stop parents complaining

How do I make my parents stop complaining about my uni timetable. I have 2 days with like 2-3 hours of lectures and then a day with like 5 hours. Then 2 days off. They keep complaining and keep saying that they hate the fact i’m going to uni and paying the absurd amount of money for only learning 3 days a week, not even full days either because apparently back in their days, they were constantly busy. I get that but I can’t make my timetable and then complaining at me is just making me stressed and idk what to tell them. If i drop out, they won’t be happy but if I go, they won’t be happy. i’m doing a foundation course brw

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Ccreds

6

What they are spotting is the real risk of disenfranchisement. They can see how many distractions will end up filling your time (take it from someone who spent months living in a car on a beach in New Zealand whilst meant to be at uni with the obvious late hand ins). The best way to solve this is to fill the time gaps with uni related activity and tell them about it. This will create the right depth and networking experience for you and get them off your back. 9% interest is going to take you decades to clear, it’s insane, they know it but they can’t quite communicate the fact that uni nowadays is not the fun time for wastrels that it was. This is basically like a full time job with serious consequences. Don’t let anyone tell you life will be easy or ‘it was harder in my day’ because young people have it tough. You need to just show them you get that fact.

Just join clubs, societies and everything you can plus get a job on campus if you can. This will sort it out in short order and you’ll have a better time and get better grades as a result.

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rosina05

10

A lot of the learning done on university courses is done independently - I know on my course I am in 4 days a week but it’s still 83% independent in the first year. I’m just going into first year in a few weeks so not so sure what independent learning looks like but it may be worth bringing that up with your parents :smile:

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by rosina05

A lot of the learning done on university courses is done independently - I know on my course I am in 4 days a week but it’s still 83% independent in the first year. I’m just going into first year in a few weeks so not so sure what independent learning looks like but it may be worth bringing that up with your parents :smile:

Yeah I keep telling them that it’s most independent and you got work and reading to do but my dad just said to me how he no longer wants me to go into this uni and change course

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martin7

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Original post by Anonymous

Yeah I keep telling them that it’s most independent and you got work and reading to do but my dad just said to me how he no longer wants me to go into this uni and change course

The number of contact hours varies between subjects -- some have more contact hours, and some have less. It may be that your parents did degrees in different subjects that had more contact hours.

I'm not convinced that students spend significantly less time in lectures than they did 20-30 years ago.

You're quite right that students are expected to spend a lot of time studying independently. Lectures are an introduction to a topic, not everything you need to know about it.

Reply 5

unharmed-profess

9

Original post by Anonymous

How do I make my parents stop complaining about my uni timetable. I have 2 days with like 2-3 hours of lectures and then a day with like 5 hours. Then 2 days off. They keep complaining and keep saying that they hate the fact i’m going to uni and paying the absurd amount of money for only learning 3 days a week, not even full days either because apparently back in their days, they were constantly busy. I get that but I can’t make my timetable and then complaining at me is just making me stressed and idk what to tell them. If i drop out, they won’t be happy but if I go, they won’t be happy. i’m doing a foundation course brw

Do they have access to your timetable? If not maybe you can add some cheeky sessions of your own make it seem like your doing more lessons maybe? Idkk lying is bad so probably not a good idea

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