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How to make it stop hurting

I can’t stop crying. I have a tough home life, i’ve grown up poor and around y10 my dad got really ill and is now bed bound, I always wanted to become a doctor and I work very hard, I was achieving As all throughout college however I went through a lot during A levels and missed my medicine offer , I’ve considered resitting but have decided to give up on medicine and do a chemistry degree instead as I’m exhausted.

I’ve been dealing with **** at home and my A level results I’m feeling overwhelmed as my theory test is tomorrow and I have to take a train early in the morning but i’ve never been on a train before and i’m scared and i’m scared to spend around 20pounds on the train ticket and then not even pass my theory

I cant stop crying I feel so trapped and like a failure. Does it ever stop hurting? I cant see a future where i’ll be happy because of how toxic my family is and I hate being alone and now my friends will go to diff unis and places and i’ll be completely and utterly alone again(im not living out at uni cause of my dads health)
It's really understandable that you're hurting and feeling overwhelmed. You're working so hard to help your dad and it sounds like you did as well as you could in your A levels, despite everything that was going on. Going on a train for the first time for something you care about sounds really hard, try to take it one step at a time and remember that there will be people around to ask for help if you need it.

We hear that you're struggling to see a future where you'll be happy. If you're having thoughts about suicide we can support you to find a way to stay safe, so don't hesitate to reach out to us via any of the ways listed on our website - https://www.papyrus-uk.org/
Original post by Anonymous
I can’t stop crying. I have a tough home life, i’ve grown up poor and around y10 my dad got really ill and is now bed bound, I always wanted to become a doctor and I work very hard, I was achieving As all throughout college however I went through a lot during A levels and missed my medicine offer , I’ve considered resitting but have decided to give up on medicine and do a chemistry degree instead as I’m exhausted.

I’ve been dealing with **** at home and my A level results I’m feeling overwhelmed as my theory test is tomorrow and I have to take a train early in the morning but i’ve never been on a train before and i’m scared and i’m scared to spend around 20pounds on the train ticket and then not even pass my theory

I cant stop crying I feel so trapped and like a failure. Does it ever stop hurting? I cant see a future where i’ll be happy because of how toxic my family is and I hate being alone and now my friends will go to diff unis and places and i’ll be completely and utterly alone again(im not living out at uni cause of my dads health)

As Papyrus said, it is understandable you are feeling overwhelmed- I really hope you managed to make it to your theory test/it went ok (although if it didn't go well, remember it is something you can try again when you're feeling in a better place)
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Original post by PileaP
As Papyrus said, it is understandable you are feeling overwhelmed- I really hope you managed to make it to your theory test/it went ok (although if it didn't go well, remember it is something you can try again when you're feeling in a better place)


I failed my theory. I feel so lost I still can’t stop crying i’ve tried asking my teachers for advice but they keep ignoring my emails
Do your college/6th form have any pastoral support? It could be good to reach out to the designated safeguarding lead there and let them know how you are feeling- they may be able to help you to access support for your mental health. Another option could be to go to your GP. This service may also be good for you to have a look at: SHOUT
Original post by Anonymous
I can’t stop crying. I have a tough home life, i’ve grown up poor and around y10 my dad got really ill and is now bed bound, I always wanted to become a doctor and I work very hard, I was achieving As all throughout college however I went through a lot during A levels and missed my medicine offer , I’ve considered resitting but have decided to give up on medicine and do a chemistry degree instead as I’m exhausted.
I’ve been dealing with **** at home and my A level results I’m feeling overwhelmed as my theory test is tomorrow and I have to take a train early in the morning but i’ve never been on a train before and i’m scared and i’m scared to spend around 20pounds on the train ticket and then not even pass my theory
I cant stop crying I feel so trapped and like a failure. Does it ever stop hurting? I cant see a future where i’ll be happy because of how toxic my family is and I hate being alone and now my friends will go to diff unis and places and i’ll be completely and utterly alone again(im not living out at uni cause of my dads health)

I feel you - sometimes life can be cruel…very cruel… i want to let you know that you are being very brave and strong… it takes a lot of strength to deal with lifes hardship s. I can’t imagine how hard things have been for you. I truly believe that you are NOT a faliure- you are very brave and you are still trying… and your best will always be enough…i cant say for certain when but one day it will get better- maybe not completely you might still hurt sometimes…but one day you will get there… i know it is easier to say these things but while i may have a different life than you i have struggled…i still do… last summer my father’s kidneys failed and he got diagnosed with renal faliure and has dialysis to keep him alive…his health keeps deteriorating…. And then this summer my family became homeless…mwe lost our home.. it was quite traumatic…. And no services helped at all… im now living with relatives…I’ve struggled with my mental health for 3 years…almost 4… i am not saying this for sympathy but to perhaps show you one you are not alone and 2 you are very brave and life can become very hard…

I am proud of you and hope things improve and that you find happiness, peace and success…

Im am going into yr 11…so there may be a small age gap but im always here for you should you want to talk to me….because feeling alone and lonely is incredibly painful…

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