Am I in the wrong or?

Nope, just your dad being categorically weird.

Yeah it's lowkey frustrating and trying to get your point across is hard as well. Not sure what to do

"Dad, it's not normal to smash someone's property during a hissy fit, are you okay hun?"
But more honesty I would keep my head down and look forward to moving out ASAP.

Well, now my mum has been shouting at me that I'm ungrateful and she's forcing me to return it.

in what world are you in the wrong? i think your dad’s mind’s going honestly! let’s see: smashing someone’s phone, getting ****ed off over phone brand, threatening to abandon his child over a small piece of metal that fits into everyone’s pockets… nah bro— you’re good, commendable and brave even, standing up for yourself. like it’s your money?? you paid for it?? i literally don’t see the problem. hopefully you get out of there soon and live in freedom and enjoy your uni years 💓💓

Over a month ago, my dad had smashed my mobile phone and threw the broken pieces in the bin. For a month, I had no mobile phone which was slightly frustrating. Along side when I was doing my a levels, I was also working and still am and I have managed to save a significant amount of money. My dad then said a month later I can buy myself a mobile phone however not an iPhone (which I previously was using and have been since the age of 11). He said only androids which is not really my preference as I have used them before. He hadn't offered to buy me a new phone so I thought it made no sense him really having a say as it is my money I'd be using to purchase a new one. So, I decided to buy myself a new mobile phone (iPhone 14 pro) before my a levels' results day which he doesn't know about. I've got to buy a car pretty soon since I'm starting Uni next month and a new laptop so today he mentioned again buy a phone but only an android. My mother and I tried to explain to him nicely the phone I'd prefer to have but he started shouting erratically and saying if he sees me with an iPhone, and he will no longer allow me to be under his roof lmao. He said he'll be happy for me to leave as he can even rent out my room. He said I can always look for student accommodation and leave. I only tried to mention it as he was about to buy me the latest Samsung which is out in the market. Later today again, he started to tell me how I 'lack a lot of self-confidence' and by switching to an Android, I will change my ways. I am 18 and I'm just sometimes tired with a lot of what he says because they don't necessarily make a lot of sense and he tends to contradict himself. He's done lots of messed up things to me as a way of 'discipline' and I'm tired of it. Maybe I'm in the wrong? I'm not too sure

it sounds hard. i am so sorry that you have to go through all that. if its any consolation to you, i think you’re one of the most bravest, hardworking (like you literally bought yourself a phone?? that’s so cool and it’s a feat that not everyone can achieve! but you achieved it through consistent hard work!) person ever. even if things are really hard now, please remember that you have 80+ years of life left to live. what does this mean? this means that the hardship you are facing right now will become a small pathway that will lead you to strength, and that strength will lead you to the best version of yourself and a better life — the life of your dreams. do not let the hardship right now get to your head too much. yes, feel it, process it and cry it out hard, but never let this hardship make you think that the future will not be bright for you. you will get far away from your dad
someday, build the life you love and be happy. trust me. andddd we are a community here, so we will always be behind you to support you every step of the way. you’re not alone. keep going! 💓

Have you thought about asking him why he felt so strongly about not choosing the iPhone? It might be helpful to listen to his perspective on why he prefers a different phone. After you understand his reasons, you could then explain your own thoughts about why you’d rather not have an Android phone.
I think this might be about more than just the phone itself. Sometimes, these kinds of disagreements can be a way of expressing deeper frustrations or conflicts. Maybe the phone is just a symbol of something bigger. It could be worth trying to get to the root of what’s really bothering both of you. Keep the conversation simple, clear, and focused on understanding each other better.

Yes, I have tried to explain to him calmly but he doesn't necessarily listen. He just tends to retaliate

I'm so sorry you are going through such .It is really sometimes difficult to make our parents understand 😭.
I have been through similar situations and can understand your frustration

Your dad shouldn't try controlling you in this fashion, I think he may still be treating you like a kid. You're 18 and can move out if you choose and go on your own adventures. I think if you can try to resolve rifts that'd be a way to move forward, but if you two can't come to an understanding, then you may want to move out and make your life the way you want to.

Yeah you’re absolutely right. I’m not sure what to do with the mobile phone issue though. Do I keep it or return it as they said I should?

Well If you return it you gonna safe money, and you can always buy again of you didn't like the android one, or maybe just explore the Android tech too, It might not be as bad as you think and maybe you change your mind regarding having android phone?

Over a month ago, my dad had smashed my mobile phone and threw the broken pieces in the bin. For a month, I had no mobile phone which was slightly frustrating. Along side when I was doing my a levels, I was also working and still am and I have managed to save a significant amount of money. My dad then said a month later I can buy myself a mobile phone however not an iPhone (which I previously was using and have been since the age of 11). He said only androids which is not really my preference as I have used them before. He hadn't offered to buy me a new phone so I thought it made no sense him really having a say as it is my money I'd be using to purchase a new one. So, I decided to buy myself a new mobile phone (iPhone 14 pro) before my a levels' results day which he doesn't know about. I've got to buy a car pretty soon since I'm starting Uni next month and a new laptop so today he mentioned again buy a phone but only an android. My mother and I tried to explain to him nicely the phone I'd prefer to have but he started shouting erratically and saying if he sees me with an iPhone, and he will no longer allow me to be under his roof lmao. He said he'll be happy for me to leave as he can even rent out my room. He said I can always look for student accommodation and leave. I only tried to mention it as he was about to buy me the latest Samsung which is out in the market. Later today again, he started to tell me how I 'lack a lot of self-confidence' and by switching to an Android, I will change my ways. I am 18 and I'm just sometimes tired with a lot of what he says because they don't necessarily make a lot of sense and he tends to contradict himself. He's done lots of messed up things to me as a way of 'discipline' and I'm tired of it. Maybe I'm in the wrong? I'm not too sure