I doubt I will make uni friends

All my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same

Reply 1

cyberhex

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Hi anon!

I'm about to go into my third year of uni, and while I don't have a huge friend group I have a good group of close friends, but I was very much in your position when I started! I was remote learning for sixth form so didn't know anyone going to my uni and am also into k-pop and reading alongside other things like rock/metal music and creative writing. Surprisingly, my two best friends are really into k-pop, anime and genshin so there are definitely people out there who like it!! It's true that not all my friends are into the exact same things as I am, but a good thing about university is that most unis have a really wide range of societies for most interests, and in my experience they are great places to make friends! For instance, my uni has a rock/metal music society so I joined that in my first year and met so many people who share my music taste -- and this past year I made friends with a younger student who joined and we now talk on an almost daily basis because we have several interests in common! We do also have a k-pop and I believe an anime society, and I think a book club, so it's definitely worth checking out the student union page which should have a list of societies you can join. And usually societies are pretty chill, so there's no requirement to go every week or to every event, you can just go when you feel like!

I'm not going to say that making friends at uni is super easy, because it took me maybe two months to really talk to anyone outside of my flatmates (social awkwardness for the win, lol), and there are still some interests I don't talk about with my friends as I'm the only one into that thing. But the good thing about uni is that because people come from all over the country and the world, there's such a diverse range of people and interests that it's a very high chance you'll find someone you share interests with!

I hope this helps, and good luck with starting uni! :smile:

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Liverpool Hope University

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Original post by Anonymous

All my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same

Hi there!

I know its easier said than done but you will definitely make friends at uni. I felt exactly the same and as someone who can be quite shy I wasn't ready to put myself out there so to speak. But there are so many opportunities to meet people outside of your course and flat mates! I would definitely recommend joining some societies. Most universities will have a list you can view before you join or reach out to the universities SU to see what societies they have. It might be a bit scary to join those societies but once you do you'll definitely find people like you.

I hope this helps!
Daisy- Graduate Advocate 🙂

Original post by Anonymous

All my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same

Hi Anon,

You have had some great answers so far! You will 100% make friends at university. The first reason is there is so many people, so there is bound to be others with the same interested. The second reason is societies. Personally I'm in the gaming society where I've met loads of like-minded people and it's an excellent way to make friends. If you wanted to you may even be able to create your own society!

There is always people looking to make friends and there is so many other people feeling the exact same way you are. Hopefully this response and the others on here can reduce your anxiety about making friends. 🙂

I hope this helped, please feel free to ask me any question,
-Sophia (Business and Management)

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University of Bradford

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Original post by Anonymous

All my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same

Hey! How are you? :smile:

Fellow Alice in Borderland fan here 👋 - patiently waiting for a new season..

Like the other great advice below, you will be able to join societies to meet people with similar interests! I'd recommend checking out the student union webpage on your uni's website to find if there's any clubs and societies you'd be interested in, maybe there's ones around kpop, anime, reading etc. And if not, you can start your own! 🙂

You might meet people with similar interests to you on your course, at freshers events, if you got involved with any volunteering work or became a student ambassador for example - these are all great ways to meet new people and hopefully be a way to make some wonderful friends.

Which course will you be studying at university? I hope you have the best time and enjoy your course and the student life! Good luck :smile:

Becky

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Chronoscope

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Original post by Anonymous

All my friends make friends so easily and I swear everyone around me has either the same hobbies, same music taste(or just entertainment taste) and same goals/dreams that they can all bond over. Even in sixthform, despite having friends, I never felt like I met someone I could talk to abt anything I liked. So in the end, I pretty much just gave up talking about literally anything about myself and I just listen and ask people questions instead. I’m going to sussex. I like stuff like kpop, anime, reading, genshin, watching shows like alice in borderland or just physiological stuff in general. But no one around me does. I know the stuff I just said has a pretty bad rap and there is a reason why it’s hated. Some people are just weird abt it but I swear i’m not, i’m just a normal person. I’m not obvious abt liking these things either. I hope uni is the same

Congrats on getting into uni :woo:

For what it's worth I found uni much easier to make friends - not to mention there are looaaads of opportunities e.g. flatmates, on your course, societies, via part time jobs, etc etc :smile:

I also found uni had more societies/clubs to offer students compared to sixth form college and more people were likely to go to them as well which helped.

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