I moved into my accommodation today; not sure how to feel.
Hello,
I moved into my university accommodation today at Kingston Uni and don't get me wrong, the room is lovely and the environment seems it too. However, I am really struggling right now. As soon as my mum and step dad left, I broke down in tears and cried for most of the night in bed. It's all so overwhelming, I am so far away from home and I do not feel safe. I can't explain it, I have agoraphobia and this all feels so impossible. I'm unsure what to do right now, I just want to go home and rest, feel better but I can't. It says I have to pay for the full license period if I wanted to cancel now and I cannot afford that. I'm literally a mature student and I feel that I still have the brain of a child, I do not understand anything and struggle with everything. I feel that I am just going to live with my parents forever and won't be able to get a job due to how bad my anxiety and everything is. I don't even want a job in the future, I don't see a point. I have had chest pains for the past few hours just with the stress. Why did I do this to myself and my parents? I wasted their time bringing me on over a 12 hour car ride just for me to want to go back home. There's no point talking to anyone as they wouldn't understand. I just don't want to be here.
I moved into my university accommodation today at Kingston Uni and don't get me wrong, the room is lovely and the environment seems it too. However, I am really struggling right now. As soon as my mum and step dad left, I broke down in tears and cried for most of the night in bed. It's all so overwhelming, I am so far away from home and I do not feel safe. I can't explain it, I have agoraphobia and this all feels so impossible. I'm unsure what to do right now, I just want to go home and rest, feel better but I can't. It says I have to pay for the full license period if I wanted to cancel now and I cannot afford that. I'm literally a mature student and I feel that I still have the brain of a child, I do not understand anything and struggle with everything. I feel that I am just going to live with my parents forever and won't be able to get a job due to how bad my anxiety and everything is. I don't even want a job in the future, I don't see a point. I have had chest pains for the past few hours just with the stress. Why did I do this to myself and my parents? I wasted their time bringing me on over a 12 hour car ride just for me to want to go back home. There's no point talking to anyone as they wouldn't understand. I just don't want to be here.
Original post by Anonymous
Hello,
I moved into my university accommodation today at Kingston Uni and don't get me wrong, the room is lovely and the environment seems it too. However, I am really struggling right now. As soon as my mum and step dad left, I broke down in tears and cried for most of the night in bed. It's all so overwhelming, I am so far away from home and I do not feel safe. I can't explain it, I have agoraphobia and this all feels so impossible. I'm unsure what to do right now, I just want to go home and rest, feel better but I can't. It says I have to pay for the full license period if I wanted to cancel now and I cannot afford that. I'm literally a mature student and I feel that I still have the brain of a child, I do not understand anything and struggle with everything. I feel that I am just going to live with my parents forever and won't be able to get a job due to how bad my anxiety and everything is. I don't even want a job in the future, I don't see a point. I have had chest pains for the past few hours just with the stress. Why did I do this to myself and my parents? I wasted their time bringing me on over a 12 hour car ride just for me to want to go back home. There's no point talking to anyone as they wouldn't understand. I just don't want to be here.
I moved into my university accommodation today at Kingston Uni and don't get me wrong, the room is lovely and the environment seems it too. However, I am really struggling right now. As soon as my mum and step dad left, I broke down in tears and cried for most of the night in bed. It's all so overwhelming, I am so far away from home and I do not feel safe. I can't explain it, I have agoraphobia and this all feels so impossible. I'm unsure what to do right now, I just want to go home and rest, feel better but I can't. It says I have to pay for the full license period if I wanted to cancel now and I cannot afford that. I'm literally a mature student and I feel that I still have the brain of a child, I do not understand anything and struggle with everything. I feel that I am just going to live with my parents forever and won't be able to get a job due to how bad my anxiety and everything is. I don't even want a job in the future, I don't see a point. I have had chest pains for the past few hours just with the stress. Why did I do this to myself and my parents? I wasted their time bringing me on over a 12 hour car ride just for me to want to go back home. There's no point talking to anyone as they wouldn't understand. I just don't want to be here.
Hey, it’s totally normal to feel like that! My sister went through the exact same thing when she first started. Before she knew it, she had made friends, settled in, and now she's graduated with a great career. So don’t give up—you’d only regret it later. You’ve got this! Because of your anxiety, it might be a good idea to talk to a health professional who can help you manage your symptoms. Everyone faces daily struggles and mental health challenges, but it’s something you can get through. Just think about how proud your parents will be—there really is light at the end of the tunnel. Watch a movie, read a book, grab something to eat, just try to distract yourself. Trust me, once your classes start, you’ll be so busy with coursework that you’ll wish you had more free time! So enjoy it while you can.
