I doubt I will make uni friends
All my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same
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Hi anon!
I'm about to go into my third year of uni, and while I don't have a huge friend group I have a good group of close friends, but I was very much in your position when I started! I was remote learning for sixth form so didn't know anyone going to my uni and am also into k-pop and reading alongside other things like rock/metal music and creative writing. Surprisingly, my two best friends are really into k-pop, anime and genshin so there are definitely people out there who like it!! It's true that not all my friends are into the exact same things as I am, but a good thing about university is that most unis have a really wide range of societies for most interests, and in my experience they are great places to make friends! For instance, my uni has a rock/metal music society so I joined that in my first year and met so many people who share my music taste -- and this past year I made friends with a younger student who joined and we now talk on an almost daily basis because we have several interests in common! We do also have a k-pop and I believe an anime society, and I think a book club, so it's definitely worth checking out the student union page which should have a list of societies you can join. And usually societies are pretty chill, so there's no requirement to go every week or to every event, you can just go when you feel like!
I'm not going to say that making friends at uni is super easy, because it took me maybe two months to really talk to anyone outside of my flatmates (social awkwardness for the win, lol), and there are still some interests I don't talk about with my friends as I'm the only one into that thing. But the good thing about uni is that because people come from all over the country and the world, there's such a diverse range of people and interests that it's a very high chance you'll find someone you share interests with!
I hope this helps, and good luck with starting uni!
I'm about to go into my third year of uni, and while I don't have a huge friend group I have a good group of close friends, but I was very much in your position when I started! I was remote learning for sixth form so didn't know anyone going to my uni and am also into k-pop and reading alongside other things like rock/metal music and creative writing. Surprisingly, my two best friends are really into k-pop, anime and genshin so there are definitely people out there who like it!! It's true that not all my friends are into the exact same things as I am, but a good thing about university is that most unis have a really wide range of societies for most interests, and in my experience they are great places to make friends! For instance, my uni has a rock/metal music society so I joined that in my first year and met so many people who share my music taste -- and this past year I made friends with a younger student who joined and we now talk on an almost daily basis because we have several interests in common! We do also have a k-pop and I believe an anime society, and I think a book club, so it's definitely worth checking out the student union page which should have a list of societies you can join. And usually societies are pretty chill, so there's no requirement to go every week or to every event, you can just go when you feel like!
I'm not going to say that making friends at uni is super easy, because it took me maybe two months to really talk to anyone outside of my flatmates (social awkwardness for the win, lol), and there are still some interests I don't talk about with my friends as I'm the only one into that thing. But the good thing about uni is that because people come from all over the country and the world, there's such a diverse range of people and interests that it's a very high chance you'll find someone you share interests with!
I hope this helps, and good luck with starting uni!
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by AnonymousAll my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same
Hi there!
I know its easier said than done but you will definitely make friends at uni. I felt exactly the same and as someone who can be quite shy I wasn't ready to put myself out there so to speak. But there are so many opportunities to meet people outside of your course and flat mates! I would definitely recommend joining some societies. Most universities will have a list you can view before you join or reach out to the universities SU to see what societies they have. It might be a bit scary to join those societies but once you do you'll definitely find people like you.
I hope this helps!
Daisy- Graduate Advocate 🙂
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by AnonymousAll my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same
You have had some great answers so far! You will 100% make friends at university. The first reason is there is so many people, so there is bound to be others with the same interested. The second reason is societies. Personally I'm in the gaming society where I've met loads of like-minded people and it's an excellent way to make friends. If you wanted to you may even be able to create your own society!
There is always people looking to make friends and there is so many other people feeling the exact same way you are. Hopefully this response and the others on here can reduce your anxiety about making friends. 🙂
I hope this helped, please feel free to ask me any question,
-Sophia (Business and Management)
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by AnonymousAll my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same
Hey! How are you?
Fellow Alice in Borderland fan here 👋 - patiently waiting for a new season..
Like the other great advice below, you will be able to join societies to meet people with similar interests! I'd recommend checking out the student union webpage on your uni's website to find if there's any clubs and societies you'd be interested in, maybe there's ones around kpop, anime, reading etc. And if not, you can start your own! 🙂
You might meet people with similar interests to you on your course, at freshers events, if you got involved with any volunteering work or became a student ambassador for example - these are all great ways to meet new people and hopefully be a way to make some wonderful friends.
Which course will you be studying at university? I hope you have the best time and enjoy your course and the student life! Good luck
Becky
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by AnonymousAll my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same
Congrats on getting into uni 
For what it's worth I found uni much easier to make friends - not to mention there are looaaads of opportunities e.g. flatmates, on your course, societies, via part time jobs, etc etc
I also found uni had more societies/clubs to offer students compared to sixth form college and more people were likely to go to them as well which helped.Reply 6
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by AnonymousAll my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same
Yo, literally in the same boat as you whereas a majority of my bonding with friends involves taking on and talking about their interests since mine aren't so popular with most people which like you said the bad rep is fair enough lol. Go to brighton uni unfortunately but we're practically neighbours. How has the last 2 months been for you, find any good friends?
