Can a 35 year old go clubbing, make friends with women in their early-mid 20s?
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
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Reply 1
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
Better to go to bars, lounges and other venues than clubs. The music is loud, attendees are wasted and vibe is off.
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Plenty of other activities/interests you could pursue to meet women to befriend.
Reply 5
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
Hi can't see why not. Go for it!
Reply 6
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
Of course it's possible!
Reply 7
Plenty of other activities/interests you could pursue to meet women to befriend.
Clearly if they're all at a club they do have something in common....
If OP enjoys dancing and whatever the club has to offer, then that activity is just fine and doesn't have to change.
Reply 8
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
It'll be possible for some and not others.
Think it will ultimately depend on your attitude /vibe, how you look, and above all... if you can dance.
Provided you take reasonable care of yourself (exercise, look after your appearance etc.) they're probably not gong to know you're 35 unless you tell them (IMHO, once you get past around 25 years old, I think it gets harder to accurately guess someone's age from their appearance alone... as lifestyle choices will play a bigger part than your chorological age).
Just don't use that as an excuse to randomly grope women though.
P.S. If you're looking for women who are mature for their age, your local Ritzy club isn't really the best hunting ground 🤣
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Reply 10
Should you? A question for another thread.
Reply 11
Plenty of other activities/interests you could pursue to meet women to befriend.
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Relatively unblemished skin
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Number of years of fertility remaining
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More likely to be of a healthy weight
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More likely to be single
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Less likely to have health issues
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Less likely to have children already
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Less likely to be set in her ways
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Regardless of age, the actual quality of the woman
Why would she?
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More mental strength at 35 than 21
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More emotional strength at 35 than 21
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More money
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Better ability to earn money
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Nicer car, with car insurance costs being one contributing factor to this
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More experienced in how to behave in relationships
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More likely to own their own home
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More sexually experienced
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Regardless of age, the actual quality of the man
Reply 12
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Relatively unblemished skin
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Number of years of fertility remaining
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More likely to be of a healthy weight
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More likely to be single
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Less likely to have health issues
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Less likely to have children already
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Less likely to be set in her ways
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Regardless of age, the actual quality of the woman
Why would she?
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More mental strength at 35 than 21
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More emotional strength at 35 than 21
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More money
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Better ability to earn money
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Nicer car, with car insurance costs being one contributing factor to this
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More experienced in how to behave in relationships
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More likely to own their own home
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More sexually experienced
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Regardless of age, the actual quality of the man
What would you want all that in a friend?
Reply 13
I think we all know what the opening poster is after. He doesn't have to spell it out in pedantic detail.
Reply 14
Talking of pedantic detail - stereotyping much?
Reply 15
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Relatively unblemished skin
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Number of years of fertility remaining
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More likely to be of a healthy weight
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More likely to be single
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Less likely to have health issues
•
Less likely to have children already
•
Less likely to be set in her ways
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Regardless of age, the actual quality of the woman
Why would she?
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More mental strength at 35 than 21
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More emotional strength at 35 than 21
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More money
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Better ability to earn money
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Nicer car, with car insurance costs being one contributing factor to this
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More experienced in how to behave in relationships
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More likely to own their own home
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More sexually experienced
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Regardless of age, the actual quality of the man
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I totally disagree with your interpretation of what I said.
I never said that most women choose their partners because they have more money.
I merely did a quick brainstorm as to why a 35 year old man might be attracted to a 21 year old woman. And vice versa.
How important each factor is would depend entirely on the particular person.
However using a bit of empathy, I can totally understand why a 35 year old man might be attracted to 21 year old women - to the point where he targets women of that age. And vice versa.
There's no mystery here.
And it may well be that the final factor in each list is by far the most important for a significant proportion of adults.
Maybe with it being the emotional perception as to the quality of the person that tends to be important, particularly during the initial stages of meeting each other.
Reply 18
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
Maybe, why not try? Though make sure to not come over as a creep. I'm not 20 yet but I know if a 35 year old came up to me in a club I would find it weird...
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