At least wait until the course starts if your still not happy in 6 weeks maybe it's not for you and you could drop out and there is no shame in that whatsoever hell I did it at my first university.
Original post by Anonymous
Hello,
I moved into my university accommodation today at Kingston Uni and don't get me wrong, the room is lovely and the environment seems it too. However, I am really struggling right now. As soon as my mum and step dad left, I broke down in tears and cried for most of the night in bed. It's all so overwhelming, I am so far away from home and I do not feel safe. I can't explain it, I have agoraphobia and this all feels so impossible. I'm unsure what to do right now, I just want to go home and rest, feel better but I can't. It says I have to pay for the full license period if I wanted to cancel now and I cannot afford that. I'm literally a mature student and I feel that I still have the brain of a child, I do not understand anything and struggle with everything. I feel that I am just going to live with my parents forever and won't be able to get a job due to how bad my anxiety and everything is. I don't even want a job in the future, I don't see a point. I have had chest pains for the past few hours just with the stress. Why did I do this to myself and my parents? I wasted their time bringing me on over a 12 hour car ride just for me to want to go back home. There's no point talking to anyone as they wouldn't understand. I just don't want to be here.
I moved into my university accommodation today at Kingston Uni and don't get me wrong, the room is lovely and the environment seems it too. However, I am really struggling right now. As soon as my mum and step dad left, I broke down in tears and cried for most of the night in bed. It's all so overwhelming, I am so far away from home and I do not feel safe. I can't explain it, I have agoraphobia and this all feels so impossible. I'm unsure what to do right now, I just want to go home and rest, feel better but I can't. It says I have to pay for the full license period if I wanted to cancel now and I cannot afford that. I'm literally a mature student and I feel that I still have the brain of a child, I do not understand anything and struggle with everything. I feel that I am just going to live with my parents forever and won't be able to get a job due to how bad my anxiety and everything is. I don't even want a job in the future, I don't see a point. I have had chest pains for the past few hours just with the stress. Why did I do this to myself and my parents? I wasted their time bringing me on over a 12 hour car ride just for me to want to go back home. There's no point talking to anyone as they wouldn't understand. I just don't want to be here.
I dont want to sound harsh but you seem to have more problems beyond being in the uni accommodation. As a mature student, the expectation is that you have lived enough to know what you want in life, but it seems that you are still unsure and floating.
I don't know you personally, but you probably have been too sheltered to be independent. As a result, you are worried that this independence is to scary to handle.
My suggestion is to stick to it over the next few months. Hopefully when you meet your hall mates and course mates, you will settle. If you dont settle after 6 months, you can decide from there.
All the best.
Original post by Anonymous
Hello,
I moved into my university accommodation today at Kingston Uni and don't get me wrong, the room is lovely and the environment seems it too. However, I am really struggling right now. As soon as my mum and step dad left, I broke down in tears and cried for most of the night in bed. It's all so overwhelming, I am so far away from home and I do not feel safe. I can't explain it, I have agoraphobia and this all feels so impossible. I'm unsure what to do right now, I just want to go home and rest, feel better but I can't. It says I have to pay for the full license period if I wanted to cancel now and I cannot afford that. I'm literally a mature student and I feel that I still have the brain of a child, I do not understand anything and struggle with everything. I feel that I am just going to live with my parents forever and won't be able to get a job due to how bad my anxiety and everything is. I don't even want a job in the future, I don't see a point. I have had chest pains for the past few hours just with the stress. Why did I do this to myself and my parents? I wasted their time bringing me on over a 12 hour car ride just for me to want to go back home. There's no point talking to anyone as they wouldn't understand. I just don't want to be here.
I moved into my university accommodation today at Kingston Uni and don't get me wrong, the room is lovely and the environment seems it too. However, I am really struggling right now. As soon as my mum and step dad left, I broke down in tears and cried for most of the night in bed. It's all so overwhelming, I am so far away from home and I do not feel safe. I can't explain it, I have agoraphobia and this all feels so impossible. I'm unsure what to do right now, I just want to go home and rest, feel better but I can't. It says I have to pay for the full license period if I wanted to cancel now and I cannot afford that. I'm literally a mature student and I feel that I still have the brain of a child, I do not understand anything and struggle with everything. I feel that I am just going to live with my parents forever and won't be able to get a job due to how bad my anxiety and everything is. I don't even want a job in the future, I don't see a point. I have had chest pains for the past few hours just with the stress. Why did I do this to myself and my parents? I wasted their time bringing me on over a 12 hour car ride just for me to want to go back home. There's no point talking to anyone as they wouldn't understand. I just don't want to be here.
