i am confused on what to do

do something that you wont regret in future, dont just pick something because someone else tells you to do so, at the end of the day it going to be you wholl be working the same career. its important to get your parents blessings, try to convince them and talk it thru.

the thing is
ive been doing this for yrs now sice yr 5 which is like 6 academics yrs now
but they dont seem to budge
i knw but they got so angry
but i never understand why?

Do not do medicine for your parents.
Have you looked into Product Design or similar rather than Architecture?

I've been passionate about understanding how things work, especially in tech, since I was around 10. A year later, I dove into programming, convinced that computer science was my path. However, when one of my mom’s friends mentioned that everyone was pursuing that route, my parents weren’t supportive, leading me to reconsider my options.
As I explored other interests, I found myself drawn to drawing and had a genuine love for math, the only subject that truly resonated with me from primary school. Architecture seemed like the perfect blend of my interests, and I decided to pursue it. My dad supported this choice, but my mom was skeptical, believing it to be a man’s job and suggesting I pursue medicine instead.
Now, as a Year 11 student, I’ve been researching entry requirements for universities and planning my path. But just three weeks ago, I learned that my parents’ support for architecture was not as steadfast as I’d believed. They’ve expressed concerns about the job’s demands, gender roles, and the challenges of balancing work and family life. They now believe a career in medicine would be more beneficial for me.
Personally, I’m not inclined towards medicine due to my difficulties with communication, ADHD, and dyslexia. Science isn’t my forte, and while I’d consider a role in pharmacy if necessary, it’s not my passion. I’m torn between pursuing architecture and computer science online to get qualifications in both, or following my parents’ wishes and focusing on medicine.
Any advice or insights would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading!

I get you with the parents expectations thing, but like what others have said its best u choose something you know you're going to enjoy doing as in the end its you doing the course and career not your parents. Whether its architecture or computer science if you know confidently you don't want to do medicine because you know you can have some problems its not worth the stress. I know its easier said than done but hope this helps

thanks
dia
i really appreciate it
architecture is a thing i wanted to go for
but my heart says computer science
and pharamcy is only a 3 yr course
should i do it so i can have a mental peace and computer science with it?
or is it a bad idea?
like this is making me mental tired evry day hearing things
but its not the first time my parents havent backed me in life

if your heart says computer science then go for it! if u think u can do pharmacy with CS that's fine but if not choose what prioritises you more. Yeah your parents wont nag you anymore but you're not going to find peace within yourself because you're doing something because they told you to and not because you're passionate about it. Your career is important as you'll be doing it for the rest of your life. Hopefully they come to terms with it and support whatever career you choose, if not just focus on your own passion and happiness and they're just gonna have to accept that CS/Architecture is you like to do.

true
im telling them that im sticking to architecture for now
and trying to say to them I won't budge
but I really want to do this for myself
I also found a place I can apply for that does cs part-time for 2 years for undergraduate courses, so I can kill 2 birds with one stone.
but im scared of the consequences
because im the oldest child
no one really cares about me
Siblings are like their own gang
tbh I kinda came used to being a lone wolf at home but like I want to strive
and do something for myself
they also said architecture takes a long to study
when the pharmacy is like 5 years, then there is an assessment after that basically 6 when architecture is 7
im trying to get into Cambridge cause dorm rooms are not a choice, so I can get some mental relaxation. Is that a good intention?
Also, I wanna apply to Cambridge cause it's the best architecture uni out there.
Thanks for reply

npp
thats a smart idea, and theres nothing wrong in thinking about yourself for a change as its your future after all. even if u dont get as much support at home you always can here. good luck with pursuing your goals <3

I've been passionate about understanding how things work, especially in tech, since I was around 10. A year later, I dove into programming, convinced that computer science was my path. However, when one of my mom’s friends mentioned that everyone was pursuing that route, my parents weren’t supportive, leading me to reconsider my options.
As I explored other interests, I found myself drawn to drawing and had a genuine love for math, the only subject that truly resonated with me from primary school. Architecture seemed like the perfect blend of my interests, and I decided to pursue it. My dad supported this choice, but my mom was skeptical, believing it to be a man’s job and suggesting I pursue medicine instead.
Now, as a Year 11 student, I’ve been researching entry requirements for universities and planning my path. But just three weeks ago, I learned that my parents’ support for architecture was not as steadfast as I’d believed. They’ve expressed concerns about the job’s demands, gender roles, and the challenges of balancing work and family life. They now believe a career in medicine would be more beneficial for me.
Personally, I’m not inclined towards medicine due to my difficulties with communication, ADHD, and dyslexia. Science isn’t my forte, and while I’d consider a role in pharmacy if necessary, it’s not my passion. I’m torn between pursuing architecture and computer science online to get qualifications in both, or following my parents’ wishes and focusing on medicine.
Any advice or insights would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading!