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This embarrassing online friendship thats now in real life at school

so my online friend of 3 years and i now attend the same college and class we talked for about 4 months after we met then THEY left me on opened and didnt reach out, stopped smiling at me and acted as if we were strangers
i didnt know what to do so i went along with it but its still something i think about like are they embarrassed of being associated with me? idk
we still have each other on socials and interact on there occassionally
when we were online frds we were rlly close and knew a lot abt each other and both of us were awkward yes they did try and reach out but i was not in a good place to have the effort to work on this frdship therefore i definitely did not work on it the first few months but then to be cut off and especially when this person was friends with people from my old school who i never really interacted with but it was likely misinfo would spread. I dont know how to think abt this and ill be going back to college soon, does anyone have any thoughts

Reply 1

RandomPerson317

Maybe try talk to them privately? Ask them these questions and say they have been bugging you. Be careful with your words and expect anything you tell them to spread as gossip. If you're reaching out on socials, ask them if you can call because it allows you to be more transparent than in text where things could either be misinterpreted or used out of context against you later.

Direct communication is always better than being paranoid and feeling jittery around them constantly - it's also better for your friendship in the long term. Good Luck!

Reply 2

Forlornsoul

I'd say they want to know you like an acquaintance, hence the sporadic messaging
However I wouldn't expect a deep friendship with them

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Original post by RandomPerson317

Maybe try talk to them privately? Ask them these questions and say they have been bugging you. Be careful with your words and expect anything you tell them to spread as gossip. If you're reaching out on socials, ask them if you can call because it allows you to be more transparent than in text where things could either be misinterpreted or used out of context against you later.
Direct communication is always better than being paranoid and feeling jittery around them constantly - it's also better for your friendship in the long term. Good Luck!

why did u say xpect something to spread more as gossip

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Original post by RandomPerson317

Maybe try talk to them privately? Ask them these questions and say they have been bugging you. Be careful with your words and expect anything you tell them to spread as gossip. If you're reaching out on socials, ask them if you can call because it allows you to be more transparent than in text where things could either be misinterpreted or used out of context against you later.
Direct communication is always better than being paranoid and feeling jittery around them constantly - it's also better for your friendship in the long term. Good Luck!

i dont really call anyone haha and i dont really want to reach out because idk i dont feel like i did anything wrong or to be ashamed of and if things did get too awkward i'd at least expect them to reach out and tell me but yep i dont expect it to develop or any long term thing

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Original post by Forlornsoul

I'd say they want to know you like an acquaintance, hence the sporadic messaging
However I wouldn't expect a deep friendship with them

sometimes i just feel like they hate me or dont like me i mean to go from giving someone smiles everytime u see them to just completely not addressing them at all is a bit SAD but we never even had any arguments etc so anything that happened wasnt to do with my part. Now to be in class with them again its a bit uncomfortable i mean i dont know what to do but this year i just didnt focus on it

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by RandomPerson317

Maybe try talk to them privately? Ask them these questions and say they have been bugging you. Be careful with your words and expect anything you tell them to spread as gossip. If you're reaching out on socials, ask them if you can call because it allows you to be more transparent than in text where things could either be misinterpreted or used out of context against you later.
Direct communication is always better than being paranoid and feeling jittery around them constantly - it's also better for your friendship in the long term. Good Luck!

Do you think its better to perhaps ask my class teacher to put me next to someone i feel comfortable with this year

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Original post by RandomPerson317

Maybe try talk to them privately? Ask them these questions and say they have been bugging you. Be careful with your words and expect anything you tell them to spread as gossip. If you're reaching out on socials, ask them if you can call because it allows you to be more transparent than in text where things could either be misinterpreted or used out of context against you later.
Direct communication is always better than being paranoid and feeling jittery around them constantly - it's also better for your friendship in the long term. Good Luck!

would it not be better to instead communicate with my class teacher and ask her that due to past experiences i have personal preferences of seating plan so im not anywhere near them if it helps