Being seen only as a friend (20m)

Hello people of studentroom. This is touchy subject for me so I'm not comfortable sharing it with my friends. That's why I'm asking it here, anonymously. Basically I met one girl and we texted, hanged out few times in group and once alone, and everything was okay... I flirted over the text message just to give her sign that I like her as something more lol... But she's giving me off vibe like she doesn't see me like that. Maybe I'm overthinking it (I am lol) but it's constantly on my mind. So my question is, why am I always seen as just a friend? That happened a lot in my life. Girls would tell me oh you'll be such a great boyfriend yadda yadda, which I appreciate, but that never happened. I don't know what to do. I'm only seen as a friend, it's like a curse. And also I flirt here and there so it's not like I'm not giving them signs. My friends tell me, oh man you are 6'8 if I were you I'd be getting laid every day. And here I am, still without a kiss at 20. Do they see me as a friend because I'm unattractive or too nice (which I'm not, I can get in argument or stand by my point, tell what I think etc)... Thanks in advance.
TL;DR Girls see me as a friend, even though I flirt and show my intentions. What should I do?

Damn bro i hate to say it but as a girl most girls always say they'd never go for someone shorter than them however there are some girls who wouldn't mind so as long as you're not ugly then i think the right one will come someday okay don't be down in the dumps

Everybody has a different type and the girls you're going after-you've got the personality but you're not their type physically. not a bummer dude just means you're attractive and you haven't found the one yet. Or you're not aware of her, and there's a girl in your class going "dear diary, this man is my entire type-how do i approach him? how do i ask him out?" go meet a bunch of people and watch it happen-it will. when you're not thinking about it, it's gonna hit you and throw you for a loop!

Hello people of studentroom. This is touchy subject for me so I'm not comfortable sharing it with my friends. That's why I'm asking it here, anonymously. Basically I met one girl and we texted, hanged out few times in group and once alone, and everything was okay... I flirted over the text message just to give her sign that I like her as something more lol... But she's giving me off vibe like she doesn't see me like that. Maybe I'm overthinking it (I am lol) but it's constantly on my mind. So my question is, why am I always seen as just a friend? That happened a lot in my life. Girls would tell me oh you'll be such a great boyfriend yadda yadda, which I appreciate, but that never happened. I don't know what to do. I'm only seen as a friend, it's like a curse. And also I flirt here and there so it's not like I'm not giving them signs. My friends tell me, oh man you are 6'8 if I were you I'd be getting laid every day. And here I am, still without a kiss at 20. Do they see me as a friend because I'm unattractive or too nice (which I'm not, I can get in argument or stand by my point, tell what I think etc)... Thanks in advance.
TL;DR Girls see me as a friend, even though I flirt and show my intentions. What should I do?

Gotta say I commiserate with you as I am in pretty much same position. I cant say anything coz then she might identify read this, but it just is horrible to like someone and that someone doesnt want it to go further than friends, just badly hurts the heart, makes it ache.

Look for someone else who is interested is the best bet

Hello people of studentroom. This is touchy subject for me so I'm not comfortable sharing it with my friends. That's why I'm asking it here, anonymously. Basically I met one girl and we texted, hanged out few times in group and once alone, and everything was okay... I flirted over the text message just to give her sign that I like her as something more lol... But she's giving me off vibe like she doesn't see me like that. Maybe I'm overthinking it (I am lol) but it's constantly on my mind. So my question is, why am I always seen as just a friend? That happened a lot in my life. Girls would tell me oh you'll be such a great boyfriend yadda yadda, which I appreciate, but that never happened. I don't know what to do. I'm only seen as a friend, it's like a curse. And also I flirt here and there so it's not like I'm not giving them signs. My friends tell me, oh man you are 6'8 if I were you I'd be getting laid every day. And here I am, still without a kiss at 20. Do they see me as a friend because I'm unattractive or too nice (which I'm not, I can get in argument or stand by my point, tell what I think etc)... Thanks in advance.
TL;DR Girls see me as a friend, even though I flirt and show my intentions. What should I do?

I'll do that, thanks.

At the risk of sounding somewhat brutal / harsh... why "should" they fancy you?
What qualities do you have that makes you feel that girls should find you attractive? Fair enough, you're tall... but what else have you got going for yourself? Are you good looking? Are you fit / healthy? Are you charming or self-confident? Can you hold / sustain a fun conversation? Are you funny (not in an Mr Bean type way lol)? Do you have a sense of style / swagger? Do you assert yourself in certain situations? Do you go out with them for nights out? If so, how do you behave there? Can you dance?
As a matter of fact, besides the one example you've given, how many of your girl-mates have you actually approached? With the girl in question, did you actually ask her out, or just hint that you liked her? What is your standing in these groups?

