Can a 35 year old go clubbing, make friends with women in their early-mid 20s?
I'm 35 years old.
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
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Original post by Anonymous
I'm 35 years old.
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
Better to go to bars, lounges and other venues than clubs. The music is loud, attendees are wasted and vibe is off.
Yes everyone's adults at this point
Why would you want to be friends with 21yo women, or vice versa? Ten to 14 years younger is sctually a big age gap with not a lot in common. And why would you change your approach from what you've been doing so far, it that works?
Plenty of other activities/interests you could pursue to meet women to befriend.
Plenty of other activities/interests you could pursue to meet women to befriend.
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Original post by Anonymous
I'm 35 years old.
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
Hi can't see why not. Go for it!
Original post by Anonymous
I'm 35 years old.
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
Of course it's possible!
Original post by Surnia
Why would you want to be friends with 21yo women, or vice versa? Ten to 14 years younger is sctually a big age gap with not a lot in common. And why would you change your approach from what you've been doing so far, it that works?
Plenty of other activities/interests you could pursue to meet women to befriend.
Plenty of other activities/interests you could pursue to meet women to befriend.
Clearly if they're all at a club they do have something in common....
If OP enjoys dancing and whatever the club has to offer, then that activity is just fine and doesn't have to change.
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Original post by Anonymous
I'm 35 years old.
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
It'll be possible for some and not others.
Think it will ultimately depend on your attitude /vibe, how you look, and above all... if you can dance.
Provided you take reasonable care of yourself (exercise, look after your appearance etc.) they're probably not gong to know you're 35 unless you tell them (IMHO, once you get past around 25 years old, I think it gets harder to accurately guess someone's age from their appearance alone... as lifestyle choices will play a bigger part than your chorological age).
Just don't use that as an excuse to randomly grope women though.
P.S. If you're looking for women who are mature for their age, your local Ritzy club isn't really the best hunting ground 🤣
It sounds like you're bringing a lot of positive energy and self-awareness into your interactions, which is fantastic! Confidence and good communication definitely make a big difference. It's great that you're finding positive responses and continuing to grow as a person. Keep that charisma shining and stay true to yourself. There's definitely potential for meaningful connections out there, especially with people who appreciate maturity and depth. Keep at it!
Can you? Yes, absolutely.
Should you? A question for another thread.
Should you? A question for another thread.
Original post by Surnia
Why would you want to be friends with 21yo women, or vice versa? Ten to 14 years younger is sctually a big age gap with not a lot in common. And why would you change your approach from what you've been doing so far, it that works?
Plenty of other activities/interests you could pursue to meet women to befriend.
Plenty of other activities/interests you could pursue to meet women to befriend.
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Relatively unblemished skin
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Number of years of fertility remaining
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More likely to be of a healthy weight
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More likely to be single
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Less likely to have health issues
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Less likely to have children already
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Less likely to be set in her ways
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Regardless of age, the actual quality of the woman
Why would she?
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More mental strength at 35 than 21
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More emotional strength at 35 than 21
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More money
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Better ability to earn money
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Nicer car, with car insurance costs being one contributing factor to this
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More experienced in how to behave in relationships
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More likely to own their own home
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More sexually experienced
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Regardless of age, the actual quality of the man
Original post by Dunnig Kruger
Why?
Why would she?
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Relatively unblemished skin
•
Number of years of fertility remaining
•
More likely to be of a healthy weight
•
More likely to be single
•
Less likely to have health issues
•
Less likely to have children already
•
Less likely to be set in her ways
•
Regardless of age, the actual quality of the woman
Why would she?
•
More mental strength at 35 than 21
•
More emotional strength at 35 than 21
•
More money
•
Better ability to earn money
•
Nicer car, with car insurance costs being one contributing factor to this
•
More experienced in how to behave in relationships
•
More likely to own their own home
•
More sexually experienced
•
Regardless of age, the actual quality of the man
What would you want all that in a friend?
Original post by Surnia
What would you want all that in a friend?
I think we all know what the opening poster is after. He doesn't have to spell it out in pedantic detail.
Original post by Dunnig Kruger
I think we all know what the opening poster is after. He doesn't have to spell it out in pedantic detail.
Talking of pedantic detail - stereotyping much?
Original post by Dunnig Kruger
Why?
Why would she?
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Relatively unblemished skin
•
Number of years of fertility remaining
•
More likely to be of a healthy weight
•
More likely to be single
•
Less likely to have health issues
•
Less likely to have children already
•
Less likely to be set in her ways
•
Regardless of age, the actual quality of the woman
Why would she?
•
More mental strength at 35 than 21
•
More emotional strength at 35 than 21
•
More money
•
Better ability to earn money
•
Nicer car, with car insurance costs being one contributing factor to this
•
More experienced in how to behave in relationships
•
More likely to own their own home
•
More sexually experienced
•
Regardless of age, the actual quality of the man
Tbh-I only wish for genuine connections. It's always nice to have friends with the opposite gender.
Original post by Anonymous
Most men don't only care about "unblemished skin" and "fertility". Nor are most women choosing their partners because they have more money. Just because you might do this or know people who do this doesn't mean that you can stereotype everybody else as being this superficial.
I totally disagree with your interpretation of what I said.
I never said that most women choose their partners because they have more money.
I merely did a quick brainstorm as to why a 35 year old man might be attracted to a 21 year old woman. And vice versa.
How important each factor is would depend entirely on the particular person.
However using a bit of empathy, I can totally understand why a 35 year old man might be attracted to 21 year old women - to the point where he targets women of that age. And vice versa.
There's no mystery here.
And it may well be that the final factor in each list is by far the most important for a significant proportion of adults.
Maybe with it being the emotional perception as to the quality of the person that tends to be important, particularly during the initial stages of meeting each other.
Original post by Anonymous
I'm 35 years old.
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
I've done reasonably well for myself in life. I exercise, buy nice clothes, read a lot, improve myself.
I have been approaching, conversing with women and it has been positive so far.
It's all about confidence, communication etc.
I'm charismatic, intelligent with a lot of good qualities.
Surely there will be a few women or some women who are mature for their age.
I still think this is possible.
Maybe, why not try? Though make sure to not come over as a creep. I'm not 20 yet but I know if a 35 year old came up to me in a club I would find it weird...
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