Work drama

I’m in a situation where I just see myself as so low, to cut a long story short I’ve spoken to a guy from work, and it didn’t work out, cool. I was interested in another guy at work, but was told he usually tries chatting up girls, I lost interest immediately, became very distant to him but he still messages me from time to time. Now there’s another guy at work who really likes me (I do not like him) & we had a conversation where apparently I was being giggly and giving off the vibe I was interested in him, our colleagues around us noticed this apparently & egged him on more. Now they think I’m interested when I’m not. I do not like this third guy & only spoke to him as he sat next to me & me being me I am very friendly especially in a work environment I don’t want to seem like a ***** nor create a hostile environment or have bad blood with a colleague. My friends have been advising me that I could begin to portray myself in a certain image that people may have the impression that I’m just an easy girl, which in actuality is not, I’ve never had a ex and am extremely picky with men. However this has started to bug me because i know myself and I’d hate to be seen as the girl who speaks to many guys. What are you thoughts on this? Do you see me as the easy girl?

Reply 1

MysteryyyGirl86

from now on just stay polite, try your hardest not to lead him on. your coworkers don't get to decide who you are. i would also recommend not being in relationships with your coworkers

Reply 2

NeoIan

Hey so from a guys point of you its like this, if you are an attractive girl, personality and looks combined men will like you simple as, as to wether they think you are liking them back well thats difficult to gauge for any guy - but i think you have to draw a line in your actions I guess to make it clear whats you being nice, and then what you being flirty or interested.

I would also mirror 86s comments in that starting a relationship at work is tricky becuase if it fails or even works out you then have to hang your dirty or non dirty washing out in front of everyone every day and thats hard to be honest. So step carefully but dont count it out. Worse case two of them will fall for you and then you have a work drama for sure, so just draw the line i would say ?