I hate the idea of fresher week
I will definitely take part in some fresher events and most likely join a sports society but the more videos I see, the more appealable it sounds and it just starts to sound like my idea of hell.
I understand that it's important I put myself out there but the idea of constantly being at parties and talking to new people constantly just sounds so very mentally draining. I don't care for many friends, as long as I can get along with my flat mates - make small talk with people in my course and bong with people by playing sports - I'm pretty much okay.
I know that it's going to be a stressful week, not only for me but for everyone so I should feel somewhat relived about this but I just don't. I don't know whether I'm setting myself up for failure but is it bad that I'll only plan to a couple of events? I don't know how many freshers week actually have - lets say there was 5, I would only go to like 3.
I don't have the biggest social battery and I know I won't be able to bounce from freshers week to the next week and so on.
I understand that it's important I put myself out there but the idea of constantly being at parties and talking to new people constantly just sounds so very mentally draining. I don't care for many friends, as long as I can get along with my flat mates - make small talk with people in my course and bong with people by playing sports - I'm pretty much okay.
I know that it's going to be a stressful week, not only for me but for everyone so I should feel somewhat relived about this but I just don't. I don't know whether I'm setting myself up for failure but is it bad that I'll only plan to a couple of events? I don't know how many freshers week actually have - lets say there was 5, I would only go to like 3.
I don't have the biggest social battery and I know I won't be able to bounce from freshers week to the next week and so on.
Reply 1
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by AnonymousI will definitely take part in some fresher events and most likely join a sports society but the more videos I see, the more appealable it sounds and it just starts to sound like my idea of hell.
I understand that it's important I put myself out there but the idea of constantly being at parties and talking to new people constantly just sounds so very mentally draining. I don't care for many friends, as long as I can get along with my flat mates - make small talk with people in my course and bong with people by playing sports - I'm pretty much okay.
I know that it's going to be a stressful week, not only for me but for everyone so I should feel somewhat relived about this but I just don't. I don't know whether I'm setting myself up for failure but is it bad that I'll only plan to a couple of events? I don't know how many freshers week actually have - lets say there was 5, I would only go to like 3.
I don't have the biggest social battery and I know I won't be able to bounce from freshers week to the next week and so on.
I understand that it's important I put myself out there but the idea of constantly being at parties and talking to new people constantly just sounds so very mentally draining. I don't care for many friends, as long as I can get along with my flat mates - make small talk with people in my course and bong with people by playing sports - I'm pretty much okay.
I know that it's going to be a stressful week, not only for me but for everyone so I should feel somewhat relived about this but I just don't. I don't know whether I'm setting myself up for failure but is it bad that I'll only plan to a couple of events? I don't know how many freshers week actually have - lets say there was 5, I would only go to like 3.
I don't have the biggest social battery and I know I won't be able to bounce from freshers week to the next week and so on.
Reply 2
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by AnonymousI don't plan on drinking much either. I know drinking may help my mood and help me socialize with people but I won't be comfortable drinking with people I barely know.
Reply 3
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by AnonymousI also think I never saw the point in socializing in uni because I'm there to get a degree and if I make friends, then thats great but if not, then its also great. All I strive for in uni is getting good grades, getting a part time job and getting a degree. So I never really saw the importance in talking to many people - especially if I need to be studying alot
It's good that you are focused on being high achieving, but it's worth realising that the next few years will have unique and amazing experiences that you won't have later in adult life, and it could be fun to make some nice memories and enjoy the time while your there. It's fine to be a bit more reclusive, but be open minded to meeting new people. A lot of people make their lifelong friends at university, but not just for making friends either, as meeting people at university might be a good way to develop your network and make useful contacts for later in life that could help land you a job or something like that. Academically, the next few years will be tough, and it can be helpful to have a support network of friends that you can unwind with by going to societies or just hanging out, or even studying together with too.
On freshers week, they will be total strangers, people you don't know at all. But, you'll be meeting the people you'll spend the next 3 or so years with. It's always helpful to be friendly to people and be able to call favours on them or whatever. University will be a much less enjoyable experience if you don't talk to anyone. Just have an open mind when you go, try something new, and see if anything good happens.
Reply 4
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by AnonymousI will definitely take part in some fresher events and most likely join a sports society but the more videos I see, the more appealable it sounds and it just starts to sound like my idea of hell.