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by XeroheroYo, literally in the same boat as you whereas a majority of my bonding with friends involves taking on and talking about their interests since mine aren't so popular with most people which like you said the bad rep is fair enough lol. Go to brighton uni unfortunately but we're practically neighbours. How has the last 2 months been for you, find any good friends?
How about you? How have you been doing?
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by AnonymousThe last 2 months have been okay - I met some people and I sit with them in lectures. idk whether or not to call them friends tho, we're more acquaintances. I keep trying to hang out with them outside of lectures but they're just busy - whether this is a cover up or not idk lol. My flatmates are like 5 years older than me, but they're nice but we're not exactly friends either. I think I have 1 friend but then again, we dont have that much in common. I keep seeing my friends in other unis where they have like a friend group of 8 - im so jealous. It's not exaclty lonely but rather I'm very bored on my own.
How about you? How have you been doing?
How about you? How have you been doing?
Hi there,
Sorry to hear you are feeing like this at uni. It is really tricky when you don't feel like you have made friends straight away at uni and I understand how you are feeling.
Have you tried joining any societies? You have probably heard this before but I think they are great ways of making friends as you meet so many people doing this and they all have a common interest with you which is nice and can make for a good conversation starter. It might be a good idea to have a look into this and see if there are any at your uni which you are interested in as they are fun and good ways to meet people.
It's hard when you don't make good friends with your flatmates - it's so random how you get put together and not everyone makes good friends with their flatmates. Have you tried seeing if you meet anyone else around the building e.g. in the social areas or if your building puts any events on you might meet some people this way too. I met a few people doing this in my first year of uni so it might be worth a try.
I would also have a look and see if your SU puts any events on that you could go to as these are often fun and good ways of meeting lots of new people. The events they put on are often good fun too and range from things such as coffee trips or days out to other cities. It's worth a look as you might enjoy it.
Social media is also a great way of meeting people. Have a look on Facebook and see if there are any groups for your uni as you might meet some people by doing this. There is quite often groups for different universities and people tend to talk in there fairly often so you might meet some people this way too.
It's good that you have tried with the people on your course- maybe with deadlines coming up they might want to go to the library with you? It's worth asking just in case they want to!
I hope things get better for you at uni soon,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador.
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Hi there!
Going to university can be scary. It's a whole new way of life and a chance to really take charge of your future. But it doesn't have to be scary 😊. There will be many like minded people on your course, in halls (should you choose to live in halls) and societies within a student union! Whilst I cannot speak for other universities, Hull University Students Union has a lot of societies that may give you a rough idea of what other universities unions have to offer. The point being, is that there's something for everyone wherever you go.
Before I started university, I made a conscious effort to join groups related to my academic year on social media sites, stating what course I was doing and some of my interests. This got me talking to some like-minded people and gave me a chance to speak to some of the students who would be on my course. It calmed my nerves knowing I had already met some students virtually and made that in person meet a little less daunting.
Don't worry, you've got this! 😎
Going to university can be scary. It's a whole new way of life and a chance to really take charge of your future. But it doesn't have to be scary 😊. There will be many like minded people on your course, in halls (should you choose to live in halls) and societies within a student union! Whilst I cannot speak for other universities, Hull University Students Union has a lot of societies that may give you a rough idea of what other universities unions have to offer. The point being, is that there's something for everyone wherever you go.
Before I started university, I made a conscious effort to join groups related to my academic year on social media sites, stating what course I was doing and some of my interests. This got me talking to some like-minded people and gave me a chance to speak to some of the students who would be on my course. It calmed my nerves knowing I had already met some students virtually and made that in person meet a little less daunting.
Don't worry, you've got this! 😎
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by AnonymousAll my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same
Hi there,
It’s completely understandable to feel like it’s hard to find people who share your interests, but university can be a fresh start! At your University you'll have access to a wide variety of clubs and societies that cater to diverse hobbies and passions. There will be societies for anime, gaming, and even K-pop, so you're definitely not alone in your interests. The Students' Union (SU) organizes regular events and activities that bring people together, from social nights to themed events, providing a great opportunity to meet like-minded people. Don’t hesitate to explore these groups and events—it’s all about finding the right community. You’ll discover that many students are open to discussing unique hobbies, so just be yourself, and you’ll connect with others who appreciate your passions!
