Is it possible for her to feel comfortable with me with time like this other girl?

I am a 23 year old male living in Bangalore in India but born in Siliguri in West Bengal in India and basically never had a gf before. Was always shy near girls in school days and didn't have female interactions due to shyness until like 21 or 22 but currently studying MBA and finally overcame my shyness near girls and talked with several girls in my University recently but I really started liking one of them(lets call her D) who is 22 and she is my junior who is in 1st year of her MBA and I just entered 2nd year of my MBA 2-3 weeks ago. She is a Punjabi girl who is also an introvert similar to me and is soft spoken too. We only talked for 8 days in person so far so we are still kinda in the early stages of getting to know each other and we aren't even classmates. The first 6 days, we had some good conversations and even followed each other on Instagram but during our last few days which was 3-4 days ago, our conversations were shorter as she said her friends are waiting for her or that she has stuffs to do. So I was really overthinking a lot whether she is avoiding me or something.

So I asked my close male friend for an advice for the overthinking and he suggested me to send a relatable meme to her on Instagram as my first message so I did send her a meme which she can relate too and she reacted to it with laughing emoji which is a positive sign. Then we had a small chat but her replies seemed to be short like when I asked her How was her day, she just replied "it was good" and then I said about being nervous about my viva presentation in University next day and she just replied "Oh" and then I decided to end the conversation by replying "Yeah" with a laughing emoji and she then left it on seen and maybe I will message her another day or meet her in person tomorrow in University. Idk whether its really lack of interest or just because of her introverted nature and we are still in early stages of getting to know each other. She doesn't even post any pics or stories on Instagram.

But I am not losing hope yet because there is this other girl(lets call her P) who is also 23 now and used to be in the same school as me but due to my shyness I never talked with any girls during high school so she didn't know me fully. She is a Marathi girl and I messaged P on Instagram over 4 months ago and initially in our first 1-2 months of chatting, she used to give short and even one word replies too and even leave my text on seen at times too but slowly with time, she did become more comfortable and we started sharing about our hobbies, what we like to eat, where and all we traveled and our music taste and finally recently we decided to go to eat somewhere soon as we are both foodies. She no longer leaves my texts on seen and replies whenever she can even if she is busy and she gives better replies nowadays too. So it shows that its still possible for some people to eventually get more comfortable even if initially they gave short replies so is it still possible for D to get comfortable with me too for longer conversations and getting closer with each other with time just like it happened with P especially as D is an introvert and we only talked with each other in person for 8 days?

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