Dating is tough, but when something works out it is a sweet experience. Keep the faith

At the risk of sounding somewhat brutal / harsh... why

I look okay, I'm not fat, I have average build. I'm more fat than muscular tho but I'm not fat. If you were to see me you would think he's average built. So looks are average. I'm funny but not in a mr bean way haha... To sum everything up, I think that the problem is that I'm looking this over small sample of girls. I got friendzone in the past, but last time I got friendzoned was like 2 years ago lol... So since than I changed a lot and I asked only once girl. And it's not going bad, we are texting back and forth and she's interested in talking to me. But it feels like it's more friendly, idk why. Thanks for your detailed message, I appreciate it.

No worries, I'm glad you didn't take my post in the wrong way 🙂
OK, so it looks like we've established two things:-

So you've said you're looking at a small sample of girls... how are you realistically going to increase the number of girls in your "pool"? It's often mentioned Clubs and societies are a good way to meet new people in general, so think about certain things that interest you (e.g. join a sports club, an Art class; a reading group; even doing charity work). The club itself will naturally give you something in common with the people there, and provide a safe talking point. However, you need to have a GENUINE interest in whatever it is you're considering, and also ask yourself how likely is there to be girls there (e.g. you're unlikely to meet many girls at a football club, but you may meet some at an acting / drama class... and most dance classes have more girls than guys there). Remember this method is long-winded, so you need to be prepared to take the time / effort to build those connections with people before getting your flirt on.
As for the second point, so many guys miss out on girls, simply because they don't ask! It's really as simple as that. If you're talking socially to a new girl, chances are she'll know or suspect that you may be interested in her. If she's not interested, she's likely to mention a boyfriend in some way fairly early on in the chat. If you want to be absolutely sure, then when appropriate, just say something like "Oh, bet your fella loves that, eh?" IF she has a boyfriend, then she'll either agree or disagree as appropriate. However, if she's single, she'll then have to say she is... and if she doesn't immediately follow it up with how it's great to be single or how a BF would be a really bad move right now, you can take it as red that she's interested. It's worth noting that if she was only being friendly, you've also given her the perfect opportunity to "invent" a boyfriend, so she can let you down gently.
Also, remember girls (and people in general) love self-confidence. Therefore, even the specific manner in which you ask her can make a difference. For example, after having had a decent conversation, you saying "We get on great don't we, we should go out some time" sounds much more self confident than, "Would you like to go out sometime?". After all, if you're having a good chat and she's comfortable with your company, it's only logical she'd want to carry it on, no? Plus, it also makes it harder for her to say "No".
Also, it wont' hurt you to work on your appearance somewhat. Maybe look to a workout regime to give your physique a bit better definition. Whilst there's nothing wrong with being average, there's nothing great about it either (hence the name "average" lol)... so why not try and become a better version of "You"? There's loads of tips on this board and on the Internet in general, that don't involve expensive gym memberships. I can also give you a few pointers if you're interested. It might be worth you getting a professional opinion on which style of clothing suits you best.
Hope that helps 🙂

Hello people of studentroom. This is touchy subject for me so I'm not comfortable sharing it with my friends. That's why I'm asking it here, anonymously. Basically I met one girl and we texted, hanged out few times in group and once alone, and everything was okay... I flirted over the text message just to give her sign that I like her as something more lol... But she's giving me off vibe like she doesn't see me like that. Maybe I'm overthinking it (I am lol) but it's constantly on my mind. So my question is, why am I always seen as just a friend? That happened a lot in my life. Girls would tell me oh you'll be such a great boyfriend yadda yadda, which I appreciate, but that never happened. I don't know what to do. I'm only seen as a friend, it's like a curse. And also I flirt here and there so it's not like I'm not giving them signs. My friends tell me, oh man you are 6'8 if I were you I'd be getting laid every day. And here I am, still without a kiss at 20. Do they see me as a friend because I'm unattractive or too nice (which I'm not, I can get in argument or stand by my point, tell what I think etc)... Thanks in advance.
TL;DR Girls see me as a friend, even though I flirt and show my intentions. What should I do?