Thanks & Reagrds,
Coventry University Student Ambassador
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by AnonymousThe last 2 months have been okay - I met some people and I sit with them in lectures. idk whether or not to call them friends tho, we're more acquaintances. I keep trying to hang out with them outside of lectures but they're just busy - whether this is a cover up or not idk lol. My flatmates are like 5 years older than me, but they're nice but we're not exactly friends either. I think I have 1 friend but then again, we dont have that much in common. I keep seeing my friends in other unis where they have like a friend group of 8 - im so jealous. It's not exaclty lonely but rather I'm very bored on my own.
How about you? How have you been doing?
How about you? How have you been doing?
omg I completely forgot about this website, I apologise sob. Hope your first year of Uni ended smoothly! Personally, never found my own people, had people I sat with but ,as you've said, they are more so acquaintances - did try reaching out to them in the summer but no response but yeahhhh. I'll be trying to aim to go to any freshers events this year but fingers cross second year is better c:
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by Xeroheroomg I completely forgot about this website, I apologise sob. Hope your first year of Uni ended smoothly! Personally, never found my own people, had people I sat with but ,as you've said, they are more so acquaintances - did try reaching out to them in the summer but no response but yeahhhh. I'll be trying to aim to go to any freshers events this year but fingers cross second year is better c:
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I know this post is from a while ago, but I just wanted to reassure anyone who feels the same. First year is all about meeting new people, and there’s always time to find genuine friends. I actually didn’t meet my best friend until my third year!
Try joining a society or two, or even inviting coursemates or acquaintances to something fun and easy-going, like bowling, mini golf, or an arcade. Taking the initiative can really help with making friends. I also met some great people through campus jobs, like working as a student ambassador or at the student union.
If you can’t find a society that matches your interests, you could even start one — there are almost always like-minded people out there, it just takes a bit of time to find them.
Megan (LJMU Rep)
Try joining a society or two, or even inviting coursemates or acquaintances to something fun and easy-going, like bowling, mini golf, or an arcade. Taking the initiative can really help with making friends. I also met some great people through campus jobs, like working as a student ambassador or at the student union.
If you can’t find a society that matches your interests, you could even start one — there are almost always like-minded people out there, it just takes a bit of time to find them.
Megan (LJMU Rep)
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by AnonymousAll my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same
First of all, I love Alice in Borderland. Arisu and Usagi were my favourites. I do not think it is weird that you have those interests.
You seem to have taken yourself out of the picture because you think that others wont have your interests to be good enough but that’s not true. At uni, the landscape is wider and there are clubs and societies for your interests
My suggestion is to be open minded and look for those clubs and societies that align to your interests. Also consider joining cultural societies like Korean or Japanese societies.
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by Wired_1800First of all, I love Alice in Borderland. Arisu and Usagi were my favourites. I do not think it is weird that you have those interests.
You seem to have taken yourself out of the picture because you think that others wont have your interests to be good enough but that’s not true. At uni, the landscape is wider and there are clubs and societies for your interests
My suggestion is to be open minded and look for those clubs and societies that align to your interests. Also consider joining cultural societies like Korean or Japanese societies.
You seem to have taken yourself out of the picture because you think that others wont have your interests to be good enough but that’s not true. At uni, the landscape is wider and there are clubs and societies for your interests
My suggestion is to be open minded and look for those clubs and societies that align to your interests. Also consider joining cultural societies like Korean or Japanese societies.
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by AnonymousI'm not korean or japanese - can I still join those soceities or is it inappropriate?
I think it is appropriate but some societies often expect connections to Korea or Japan.
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by Wired_1800I think it is appropriate but some societies often expect connections to Korea or Japan.
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by AnonymousAll my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same
Hi @Anonymous 👋
First of all I just wanted to say don't stress or worry about it! University is a big step and friends is a big part of it. It takes time to make friends and that is OK.
When I joined Essex last year, I had some doubts about friends and having to make new friends which scared me a bit. When I arrived though my roommates were amazing and we all had different interests and subjects but we still were able to be friends. In my course as well, I clicked with someone on the first day and slowly by the end of the year I was friends with many people who didn't have the same interests as me 🙂
Liking stuff like anime and kpop and reading is not weird because there are plenty of people who are interested in that stuff 📔 Everyone there will be nervous about making friends as well so sometimes it helps to step up and confront someone first even with asking a simple question like why did they choose that course or even just a simple do they live on campus 🏠
So please dont worry so much as I assure you that it takes time to make friends and you have time and its good to find real friends who will stick by you later rather than fake friends earlier 😊
Essex Student Rep - Lavanya 💜
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by AnonymousAll my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same
Heyy, I just wanted to say that when I read your post, I feel like we could be very very great friends, especially that I'm a big kpop fan, read books, watch a lot of shows (particularly kdramas lol) and an alice in borderland fan here too. I hope we go to the same uni in the future!!
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