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Two of my friends blocked me randomly?

I messaged two uni friends on our group chat asking if we could meet up some trime. They didn’t reply for a few days and when I checked the group chat they’ve both blocked me in everything.

Firstly I’m wondering if I’ve done something wrong (I mean I know the answer to this question, I haven’t) but who knows!! Maybe I did ages ago and it was brewing? I can’t think of anything.

Secondly , I want to message them on various platforms asking what’s happened but I don’t want to look crazy and also I don’t want to beg for friendship. But it’s so bizarre I’m so hurt by it and I feel inadequate. How can I prevent this from affecting me and beating myself up? I can’t apologise or anything for something I didn’t do / unaware of doing!
Original post by Anonymous
I messaged two uni friends on our group chat asking if we could meet up some trime. They didn’t reply for a few days and when I checked the group chat they’ve both blocked me in everything.
Firstly I’m wondering if I’ve done something wrong (I mean I know the answer to this question, I haven’t) but who knows!! Maybe I did ages ago and it was brewing? I can’t think of anything.
Secondly , I want to message them on various platforms asking what’s happened but I don’t want to look crazy and also I don’t want to beg for friendship. But it’s so bizarre I’m so hurt by it and I feel inadequate. How can I prevent this from affecting me and beating myself up? I can’t apologise or anything for something I didn’t do / unaware of doing!

Don't bother, if people cut u off like that they aren't worth your time or energy.
Reply 2
Original post by horrifying-cadet
Don't bother, if people cut u off like that they aren't worth your time or energy.

True but it’s strange that it’s both of them - I suppose they are in it together which really would make anyone think that I had done something to upset them. And it’s bizarre because two weeks ago we were texting and everything was fine!
Reply 3
Friendships going inexplicably wrong is a thing. It can be very hurtful, I know. It feels like they may not have been as good friends as you thought and decided to be mean. There might be nothing you can do.

I would let the dust settle for a few weeks and then decide. You could reach out to one of them to try to ask what’s up. Or ask someone else to get some insight for you. Try not to let it get to you, these things do happen, and it doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong.
Reply 4
Original post by Zarek
Friendships going inexplicably wrong is a thing. It can be very hurtful, I know. It feels like they may not have been as good friends as you thought and decided to be mean. There might be nothing you can do.
I would let the dust settle for a few weeks and then decide. You could reach out to one of them to try to ask what’s up. Or ask someone else to get some insight for you. Try not to let it get to you, these things do happen, and it doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong.

I’ve never heard of any friendship seemingly end so drastically! Which is why it’s very hurtful. I don’t have many friends at all so I feel completely friendless now. They seemed to have blocked me at the thought of me asking to meet up!

I have my boyfriend (who truly is my best friend and I’m very grateful for him) and I have 3 other friends who don’t know each other.

Is this normal or am I a loner? For reference I’m 23
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
I’ve never heard of any friendship seemingly end so drastically! Which is why it’s very hurtful. I don’t have many friends at all so I feel completely friendless now. They seemed to have blocked me at the thought of me asking to meet up!
I have my boyfriend (who truly is my best friend and I’m very grateful for him) and I have 3 other friends who don’t know each other.
Is this normal or am I a loner? For reference I’m 23

I have had issues with people I thought were friends not being as interested in sustaining the friendship as me, and sometimes with being excluded. I also struggle to understand why some people are very popular and I often have difficulty fitting in within friendship groups. I have come to value a small number of reliable friends. It seems that you have some good anchors in your life and I would say this worry is a normal part of life for many people

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