Don't want to go to uni anymore

I don't think it's going to be for me. I spent the whole of my gap year feeling excited about going, but now that it's 2 weeks away the thought of leaving home is making me feel sick. I don't see myself enjoying living away from home, I don't even care about the subject I chose anymore. I've already paid a non refundable deposit on my accommodation which was £250. I just want to get out of this. Any advice?

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Admit-One

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Chalk the £250 off, (it’s a lot less than fees and accommodation for a year), find a job and see where it leads you. There’s no law that you need to go uni now or indeed ever.

Just bear in mind that you are going to have to move out at some point.

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

I don't think it's going to be for me. I spent the whole of my gap year feeling excited about going, but now that it's 2 weeks away the thought of leaving home is making me feel sick. I don't see myself enjoying living away from home, I don't even care about the subject I chose anymore. I've already paid a non refundable deposit on my accommodation which was £250. I just want to get out of this. Any advice?

Try and find some uni group chats & talk to people if u can. Also there are many options to switch courses or speak to an academic advisor once you arrive. Uni is truly a once in a lifetime experience & you will honestly regret not going to uni, over going to uni & hating it.

Also I get the impression that you fear you'll be homesick, so just try to bring things that remind you of home & plan trips home and trips for your family to visit you.

I hope this helps.

Original post by Anonymous

I don't think it's going to be for me. I spent the whole of my gap year feeling excited about going, but now that it's 2 weeks away the thought of leaving home is making me feel sick. I don't see myself enjoying living away from home, I don't even care about the subject I chose anymore. I've already paid a non refundable deposit on my accommodation which was £250. I just want to get out of this. Any advice?

Hi

Congratulations on getting into your chosen Uni.

I am sorry to hear that you are feeling like this. I would speak to your family and friends about how you are feeling, remember if you aren't feeling passionate about the course try not to worry, there is sometimes a chance of switching courses when you get to Uni, you can speak to your personal tutor about this.

In addition to this, I would plan a few dates whereby your family can come up to visit you or you come back to visit them. This gives you something to look forward to.

I hope this helps,

Matt
Wrexham Uni Reps

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Anonymous #3

Sorry you feel like this. Absolutely it is your choice whether to go or not go to uni. But maybe worth asking yourself what it is that you're most averse to. Is it uni, or is it change? You mention not wanting to move out of your home. Sounds like it is a nice safe place. That's great. But it will always be there to go back to. I hope you don't let fear of change influence your decision about uni, because honestly I bet most new students are feeling quite similar, and I'm just thinking that once you met them, you might feel better? Good luck in your decision.

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Anonymous #4

If going to uni will not make you happy, and you are 100% certain of it, forget about the money. Just do something else and see where life leads you. You can always go back to uni later.

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Analyst89

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Original post by Anonymous

I don't think it's going to be for me. I spent the whole of my gap year feeling excited about going, but now that it's 2 weeks away the thought of leaving home is making me feel sick. I don't see myself enjoying living away from home, I don't even care about the subject I chose anymore. I've already paid a non refundable deposit on my accommodation which was £250. I just want to get out of this. Any advice?

You can study at home at your own pace, full time or part time on the degree of your choice at The Open University.

Original post by Anonymous

I don't think it's going to be for me. I spent the whole of my gap year feeling excited about going, but now that it's 2 weeks away the thought of leaving home is making me feel sick. I don't see myself enjoying living away from home, I don't even care about the subject I chose anymore. I've already paid a non refundable deposit on my accommodation which was £250. I just want to get out of this. Any advice?

Hi there!

I think this is more common than you would think and a lot of people feel quite nervous before they start uni and feel like they might not enjoy themselves once they are there. If you have been excited about it throughout your gap year, I feel like this is a big enough sign to try it and see how it goes as you have been excited and it has been something you were looking forward to doing. Once you get to uni and start to meet people, it might start to feel less scary and more exciting again.

I agree with what's been posted- have a look on Facebook and other social media and see if there are any groups that you can join. Usually your university will have a group and then from there there will usually be one for your halls and even your course. This is a good way of meeting some people and you can sometimes find people who will be living in your flat which I found really helped my anxieties about moving in as I already knew some of the people and you can chat to them a little bit. If you find people on your course too this might make you feel better as you know some of the people you will be studying with. It's worth a try!

I would also think about bringing some homely things for your room. Bring some photos of friends and family and also things such as blankets, lights etc to make your room feel more like your own as I found this helped with homesickness while I was at uni, especially in the first few weeks.

I also agree that it might help if you talk to your friends and family about coming up to visit you as this might also make you feel more at ease as you know they are going to come and visit you at some point! Also, FaceTiming them and texting them will help too!

I think once you are at uni, you will enjoy it more than you think you will so it is worth going, especially as you have been so excited about it. However, if you really don't want to go, talk to your accommodation about how you go about ending the contract (if you can) and also speak to your uni about it too.

I hope some of this helps,

Lucy -SHU student ambassador.

Don't want to go to uni anymore

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