. However, if that's not the issue (e.g. social skills, finances etc.) going to the gym isn't going to help much. As for this girl specifically, you can't make someone fall for you, if the raw attraction isn't already there. Physical attraction isn't a science, so there's often no logic to how / why we like the things we do. If there's multiple layers to your attraction, then there's a chance she may start to like you based on what she learns about you... but this is purely by chance, and I wouldn't advise counting on this to work. Instead, find out what your unique points are (what makes you stand out?) and work on projecting those traits. Then the right person for you will make themselves known to you.
and he's8 stone overweight and is known as (That Fat T**t round his estate); already got an ASBO (and another case pending)… still, none of this stops him from coming across as the most confident guy on the planet.
I knew that very same guy (shout out to Nigel ,lol !!) He used to get soooo many girls ,yet honestly he was nothing to look at and was what I would call "larger than most ppl" etc . You know the strongest thing you possess ?. It 100% is YOUR MIND !!! Really amazin but forget muscle it is the Brain which can win hands down. 95% on it works subconciously (you dont know it is) and 5% is concious which you are aware of. That is why hypnotists target and plant "seeds" of ideas etc in the subconcious because that then passes to the concious.
and he's8 stone overweight and is known as (That Fat T**t round his estate); already got an ASBO (and another case pending)… still, none of this stops him from coming across as the most confident guy on the planet. I knew that very same guy (shout out to Nigel ,lol !!) He used to get soooo many girls ,yet honestly he was nothing to look at and was what I would call "larger than most ppl" etc . You know the strongest thing you possess ?. It 100% is YOUR MIND !!! Really amazin but forget muscle it is the Brain which can win hands down. 95% on it works subconciously (you dont know it is) and 5% is concious which you are aware of. That is why hypnotists target and plant "seeds" of ideas etc in the subconcious because that then passes to the concious.
Shouldn't it be "Oi oi" or "Wa gwan, big man" to Nigel? lol
Although I agree about the "mind over matter" bit, be careful about recommending hypnotherapy to people (especially given the probable age of the OP). It can work really well for some people, but less so for others... also, it's not without it's own risks / drawbacks.