My First Online Dating Experience - Flirts.com reviews

I'm 22, I'm in college, I'm a little shy about starting a relationship, but it's worth starting at some point. I registered on a site and met a guy there. We talked for a while, but nothing came of it. Now I'm looking for a guy again for a relationship and time to hang out. But I want to learn how to do it in real life and not on a site. How do you deal with the fear of dating? How do you start dating in real life?

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Reply 1

NeoIan

Hi Anna it’s a good question actually because it is a different experience for sure - I can probably help you a bit if you want - pm me if you wish 🙂 Neo

Reply 2

Adz2042

How do you deal with the fear of dating?

It's all about stepping out of your comfort zone. I have difficulty starting conversations with new people, and I find that if friends do the initial introduction, I can interject and continue the conversation more easily.

How do you start dating in real life?
Meeting people in social settings, e.g., university events, social events, music events, sports, etc. Find those who you think you'll get on well with, then ask if they want to meet up outside of the activity. If they say yes, then start as friends before seeing if you develop feelings/interests.

Most people meet their other half by plucking up their confidence and asking them out. Others take their time and will do so in a social setting. It varies a lot.

Reply 3

danielwooog

I totally understand where you're coming from! I recently read some reviews on Flirts.com reviews, and a lot of people shared similar experiences. Dealing with the fear of dating can be tough, but like you said, it's all about stepping out of your comfort zone. For me, it helped to start small—like joining online communities or using dating platforms where you can take things at your own pace and get comfortable talking to new people without the immediate pressure of face-to-face interaction.

Starting dating in real life can feel daunting, but it’s really about finding what works best for you. Social events, hobbies, or even university gatherings are great places to meet new people. I’ve found that keeping things casual at first and just focusing on building a connection as friends can take a lot of the pressure off. Plus, if things do progress into something more, it happens naturally, which feels less intimidating!

Remember, everyone’s journey in dating is unique, and it’s perfectly okay to take things at your own pace. 😊

Reply 4

NeoIan

I would say that the above recomendation of real life meeting is much better if at all possible, social groups focused on face to face collaborations on things you are interested in and want to do is much better as it means you can trust who you are talking to, establish communication on all levels, not just text, and truly understand where they are coming from.

For girls its easier as men tend to still approach girls for first conversations I think, and like my freind above sayes start with casual freindships with multiple people, dont get focused on one person as it restricts your options and takes the pressure off. Find our about them well before changing it to an intimate relationship if at all possible.

Reply 5

Marrknee

hi anna, i also want to date, you know have a proper relationship, where are you based and what kind of guys do you like

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by Anna 3

Hi girl!! As a 25 year old female myself, well done for going out of your comfort zone! That's better than waiting for nothing to take place because sometimes we do have to start putting the effort and work into dating ourselves.

Now with dating- you have to be very careful even more so with strangers online. You will not meet people off the bat that you'll have the connection you need to continue forward with your future but know that eventually it may happen.

To help it may be of interest to venture out more. To take things slowly as it comes. I've heard of couples meeting from waiting in fast food restaurants etc. What to do is to try and practice your body language skills and facial expressions. It does make a difference when you show someone you are interested based on how you look at them, smile, and show that you are into them. Now, sometimes this won't work unless you know for certain the other is also interested too from their cues. Doesn't hurt to even go up and just ask them for directions somewhere- to then ask for their number etc. Normally we expect men to do this but nowadays men aren't doing that much.

What may also help is by joining clubs of interest, joining a gym, a choir, a youth/young adults group at church (if you're up for that?). Read up on dating books if you can or listen to dating podcasts for females! Most importantly, be yourself. Don't ever make yourself small to make someone want or love you! You are here for a purpose and will find the right man one day! You're still young. You're still allowed to make roam to learn and make some mistakes along the way. Don't panic! ☺️🙏

Reply 7

NeoIan

Original post by Anonymous

Hi girl!! As a 25 year old female myself, well done for going out of your comfort zone! That's better than waiting for nothing to take place because sometimes we do have to start putting the effort and work into dating ourselves.
Now with dating- you have to be very careful even more so with strangers online. You will not meet people off the bat that you'll have the connection you need to continue forward with your future but know that eventually it may happen.
To help it may be of interest to venture out more. To take things slowly as it comes. I've heard of couples meeting from waiting in fast food restaurants etc. What to do is to try and practice your body language skills and facial expressions. It does make a difference when you show someone you are interested based on how you look at them, smile, and show that you are into them. Now, sometimes this won't work unless you know for certain the other is also interested too from their cues. Doesn't hurt to even go up and just ask them for directions somewhere- to then ask for their number etc. Normally we expect men to do this but nowadays men aren't doing that much.
What may also help is by joining clubs of interest, joining a gym, a choir, a youth/young adults group at church (if you're up for that?). Read up on dating books if you can or listen to dating podcasts for females! Most importantly, be yourself. Don't ever make yourself small to make someone want or love you! You are here for a purpose and will find the right man one day! You're still young. You're still allowed to make roam to learn and make some mistakes along the way. Don't panic! ☺️🙏