should i tell him i love him?

I met this guy near the end of the summer, and we clicked straight away.. had loads in common and we became really close friends we would speak at least once a day. I hardly ever get to see him though as he lives in london and im from scotland but it didnt really affect out friendship, i felt like i could tell him everything then it sorta grew more into a more flirty relationship.. mainly just flirty txts and msn convos, but we both knew we liked each other and i really started to fall for him. but i wasnt really keen on the long distance thing.
I started first year uni soon after this and met loads of different guys, went on a few dates and stuff but i couldnt get him out of the back of my mind. then a couple of weeks later( we were still talking like all the time everyday here)he txt me to tell me he loved me. I sorta brushed it aside becuse its not the same when it said by txt as in real life.. but then the next week he phoned me up to tell me he loved me. but for some reason, i just sorta semi freaked out.. i think its just not really seeing him in person much, and couldnt say it back. Even though i knew i did.
After this he started getting really distant nd wouldnt reply to txts, wouldnt speak on msn then started going out with another girl a few weeks after. i was pretty gutted tbh and thought id missed my chance for good. Started going out with this guy from work mainly just to try and get over him, but it only lasted a few weeks as i couldnt stop thinkinh about this london guy.
we started speaking again loads recently.. not flirty at all. just good friends. and it turns out hes just broken up with this girl he was going out with.
Now i really want to tell him i love him, but i feel like i missed my chance, dont want to wreak the good friendship. alsowant to give him a bit of space from only breaking up a couple of days ago.
Sorry about the long rambling ness but, should i tell him? and how long should i wait so it doesnt seem like im really eager and insensitive for just having broken up?
thanks for any advice :smile:

Reply 1

UnderTheBigBrightYelowSun

Anyone at all? im sooo confused right now

Reply 2

noisesandkisses

sounds like you need to tell him and stop missing your chance.

you never know what you got till its gone
and sometimes you can never get it back

so stop woryying and do it.
if worse comes to worst least you know you told him
if you tell him your dreams might come true and by the sound of it they will

dont worry about long distance
distance is nothing
my partner also lives 6 hours away.
im living in aberdeen.

but im moving in with them soon, so remember nothing is impossible

hope this helps

Reply 3

Adam G Manning

Go for it.

If he told you his feelings... They're there!

Swallow some pride and just tell him, "I'm sorry I acted how I did; it was because I feel exactly the same way!" Or words to that effect.

Go Go Go!

Reply 4

username47781

Go on what you got to lose by telling him, do it!

Reply 5

oo_Lucinda_oo

Tell him

And let us know how it goes!

Reply 6

shell_owusu

The opp is basically screaming to be taken!!

You need get into a convo (try and make it face to face) and sort of reminisce and bring up the moment and explain why you brushed it off.

Ease into telling him or revealing how you feel now- the way in which he reacts should be a good indicator- it'll probs be shock or bewilderment, but I'm hoping it's something good!

A similar scenario happened to me last year- my best friend told me he really liked me. I didn't think of him like that, but guys sure do have a way of making you re-evaluate the way you see them when they want to!

Anyway, I freaked out- one of the BIGGEST mistakes ever! Now I can't get that moment back cos I acted like it didn't matter- and anyone telling you they like you always does!

You'll feel tons better for getting it off your chest :smile:

Reply 7

Adam G Manning

shell_owusu

The opp is basically screaming to be taken!!

You need get into a convo (try and make it face to face) and sort of reminisce and bring up the moment and explain why you brushed it off.
:smile:

I hardly ever get to see him though as he lives in london and im from scotland

I think the phone will have to suffice.

Reply 8

Electric_Dreams

It's always nice to be told someone loves you, especially at christmas.
Do it. :smile:

Reply 9

Electric_Dreams

oo_Lucinda_oo

let us know how it goes!

Oooo

Reply 10

Folderol

Tell him, now.

Reply 11

sib

YES! Tell him right now :smile:

Reply 12

Keese

You've got nothing to loose by saying it, I'd just spurt it out. When the statement is accepted, its the best feeling ever!

Reply 13

UnderTheBigBrightYelowSun

Thanks guys :biggrin:

Im definatly gonna call him up now.. just need to pluck up the courage to actually say it, and hope he feels the same way.
Hopefully il have god news to tell you soon. hehe :smile:

Reply 14

Adam G Manning

Come On!!11!! Come On!!1!!

Reply 15

carrotboy

Tell him, but try not to get hurt if you don't hear it back

Reply 16

Midget25

Tell him. He obviously felt the same way and as he's broken up with this other girl, may well feel the same way. You've got nothing to lose hun. Forget distance, that can be worked around. If you don't you could regret it for a long time. (:

<3

Reply 17

amber 1995 ivybridge

well you won't know till you ty if u love him thn tll him and about long distance if u really love achother it ewill wok out in the end