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Is it possible to be a "Father figure" ,and I mean really ?

Is there such a demand for a "Father Figure", and I seriously do not mean a sexual thing AT ALL. Would it not be great for a Man who has no children to be able to assume "a" role that would then be good for both parties ?. The "adoptee" would need to be upwards of 16 to avoid red tape, but any upward age. Then reason I ask is that I am great friends with someone who is 23 and it really works well.

Any ideas ?.
"I am great friends with someone who is 23"

That's a phrase that instinctively makes me ask how old you are?

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by 04MR17
"I am great friends with someone who is 23"
That's a phrase that instinctively makes me ask how old you are?

and that is a question that instinctively makes me say "mind your own busines" lol.
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by Anonymous
and that is a question that instinctively makes me say "mind your own busines" lol.

I'm going to assume your curt reply was just a way for you to avoid the question.

To go back to one of your several questions:
Would it not be great for a Man who has no children to be able to assume "a" role that would then be good for both parties ?

I'm not sure whether you're asking for approval on an existing relationship of this nature or whether you're suggesting society should take this as a wholesale idea to give every kid in need a father figure. However, I can't see the second thing as being particular feasible and I can't see society being okay with any of this due to (unfortunately) the long history of creepy men doing dodgy stuff.
I'm pretty sure this already exists. I've seen invitations on volunteering portals for role model type figures to meet regularly with younger people.

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by 04MR17
I'm going to assume your curt reply was just a way for you to avoid the question.
To go back to one of your several questions:
Would it not be great for a Man who has no children to be able to assume "a" role that would then be good for both parties ?
I'm not sure whether you're asking for approval on an existing relationship of this nature or whether you're suggesting society should take this as a wholesale idea to give every kid in need a father figure. However, I can't see the second thing as being particular feasible and I can't see society being okay with any of this due to (unfortunately) the long history of creepy men doing dodgy stuff.

And your type of troll, yes I have seen before as well.

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by 04MR17
I'm going to assume your curt reply was just a way for you to avoid the question.
To go back to one of your several questions:
Would it not be great for a Man who has no children to be able to assume "a" role that would then be good for both parties ?
I'm not sure whether you're asking for approval on an existing relationship of this nature or whether you're suggesting society should take this as a wholesale idea to give every kid in need a father figure. However, I can't see the second thing as being particular feasible and I can't see society being okay with any of this due to (unfortunately) the long history of creepy men doing dodgy stuff.

Oh and as creepy stuff, then that must apply to any man going out with any owman , Yes ?. What is difference there then.
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by Anonymous
And your type of troll, yes I have seen before as well.

Pardon?

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by Anonymous
Is there such a demand for a "Father Figure", and I seriously do not mean a sexual thing AT ALL. Would it not be great for a Man who has no children to be able to assume "a" role that would then be good for both parties ?. The "adoptee" would need to be upwards of 16 to avoid red tape, but any upward age. Then reason I ask is that I am great friends with someone who is 23 and it really works well.
Any ideas ?.

So how much experience of fatherhood does the 23yo have? They may be a friend, a role model, a mentor, but I doubt a father figure.

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by Surnia
So how much experience of fatherhood does the 23yo have? They may be a friend, a role model, a mentor, but I doubt a father figure.

None, she is the adoptee apparently.

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by Anonymous
None, she is the adoptee apparently.

So you're friends with a woman who you think was adopted and that got you asking about childless men being father figures? How did you make that leap?

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