What’s your “type”?

If you don’t mind sharing, please state your gender and orientation.

I realize it’s a pretty open-ended question, but I’m asking it this way because I literally still have zero experience with love or sex whatsoever, and I don’t want to sound dumb on here.

I also wonder if any of you might have a different “type” for short-term/hookup/one-night relationships than for dating/long-term relationships? If so, why?

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Reply 1

TooWeirdToLive

Original post by quinvincible

If you don’t mind sharing, please state your gender and orientation.
I realize it’s a pretty open-ended question, but I’m asking it this way because I literally still have zero experience with love or sex whatsoever, and I don’t want to sound dumb on here.
I also wonder if any of you might have a different “type” for short-term/hookup/one-night relationships than for dating/long-term relationships? If so, why?

I'm female and straight (I think anyway)🤔 I don't tend to do much in terms of flings, but been in a longer term relationship (2+ years), as well as a short term one (4/5 month). I can try and list some things that come to mind.

My type.. well I've discussed it jokingly with work colleagues or friends but if I had to point out themes or actually what I would like to see in a partner:
Personality

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Definitely a nerd in some way - sharing some interests in anime, games, comics, or even books/poetry

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A sense of humour - honestly though I prefer some mischief or spontaneity too. I can be quite silly, so would appreciate someone who finds that fun too.

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Chatty, easy to talk to... also not boring in conversation🤣. I hate small talk.. well not all of it... but I like to have deep conversations or go on random funny tangents, etc.

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Intelligent... in way they can enjoy puzzles, poetry/reading, converse meaningfully about media or things we can enjoy together... but I don't need Einstein.

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Thoughtful and considerate, especially without being asked to. This is something I see as quite important, as my long term ex-boyfriend could be kind and empathetic, but did show less of this towards me. Someone who respects my boundaries 🙂

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Self-awareness (something I want to see more)

Physical aspects

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Preferably brunette

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Some facial hair is cool, or none at all... but not a full on bushy beard. Its too itchy :frown:

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I'm more on the side of having shorter hair in a boyfriend, but wouldn't mind a bit longer if it was styled nicely. Like if it was swishy curls 😉

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I prefer more cute in the face than like.. really masculine.

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I do find myself liking glasses (phwoar) but not absolutely needed in the ensemble.

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Taller than me (5ft, 2in) but not much additional height needed.

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Not too thin, I do need something to cuddle. I'm not stick thin myself, so muscles and thin only would make me self-conscious.

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😉 Nice butt would be nice, oooh and good shoulders.

(edited 10 months ago)

Reply 2

Emily's Teapot

I'm really guilty with having a double standard with guys I like for a relationship vs hookups.

I'm female, straight, blonde (stereotypically so).

I really like kind, thoughtful guys for romance or dating; the kind of guys you can take home to meet your parents.

But when it comes to a hookup I do like a more dark menacing type haha.

Maybe one day I'll find a man who is the perfect balance.

Reply 3

quinvincible

Original post by TooWeirdToLive

I'm female and straight (I think anyway)🤔 I don't tend to do much in terms of flings, but been in a longer term relationship (2+ years), as well as a short term one (4/5 month). I can try and list some things that come to mind.
My type.. well I've discussed it jokingly with work colleagues or friends but if I had to point out themes or actually what I would like to see in a partner:
Personality

•

Definitely a nerd in some way - sharing some interests in anime, games, comics, or even books/poetry

•

A sense of humour - honestly though I prefer some mischief or spontaneity too. I can be quite silly, so would appreciate someone who finds that fun too.

•

Chatty, easy to talk to... also not boring in conversation🤣. I hate small talk.. well not all of it... but I like to have deep conversations or go on random funny tangents, etc.

•

Intelligent... in way they can enjoy puzzles, poetry/reading, converse meaningfully about media or things we can enjoy together... but I don't need Einstein.

•

Self-awareness (something I want to see more)

Physical aspects

•

Preferably brunette

•

Some facial hair is cool, or none at all... but not a full on bushy beard. Its too itchy :frown:

•

I'm more on the side of having shorter hair in a boyfriend, but wouldn't mind a bit longer if it was styled nicely. Like if it was swishy curls 😉

•

I prefer more cute in the face than like.. really masculine.

•

I do find myself liking glasses (phwoar) but not absolutely needed in the ensemble.

•

Taller than me (5ft, 2in) but not much additional height needed.

•

Not too thin, I do need something to cuddle. I'm not stick thin myself, so muscles and thin only would make me self-conscious.

•

😉 Nice butt would be nice, oooh and good shoulders.

