I'm confused about him
My boyfriend and I started our relationship when I was 17, and he was 19. I truly loved him, but after two months, he started pushing for intimacy (by this, I mean kissing). I felt uncomfortable, but I went along with it to make him happy. Later, I found out that he had told all his friends how many times we had been intimate. Whenever I refused his advances, he would get angry. He even suggested multiple times that we rent a room somewhere far away to spend time together. I started to feel confused, wondering if he was more interested in satisfying his physical needs. Eventually, I broke up with him, but he continued to reach out to me in every way possible, which I ignored. Now, at 22, I still have some lingering feelings for him, but I’m torn and unsure whether he ever truly loved me or was just using me to fulfill his physical desires.
Hey, someone who truly respects you wouldnt keep pushing and asking for something you dont want to give. Guys are generally imature at 19 so its not unexpected that he might have acted that way, I assume hes now 24 so may have matured a bit - but i dont know him so difficult to say and for many guys it will take years for them to truly grow up.
What do you want, have you met anyone better, are you desperate to be with him specifically ?
Neo
What do you want, have you met anyone better, are you desperate to be with him specifically ?
Neo
Original post by NeoIan
Hey, someone who truly respects you wouldnt keep pushing and asking for something you dont want to give. Guys are generally imature at 19 so its not unexpected that he might have acted that way, I assume hes now 24 so may have matured a bit - but i dont know him so difficult to say and for many guys it will take years for them to truly grow up.
What do you want, have you met anyone better, are you desperate to be with him specifically ?
Neo
What do you want, have you met anyone better, are you desperate to be with him specifically ?
Neo
Lately, I've been thinking about him a lot.. but I'm uncertain if he'll pressure me again for the same things. I've just begun my career as an IT professional and want to reach the peak of success....yet I feel like something is missing—him. I can't seem to make a clear decision.
Oh ok - but you shouldnt be worrying about that to be honest with him if he were a good guy, i understand its confusing though as sometimes you can get lost in wanting him for the nice things about him.
It sounds like your career is going well and you have a plan, so he should want to be with you for the right reasons as you sound like a decent hard working person with a vision - is he the same type of person ?
Feel free to PM me if you want too.
It sounds like your career is going well and you have a plan, so he should want to be with you for the right reasons as you sound like a decent hard working person with a vision - is he the same type of person ?
Feel free to PM me if you want too.
Original post by NeoIan
Oh sorry I havent used insta in a while to be honest sorry, might be able to get it working 🙂
Can you pm me ?
Original post by Anonymous
Can you pm me ?
You need to join thread as you and not anonymous lol
Anyway in regards your original question I think you need to be somewhat selfish and value yourself to be honest. Its nice you find good things in this guy, but there are plenty of fish in the sea, and a true man will respect a lovely lady's wants and pace of relationship so I would keep a somehwhat open mind on who you want to be with and the various options convince you first and formost without filling your lonelyness with the wrong person ?🙂
While getting back together is not always a mistake, I would remind you of the saying that the grass is always greener on the other side.
Essentially, a lot of people like to remember the good without remembering the bad and while that's fine if your just thinking of him, if your actually meeting each other then you should remember his negative traits as well in order to evaluate what kind of man he is now.
Essentially, a lot of people like to remember the good without remembering the bad and while that's fine if your just thinking of him, if your actually meeting each other then you should remember his negative traits as well in order to evaluate what kind of man he is now.
Original post by Rakas21
While getting back together is not always a mistake, I would remind you of the saying that the grass is always greener on the other side.
Essentially, a lot of people like to remember the good without remembering the bad and while that's fine if your just thinking of him, if your actually meeting each other then you should remember his negative traits as well in order to evaluate what kind of man he is now.
Essentially, a lot of people like to remember the good without remembering the bad and while that's fine if your just thinking of him, if your actually meeting each other then you should remember his negative traits as well in order to evaluate what kind of man he is now.
It's been 5years since I met him.
Original post by Anonymous
It's been 5years since I met him.
Its five years so a fiarly long time in fact, and so some good space is there to make the right decision.
Original post by Anonymous
It's been 5years since I met him.
What stands out to me is that in the 4.5 years since breaking up with him, you've not met a guy that's far better than him?
The sort of guy that may well take the lead in escalating towards sex AND that remains calm and in a good mood when you rebuff his escalations.
Actually, you should have met dozens of guys that are better than him in this key respect.
Use extreme caution if you do start seeing this guy again. And at the first sign that he's still poor at handling stressful situations or setbacks, or that he lacks empathy, get out of there.
Original post by Anonymous
Lately, I've been thinking about him a lot.. but I'm uncertain if he'll pressure me again for the same things. I've just begun my career as an IT professional and want to reach the peak of success....yet I feel like something is missing—him. I can't seem to make a clear decision.
Original post by Anonymous
My boyfriend and I started our relationship when I was 17, and he was 19. I truly loved him, but after two months, he started pushing for intimacy (by this, I mean kissing). I felt uncomfortable, but I went along with it to make him happy. Later, I found out that he had told all his friends how many times we had been intimate. Whenever I refused his advances, he would get angry. He even suggested multiple times that we rent a room somewhere far away to spend time together. I started to feel confused, wondering if he was more interested in satisfying his physical needs. Eventually, I broke up with him, but he continued to reach out to me in every way possible, which I ignored. Now, at 22, I still have some lingering feelings for him, but I’m torn and unsure whether he ever truly loved me or was just using me to fulfill his physical desires.
Hey, do you mind pming me?
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