Is my BF toxic?

I met my BF 7 months ago at Uni,

but a couple of weeks ago, at a party, we were playing a game with friends, and he was there; a couple of the girls there started talking about all the partners I've been with, and it slipped out that I had been with 142.5 guys and he seemed spooked when someone mentioned the night it was with four guys. One of the guys was there playing the game with us.

Since then, he's been distant, and I think it's super toxic; he said he didn't care about hearing all that, but I think he's upset about it. I've read many feminist books and spoken with my feminist friends. They all say this is toxic masculinity; should I break up with him?

Reply 1

Sinnoh

how do you get with half a guy

Reply 2

Zarek

It’s probably the 1/2 guy that tipped him over the edge

Reply 3

Surnia

Instead of talking with your feminist friends, who are throwing out phrases like 'toxic masculinity' with no understanding of what it means, why not talk to your boyfriend? You said he's upset and maybe he's not happy that you haven't revealed your past and how he found out about it; that isn't toxic!

Reply 4

Admit-One

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by Sinnoh

how do you get with half a guy

Bottom half hopefully.

Reply 5

Surnia

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by Admit-One

Bottom half hopefully.

Up there for thinking, down there for dancing...

Reply 6

Rakas21

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by Alexbantana

I met my BF 7 months ago at Uni,
but a couple of weeks ago, at a party, we were playing a game with friends, and he was there; a couple of the girls there started talking about all the partners I've been with, and it slipped out that I had been with 142.5 guys and he seemed spooked when someone mentioned the night it was with four guys. One of the guys was there playing the game with us.
Since then, he's been distant, and I think it's super toxic; he said he didn't care about hearing all that, but I think he's upset about it. I've read many feminist books and spoken with my feminist friends. They all say this is toxic masculinity; should I break up with him?

I'm fairly sure your a troll but your boyfriend is not being toxic. He has the right to consider your prior behaviour given that it's the most accurate predictor of future behaviour at a population level.