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Does Kingston have a residential team that you can talk to? They’ll be well used to helping people dealing with extreme homesickness.
If you are agrophobic, the unis wellbeing team might also be a useful contact point.
If you are agrophobic, the unis wellbeing team might also be a useful contact point.
Original post by Anonymous
Hello,
I moved into my university accommodation today at Kingston Uni and don't get me wrong, the room is lovely and the environment seems it too. However, I am really struggling right now. As soon as my mum and step dad left, I broke down in tears and cried for most of the night in bed. It's all so overwhelming, I am so far away from home and I do not feel safe. I can't explain it, I have agoraphobia and this all feels so impossible. I'm unsure what to do right now, I just want to go home and rest, feel better but I can't. It says I have to pay for the full license period if I wanted to cancel now and I cannot afford that. I'm literally a mature student and I feel that I still have the brain of a child, I do not understand anything and struggle with everything. I feel that I am just going to live with my parents forever and won't be able to get a job due to how bad my anxiety and everything is. I don't even want a job in the future, I don't see a point. I have had chest pains for the past few hours just with the stress. Why did I do this to myself and my parents? I wasted their time bringing me on over a 12 hour car ride just for me to want to go back home. There's no point talking to anyone as they wouldn't understand. I just don't want to be here.
I moved into my university accommodation today at Kingston Uni and don't get me wrong, the room is lovely and the environment seems it too. However, I am really struggling right now. As soon as my mum and step dad left, I broke down in tears and cried for most of the night in bed. It's all so overwhelming, I am so far away from home and I do not feel safe. I can't explain it, I have agoraphobia and this all feels so impossible. I'm unsure what to do right now, I just want to go home and rest, feel better but I can't. It says I have to pay for the full license period if I wanted to cancel now and I cannot afford that. I'm literally a mature student and I feel that I still have the brain of a child, I do not understand anything and struggle with everything. I feel that I am just going to live with my parents forever and won't be able to get a job due to how bad my anxiety and everything is. I don't even want a job in the future, I don't see a point. I have had chest pains for the past few hours just with the stress. Why did I do this to myself and my parents? I wasted their time bringing me on over a 12 hour car ride just for me to want to go back home. There's no point talking to anyone as they wouldn't understand. I just don't want to be here.
Hello,
I am so sorry you are currently feel this way. The same thing happened to me when my parents dropped me off, I was quite upset. It can be really hard to leave family and live in a new place. It definitely took me a few weeks to feel more at peace with my decision, but now I am so exited to start my second year and had a really great first year. It is completely okay to struggle, so try not to be too hard on yourself about it.
There is lots of support here at Kingston, here is the link to wellbeing services Wellbeing services - Health and Wellbeing - Kingston University London. It may be daunting at first to sign up or talk to someone, as I know I put it off for a while, but it can be useful to help understand and come to terms with your thoughts and to not be so hard on yourself about them. I would really recommend it. Essentially some of your tuition does go towards making sure these services run, so you may as well make the most of them.
There is also a Residential Life team here that work to make sure you feel at safe and happy in halls. They would be more than happy to discuss your concerns with you and listen. It is a really friendly team. You can get in contact with them by emailing at [email protected] or directly messaging on the Instagram page @reslifeku
I would love to hear what halls you are currently staying at, if you are happy to share, as I may be able to give you some recommendations of things to do near by to help you settle in and familiarise yourself with your surroundings.
I hope this helps and I am happy to chat and listen to your worries. You can always private message on here
-Grace (Kingston Rep)
Hey, I totally get how you're feeling. Moving away from home can be super overwhelming, especially when you're dealing with agoraphobia. I had a tough time adjusting when I first moved into my university dorm, too. I remember feeling like everything was just too much and I wanted to go home so badly.
Try to break things down into smaller steps—like making your room feel more like home or taking short walks around campus. It might help to talk to a counselor at the university; they’re used to helping students through exactly this kind of situation. And don’t be too hard on yourself—adjusting takes time, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed at first. It’s a big change, and it’s normal to feel this way.
Try to break things down into smaller steps—like making your room feel more like home or taking short walks around campus. It might help to talk to a counselor at the university; they’re used to helping students through exactly this kind of situation. And don’t be too hard on yourself—adjusting takes time, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed at first. It’s a big change, and it’s normal to feel this way.
Poor you. We are moving our daughter to Kingston on Saturday. Are there already many people in the halls? Which halls you are in? Remember there will be many stesses and overwhelmed young people there (INCLUDING MY DAUGHTER). YOU are not alone.
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