I understand that it's important I put myself out there but the idea of constantly being at parties and talking to new people constantly just sounds so very mentally draining. I don't care for many friends, as long as I can get along with my flat mates - make small talk with people in my course and bong with people by playing sports - I'm pretty much okay.
I know that it's going to be a stressful week, not only for me but for everyone so I should feel somewhat relived about this but I just don't. I don't know whether I'm setting myself up for failure but is it bad that I'll only plan to a couple of events? I don't know how many freshers week actually have - lets say there was 5, I would only go to like 3.
I don't have the biggest social battery and I know I won't be able to bounce from freshers week to the next week and so on.
I understand that it's important I put myself out there but the idea of constantly being at parties and talking to new people constantly just sounds so very mentally draining. I don't care for many friends, as long as I can get along with my flat mates - make small talk with people in my course and bong with people by playing sports - I'm pretty much okay.
I know that it's going to be a stressful week, not only for me but for everyone so I should feel somewhat relived about this but I just don't. I don't know whether I'm setting myself up for failure but is it bad that I'll only plan to a couple of events? I don't know how many freshers week actually have - lets say there was 5, I would only go to like 3.
I don't have the biggest social battery and I know I won't be able to bounce from freshers week to the next week and so on.
Hi,
I felt exactly the same when I was starting university. I only attended one clubbing freshers event and two daytime events and this has not hindered my university experience whatsoever.
University is really what you make it, so don’t do things you don’t want to just because it seems like what everyone is doing - and it definitely is not bad if you only attend a couple of events!
Hope this helps, Faye ◡̈
Reply 5
It's absolutely okay if you only want to attend a few events. During my freshers week, I actually had to commute back and forth a few evenings due to an event on back home. This meant I only attended a few freshers events, and it still all worked out absolutely fine. Freshers is good, but it can feel very full on and I met more of my friends through my course etc. You're best staying true to yourself and your personal social battery. Don't feel like you have to force yourself to live any differently to how you would back home, it's your experience and you get to make it your own!
Reply 6
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by AnonymousI will definitely take part in some fresher events and most likely join a sports society but the more videos I see, the more appealable it sounds and it just starts to sound like my idea of hell.
I understand that it's important I put myself out there but the idea of constantly being at parties and talking to new people constantly just sounds so very mentally draining. I don't care for many friends, as long as I can get along with my flat mates - make small talk with people in my course and bong with people by playing sports - I'm pretty much okay.
I know that it's going to be a stressful week, not only for me but for everyone so I should feel somewhat relived about this but I just don't. I don't know whether I'm setting myself up for failure but is it bad that I'll only plan to a couple of events? I don't know how many freshers week actually have - lets say there was 5, I would only go to like 3.
I don't have the biggest social battery and I know I won't be able to bounce from freshers week to the next week and so on.
I understand that it's important I put myself out there but the idea of constantly being at parties and talking to new people constantly just sounds so very mentally draining. I don't care for many friends, as long as I can get along with my flat mates - make small talk with people in my course and bong with people by playing sports - I'm pretty much okay.
I know that it's going to be a stressful week, not only for me but for everyone so I should feel somewhat relived about this but I just don't. I don't know whether I'm setting myself up for failure but is it bad that I'll only plan to a couple of events? I don't know how many freshers week actually have - lets say there was 5, I would only go to like 3.
I don't have the biggest social battery and I know I won't be able to bounce from freshers week to the next week and so on.
Hi I hope you are doing well,
I think there's this image of Freshers week only being one thing and that's clubbing or going out etc. Freshers week is a chance to get to know your university and area better and whilst there are lots of events going on, there is never any pressure to go to any. I think it's good that you are going to a few events but don't feel pressured to go to every event. Before I came to university, I signed up for a lot of events, many of which were clubbing related, but ended up only going to a few of them because I didn't feel like going and instead hung out with new found friends or people on my course who I met online prior. Whilst freshers events are one of the easiest ways to make friends, there are so many others ways (As you said you were joining a society ) that you won't be left out or feeling like you've made a bad decision. The great thing about University is that you do what you want to do and have full control over that so make the most of it but do what you are happy with and what you are comfortable with.
I hope this helps,
All the best,
Daniel
University of Portsmouth Student Rep
Original post
by AnonymousI will definitely take part in some fresher events and most likely join a sports society but the more videos I see, the more appealable it sounds and it just starts to sound like my idea of hell.
