Why did this boy speak to me after I rejected him
About a month ago, a guy who lives nearby approached me, complimented me, and asked for my number. He told me I looked gorgeous, but I politely explained that I couldn’t engage with boys in that way because I’m Muslim and my family are very strict. Today, I saw him again near the pub, which I usually pass by, and he was staring at me. Despite knowing my stance, he still said, "Hello, you alright?" even though I had made it clear I’m not allowed to talk to boys. Why do you think he did that?
Original post by Anonymous
About a month ago, a guy who lives nearby approached me, complimented me, and asked for my number. He told me I looked gorgeous, but I politely explained that I couldn’t engage with boys in that way because I’m Muslim and my family are very strict. Today, I saw him again near the pub, which I usually pass by, and he was staring at me. Despite knowing my stance, he still said, "Hello, you alright?" even though I had made it clear I’m not allowed to talk to boys. Why do you think he did that?
I suspect it was because he didn't realise that when you told him that you "couldn’t engage with boys in that way", what you actually meant was, "I’m not allowed to talk to boys".
He likely assumed that "in that way" referred to the compliments and asking for you number, and that politely greeting you and asking about your general well-being ("Hello, you alright?") would be acceptable.
Original post by DataVenia
I suspect it was because he didn't realise that when you told him that you "couldn’t engage with boys in that way", what you actually meant was, "I’m not allowed to talk to boys".
He likely assumed that "in that way" referred to the compliments and asking for you number, and that politely greeting you and asking about your general well-being ("Hello, you alright?") would be acceptable.
He likely assumed that "in that way" referred to the compliments and asking for you number, and that politely greeting you and asking about your general well-being ("Hello, you alright?") would be acceptable.
I said both I said I am not allowed to talk to boys at all because he said we could be friends
Original post by Anonymous
About a month ago, a guy who lives nearby approached me, complimented me, and asked for my number. He told me I looked gorgeous, but I politely explained that I couldn’t engage with boys in that way because I’m Muslim and my family are very strict. Today, I saw him again near the pub, which I usually pass by, and he was staring at me. Despite knowing my stance, he still said, "Hello, you alright?" even though I had made it clear I’m not allowed to talk to boys. Why do you think he did that?
He was probably just trying to be nice / polite... maybe show that there are no hard feelings (after all, some guys can become idiots when a girl rejects them).
Personally, I've had polite exchanges with Muslim girls (just not on their local patch lol), and as long as the boundaries were set, it's never been a problem. However, if your family is that strict, then you need to tell him that you can't engage in any kind of interaction with him (although, personally, I wouldn't see the harm in just a passing "hello" if you're both on your own? )
Original post by Rakas21
As others have stated, he was likely just being polite or trying his luck. It's also probable that he doesn't overly care about your cultural restrictions as they are not his.
it must mean he does really like me/find me attractive then?
Original post by Old Skool Freak
He was probably just trying to be nice / polite... maybe show that there are no hard feelings (after all, some guys can become idiots when a girl rejects them).
Personally, I've had polite exchanges with Muslim girls (just not on their local patch lol), and as long as the boundaries were set, it's never been a problem. However, if your family is that strict, then you need to tell him that you can't engage in any kind of interaction with him (although, personally, I wouldn't see the harm in just a passing "hello" if you're both on your own? )
Personally, I've had polite exchanges with Muslim girls (just not on their local patch lol), and as long as the boundaries were set, it's never been a problem. However, if your family is that strict, then you need to tell him that you can't engage in any kind of interaction with him (although, personally, I wouldn't see the harm in just a passing "hello" if you're both on your own? )
it must mean he does really like me/find me attractive if hes still trying after i rejected him
Original post by Anonymous
it must mean he does really like me/find me attractive if hes still trying after i rejected him
Maybe he does, maybe he doesn't.
Either way, if you're truly committed to your religion, then he'll soon get the message and move on.
But as I said, there's no harm in just saying "Hi" on its own, just out of politeness
Original post by Anonymous
it must mean he does really like me/find me attractive then?
Attracted, yes.
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