Constant fight with mother

So my mother has lately been upsetting me virtually every single day. For no reason other than to vent steam at specifically me. She does not dare to do this to my sister, for some reason. Probably because I cannot respond toughly to people who upset me.
Take today, for example. I had 4 hours of sleep due to extreme stress the past 2 nights in a row. She began pressuring me to supervise granny, who wanted to splash around in the sea. I could barely move from exhaustion in the afternoon, and refused. She got extremely angry, calling me an 'egoist' and all of that. Just now, she walked in, saw me watching something on my computer, got upset, then angry, then told me I valued neither her, nor the computer, nor myself, and left.
Or yesterday, when I was extremely stressed out and questioned why I cannot sleep in my own room, she straight-on took my absolute biggest fear, and began rubbing it in my face. 'Oh you will NEVER be in a relationship if you don't do this'. I was one step away from walking off my flight due to stress, last thing I needed was that.
She is usually very nice, but sometimes has these episodes where she gets so angry she loses control of herself. And the target of her anger is always invariably me. When I need help with something, she jumps at the chance to criticise me, even when I have done nothing wrong.

Reply 1

NeoIan

Ok so this isnt easy but actually situations like this are an oportunity to test yourself too, and drop ego. I say this from experieince ok, im not some yogi in calfornia with out a family telling others how to make it all better which i hate.

Your mum has her own issues im sure, and it gets hard as you get older ok, money, situation, health, worries about you and your future - not easy at all.
Being humble is the only way, if you bite back (even when your in the right) you fuel the insesent need of the "pain body" for more drama, whatever your beliefs / religion etc - there is an energy entity called the pain body, imagine gollam from lord of the rings but worse, an entity with intelliegence that feeds off arguements and conflict. You may see if bascially everywhere in the world right now, and its gets worse before better. Social mediia, hatred and ignorance feeds it - it loves all that, and any conflict at home or between nations or groups it loves - and guess what theres one in you - when it reads this it might even get angry becuase it hates being called out or seen :smile:

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When your mums pain body meets yours, bit like mine and my daughters, they want to fight and argue, they love it. Everything in their makeup relies on the argusments and conflicts - indeed they are constructed of pain so the more they get the stronger they get.
Watching it and seeing it for what it is however will dissapate the pain - the pain body hates being brought to the light, as its power starts to go and literally turn back into good energy.
If you can just start to take some of the situations and turn them to calm, without being annoying, dont try to act like (no offense to churchy types) a nice than nice vicar - it will wind her pain body up - but be nice and understand you are part of the issue too sometimes. Remember your mum is older and her pain body has grown more than yours ok, its not her fault everyone has them.
Try to be - watch - and not react - be / watch / and understand. You might be surprised.
Good luck my freind -