I understand that it's important I put myself out there but the idea of constantly being at parties and talking to new people constantly just sounds so very mentally draining. I don't care for many friends, as long as I can get along with my flat mates - make small talk with people in my course and bong with people by playing sports - I'm pretty much okay.
I know that it's going to be a stressful week, not only for me but for everyone so I should feel somewhat relived about this but I just don't. I don't know whether I'm setting myself up for failure but is it bad that I'll only plan to a couple of events? I don't know how many freshers week actually have - lets say there was 5, I would only go to like 3.
I don't have the biggest social battery and I know I won't be able to bounce from freshers week to the next week and so on.
I understand that it's important I put myself out there but the idea of constantly being at parties and talking to new people constantly just sounds so very mentally draining. I don't care for many friends, as long as I can get along with my flat mates - make small talk with people in my course and bong with people by playing sports - I'm pretty much okay.
I know that it's going to be a stressful week, not only for me but for everyone so I should feel somewhat relived about this but I just don't. I don't know whether I'm setting myself up for failure but is it bad that I'll only plan to a couple of events? I don't know how many freshers week actually have - lets say there was 5, I would only go to like 3.
I don't have the biggest social battery and I know I won't be able to bounce from freshers week to the next week and so on.
Depending on the uni freshers week events are often varied with many taking place through the day and also offering non alcohol events on a night. I know ours have bowling, cinema and country walks so dont feel like you have to be 100% on and ready to party each night. Go at your own pace and try to not burn yourself out.
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by AnonymousI will definitely take part in some fresher events and most likely join a sports society but the more videos I see, the more appealable it sounds and it just starts to sound like my idea of hell.
I understand that it's important I put myself out there but the idea of constantly being at parties and talking to new people constantly just sounds so very mentally draining. I don't care for many friends, as long as I can get along with my flat mates - make small talk with people in my course and bong with people by playing sports - I'm pretty much okay.
I know that it's going to be a stressful week, not only for me but for everyone so I should feel somewhat relived about this but I just don't. I don't know whether I'm setting myself up for failure but is it bad that I'll only plan to a couple of events? I don't know how many freshers week actually have - lets say there was 5, I would only go to like 3.
I don't have the biggest social battery and I know I won't be able to bounce from freshers week to the next week and so on.
I understand that it's important I put myself out there but the idea of constantly being at parties and talking to new people constantly just sounds so very mentally draining. I don't care for many friends, as long as I can get along with my flat mates - make small talk with people in my course and bong with people by playing sports - I'm pretty much okay.
I know that it's going to be a stressful week, not only for me but for everyone so I should feel somewhat relived about this but I just don't. I don't know whether I'm setting myself up for failure but is it bad that I'll only plan to a couple of events? I don't know how many freshers week actually have - lets say there was 5, I would only go to like 3.
I don't have the biggest social battery and I know I won't be able to bounce from freshers week to the next week and so on.
My daughter is doing 4 this september. Drag bingo, quiz night, a festival on campus and an open air cinema in the city. Shes not a clubbing type person and is choosing things that are still fun, but not having to shout in a club with loud music, and spending half the time in the smoking area. Shes going to do some day time crafty tasks as well as societies fair.
Eldest daughter, a graduate, also didnt like clubbing. First year was covid year so it was a club in tables of 6, and her flatmates were there, but she made friends in her course. Second year the first year flatmates most were like freshers, taking advantage of missing out on first year, and having flat parties which was not her thing. But, she made her friends for life in this year. Joined a pub quiz and thats how it started. Her friends were ones to have a small gathering, but more like a games night, or movie night which was her sort of pace. She also in third year went to private halls which was much more her thing as it was mixed years, so a lot were already in the throws of study and dissertations. And her coursemates from first year got closer. By the end of it all she has 3 very close friends from her pub quiz team, and 4 from her course she was close with. She never lived with them though in years 3 or 4. She wanted her home life separate from her friends. She liked having friends, but not there 24-7 living with them and that suited her.
You choose it how it suits you. For your flatmates, the movies/games nights are great. Even if you dont go clubbing they wont be doing that 24-7. Make sure you join societies, ones that dont have to have a big drinking scene. Coursemates as well, have some of those and there you have 3 different friends groups. After a time you will find some of the people who fall away and form other groups, and some that get closer. I would suggest doing things that you like, its there you will find oher people who like doing the same and like minded as you.
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