I'm curious as to what makes a set of shoulders "good" or "bad"? Lol.

Reply 4

ICEcold_Stoic

Type A I think, I'll have to double check with my doctor tho

Reply 5

TooWeirdToLive

Original post by quinvincible

I'm curious as to what makes a set of shoulders "good" or "bad"? Lol.

A lot of folks have asked what I mean by good shoulders.. 🫣 It's hard to describe because I'm not actively that bothered about finding somebody. But I suppose the kind of shoulders that are broader.. sturdy and fun to hold 🤣 I'm not even talking muscle or body building because I've never found men who love the gym attractive..

(edited 10 months ago)

Reply 6

pinkpanda1

Original post by quinvincible

If you don’t mind sharing, please state your gender and orientation.
I realize it’s a pretty open-ended question, but I’m asking it this way because I literally still have zero experience with love or sex whatsoever, and I don’t want to sound dumb on here.
I also wonder if any of you might have a different “type” for short-term/hookup/one-night relationships than for dating/long-term relationships? If so, why?

male, straight (Asian, attached). Didn't mind really for a fling but my current gf is asian so ig thats my type

Reply 7

Emily's Teapot

Original post by pinkpanda1

male, straight (Asian, attached). Didn't mind really for a fling but my current gf is asian so ig thats my type

Would you only date Asians cus of your parents or your choice? I know for some cultures it's really important to be with someone within that culture. Obviously that's not the same as white people just being racist. I'm from a very white area of the countryside so I don't have many options yet lol

Reply 8

pinkpanda1

Original post by Emily's Teapot

u live england? my parents dont rlly care what race i date but fellow asians are sm easier to relate to

Reply 9

PenguinWhale

Original post by pinkpanda1

u live england? my parents dont rlly care what race i date but fellow asians are sm easier to relate to

i’m asian too! i live in canada tho. do u live somewhere with a lot of asians or very few

as for a type, i haven’t dated before so i genuinely don’t know what my type would be 🤷*♀️

Reply 10

pinkpanda1

Original post by PenguinWhale

i’m asian too! i live in canada tho. do u live somewhere with a lot of asians or very few
as for a type, i haven’t dated before so i genuinely don’t know what my type would be 🤷*♀️

nah im east asian so like korean-chinese theres lots of indians where im at but not a lot of east asians
you dont need to rlly have a type lk a type cld be an appearance or personality or anything u find in common with ppl u find attractive

Reply 11

PenguinWhale

Original post by pinkpanda1

cool i’m east asian too! (chinese specifically) is your girlfriend also east asian, or south asian?

i don’t have much of a type in terms of appearance i don’t think, maybe a bit of a preference but nothing i can really think of a way to put into words concretely. as for personality i’m quite shy and reserved myself, not too flashy or outgoing, so i guess i would also prefer someone who’s more of a humble person too. this is all conjecture tho, and maybe i would find that i like just the opposite…idk really 😕

Reply 12

pinkpanda1

she chinese and probably much smarter than me
i dont like her mum tho

Reply 13

PenguinWhale

oh thats cool!

Original post by pinkpanda1

she chinese and probably much smarter than me
i dont like her mum tho

oof why not?

Reply 14

Emily's Teapot

Original post by pinkpanda1

u live england? my parents dont rlly care what race i date but fellow asians are sm easier to relate to

Yeh in the countryside near the Welsh border. It's really nice but it's pretty much only white people haha

Reply 15

pinkpanda1

Original post by PenguinWhale

oh thats cool!
oof why not?

nah so one day her mum somehow got my ig and dmmed me to see if i was loyal and shi. i passed that but her mums always like how her daughter is better than me at lk maths and that

Reply 16

pinkpanda1

Original post by Emily's Teapot

Yeh in the countryside near the Welsh border. It's really nice but it's pretty much only white people haha

near shrewsbury?

Reply 17

PenguinWhale

Original post by pinkpanda1

nah so one day her mum somehow got my ig and dmmed me to see if i was loyal and shi. i passed that but her mums always like how her daughter is better than me at lk maths and that

that sucks ☹️ well if it’s any consolation at least she’s allowed to date lol, most asian parents i knew wouldn’t have allowed it especially as a teenager 😕

Reply 18

pinkpanda1

Original post by PenguinWhale

that sucks ☹️ well if it’s any consolation at least she’s allowed to date lol, most asian parents i knew wouldn’t have allowed it especially as a teenager 😕

shes smart enough dont need to worry abt grades for her. her mum is the opposite may to eager and always telling me to take my gf out every day when i have other stuff to do