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    Hey.

    I wanted to send a valentines day card to someone i work with, i knew them back in high school and we get on really well (not to mention the fact that i do like her).

    However, i'm not sure if she is single or not and also we are friends so i dont want to ruin that by being too forward.


    Any ideas?
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    You could make some comment about being single on valentines day...she'lll probably say whether she is or not, then you will know that much. I'm not entirely sure about ruining your friendship...if you are close it probably won't make a difference, but if not then it is definitely a risk! Find out if she has a boyfriend before you start worrying abuot what to do next!
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    As was said, bring up "being single on Valentines day" to find out if she is. If she is, send a card. If she turns out not to be interested, you can say something like "Oh it didn't mean anything - I just sent it because we were talking about how crap it is not to get a card!"

    Classic tactical retreat
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    (Original post by Toy Soldier)
    As was said, bring up "being single on Valentines day" to find out if she is. If she is, send a card. If she turns out not to be interested, you can say something like "Oh it didn't mean anything - I just sent it because we were talking about how crap it is not to get a card!"

    Classic tactical retreat
    but then what can i put in the card to make it look like it does and doesnt mean something at the same time? :p:
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    you write 'from a secret admirer' but somehow include something that makes her know its off you. like a private joke, or something you tease her about, something only you would write, that makes it lighthearted but kinda romantic. Just see how she reacts to it...if she reacts well you can make it more obvious, if she takes it as 'just mates' then you will look as if you thought the same and can do what was mentioned above as a tactical retreat!
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    I think when i actually give it to her in person it might take the secret part out :rolleyes:
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    Just go

    "So yeh, Valentines day. It sucks really doesn't it?"

    And she'll either go "Yeh, totally" in which case you continue and ask "So what, you're not with anyone?"

    Or she'll go "No" to the valentines day question and then talk about her boyfriend whom she loves, and you leave her alone in that department.

    Ah, Valentines day. That time of year when it's easy to find out if people are single or not.
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    (Original post by Oziris)
    but then what can i put in the card to make it look like it does and doesnt mean something at the same time? :p:
    Umm... just put something that makes her think you're interested, and then if she isn't interested you can say... that she took it the wrong way... or you can say "f*ck off b*tch!!!" because we all know that being friends with someone you fancy but doesn't feel the same way is difficult and pointless and hurtful and annoying, and you're never going to get what you want so you might as well cut your losses and run away.

    :hmpf:
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    (Original post by Toy Soldier)
    Umm... just put something that makes her think you're interested, and then if she isn't interested you can say... that she took it the wrong way... or you can say "f*ck off b*tch!!!" because we all know that being friends with someone you fancy but doesn't feel the same way is difficult and pointless and hurtful and annoying, and you're never going to get what you want so you might as well cut your losses and run away.

    :hmpf:
    Any suggestions for words...im completely lost right now :p:
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    (Original post by Oziris)
    Any suggestions for words...im completely lost right now :p:
    Roses are red
    [somethings] are green
    Now you won't have to sit
    On the washing machine!


    ...well that's lame.
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    (Original post by Toy Soldier)
    Roses are red
    [somethings] are green
    Now you won't have to sit
    On the washing machine!


    ...well that's lame.

    Well yeah.. :p:

    guess i might have to use my brain on this one :eek:
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    I found out she doesnt have a boyfriend

    and also someone else from work said she likes me but i cant tell if he is joking or not :confused:
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    (Original post by Oziris)
    I found out she doesnt have a boyfriend

    and also someone else from work said she likes me but i cant tell if he is joking or not :confused:
    Sounds as though you need to make a move!
    Could try the 'I don't think I can face all the valentines couples in the club - how about going to a film with me?'
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    we are both working until 9pm on the 14th and she is coming out for my birthday thing on the 17th, so i will get her a card and see what happens
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    (Original post by Oziris)
    I found out she doesnt have a boyfriend

    and also someone else from work said she likes me but i cant tell if he is joking or not :confused:
    Just talk about what a bummer it is to have no one to do anything fun with on Valentines day and then ask if she'd like to join you somewhere. cinema, dinner, anything social. :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Oziris)
    we are both working until 9pm on the 14th and she is coming out for my birthday thing on the 17th, so i will get her a card and see what happens
    Ooo...write a bunch in the card. It's always more appealing when you see that someone cares enough about you to sit down and write it out personally.
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    (Original post by Oziris)
    I found out she doesnt have a boyfriend

    and also someone else from work said she likes me but i cant tell if he is joking or not :confused:
    Aw hell yeah, that's awesome man! Hope it all goes well and you have more luck that most of us.

    I'm gonna be sending a card to someone, and I'm pretty sure she doesn't have a boyfriend. If she does...I'll run.
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    Aw hell yeah, that's awesome man! Hope it all goes well and you have more luck that most of us.

    I'm gonna be sending a card to someone, and I'm pretty sure she doesn't have a boyfriend. If she does...I'll run.
    Damn im gonna have to rely on luck..hope that pulls through for once
 
 
 
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