Year abroad is killing my mental health
Yea it’s another one of my vent/rant posts because suffering will definitely recognise me from my other posts.
I’m on an exchange year in France and it is completely destroying my mental health. Before I went I thought that I spoke French but since talking to a few people in french I’ve realised that I clearly don’t. Every interaction I’ve had with someone here bar one has been extremely unpleasant. I’m genuinely trying my hardest but nearly everyone has been rude to me in return.
I tried to order in french in a restaurant and the waiter just stared at me then git another waiter to tell me in english that they cant serve me because they dont speak english and my French wasnt very good (those were the exact words). Also had multiple just say I can’t understand you or just walk away when I speak. In all fairness I do have a strong English accent but I wouldn’t say it’s so strong they can’t understand simple sentences like asking for water in a restaurant.
I’ve been here less than a week and already know I hate it. My classes have started and I now have three or for shots of vodka before I can even get out of my front door because otherwise I will feel too anxious to even function. Also had the people from my class in my uk uni pretty much cut me out of the group and just leave me out so I will go the full year without saying a word to another person.
And to anyone who’s recognised me from my other posts yes I know it’s entirely my fault that everyone is rude to me and I’m an unpleasant horrible person who pushes people away and deserves to be alone or whatever lol
I’m on an exchange year in France and it is completely destroying my mental health. Before I went I thought that I spoke French but since talking to a few people in french I’ve realised that I clearly don’t. Every interaction I’ve had with someone here bar one has been extremely unpleasant. I’m genuinely trying my hardest but nearly everyone has been rude to me in return.
I tried to order in french in a restaurant and the waiter just stared at me then git another waiter to tell me in english that they cant serve me because they dont speak english and my French wasnt very good (those were the exact words). Also had multiple just say I can’t understand you or just walk away when I speak. In all fairness I do have a strong English accent but I wouldn’t say it’s so strong they can’t understand simple sentences like asking for water in a restaurant.
I’ve been here less than a week and already know I hate it. My classes have started and I now have three or for shots of vodka before I can even get out of my front door because otherwise I will feel too anxious to even function. Also had the people from my class in my uk uni pretty much cut me out of the group and just leave me out so I will go the full year without saying a word to another person.
And to anyone who’s recognised me from my other posts yes I know it’s entirely my fault that everyone is rude to me and I’m an unpleasant horrible person who pushes people away and deserves to be alone or whatever lol
Hi There
We hear that you have moved to France on an Exchange Year. It is really brave that you have been able to move to a new country to continue with your studies but we hear that moving to France is now having an impact on your Mental Health. It sounds like your first week there has been different to what you thought it might be and we understand that you have lost touch with some of the people who were in your UK Uni classes 🫶
Often talking things through can help us to navigate these feelings. This can be with someone who you trust or with a trained adviser from an organisation who are there to support you with how they are feeling right now. We encourage you to click here to find some good Mental Health Support in France which you are so worthy of 💟
We hear that you have moved to France on an Exchange Year. It is really brave that you have been able to move to a new country to continue with your studies but we hear that moving to France is now having an impact on your Mental Health. It sounds like your first week there has been different to what you thought it might be and we understand that you have lost touch with some of the people who were in your UK Uni classes 🫶
Often talking things through can help us to navigate these feelings. This can be with someone who you trust or with a trained adviser from an organisation who are there to support you with how they are feeling right now. We encourage you to click here to find some good Mental Health Support in France which you are so worthy of 💟
Original post by Anonymous
Yea it’s another one of my vent/rant posts because suffering will definitely recognise me from my other posts.
I’m on an exchange year in France and it is completely destroying my mental health. Before I went I thought that I spoke French but since talking to a few people in french I’ve realised that I clearly don’t. Every interaction I’ve had with someone here bar one has been extremely unpleasant. I’m genuinely trying my hardest but nearly everyone has been rude to me in return.
I tried to order in french in a restaurant and the waiter just stared at me then git another waiter to tell me in english that they cant serve me because they dont speak english and my French wasnt very good (those were the exact words). Also had multiple just say I can’t understand you or just walk away when I speak. In all fairness I do have a strong English accent but I wouldn’t say it’s so strong they can’t understand simple sentences like asking for water in a restaurant.
I’ve been here less than a week and already know I hate it. My classes have started and I now have three or for shots of vodka before I can even get out of my front door because otherwise I will feel too anxious to even function. Also had the people from my class in my uk uni pretty much cut me out of the group and just leave me out so I will go the full year without saying a word to another person.
And to anyone who’s recognised me from my other posts yes I know it’s entirely my fault that everyone is rude to me and I’m an unpleasant horrible person who pushes people away and deserves to be alone or whatever lol
I’m on an exchange year in France and it is completely destroying my mental health. Before I went I thought that I spoke French but since talking to a few people in french I’ve realised that I clearly don’t. Every interaction I’ve had with someone here bar one has been extremely unpleasant. I’m genuinely trying my hardest but nearly everyone has been rude to me in return.
I tried to order in french in a restaurant and the waiter just stared at me then git another waiter to tell me in english that they cant serve me because they dont speak english and my French wasnt very good (those were the exact words). Also had multiple just say I can’t understand you or just walk away when I speak. In all fairness I do have a strong English accent but I wouldn’t say it’s so strong they can’t understand simple sentences like asking for water in a restaurant.
I’ve been here less than a week and already know I hate it. My classes have started and I now have three or for shots of vodka before I can even get out of my front door because otherwise I will feel too anxious to even function. Also had the people from my class in my uk uni pretty much cut me out of the group and just leave me out so I will go the full year without saying a word to another person.
And to anyone who’s recognised me from my other posts yes I know it’s entirely my fault that everyone is rude to me and I’m an unpleasant horrible person who pushes people away and deserves to be alone or whatever lol
Yep, sounds typical of French waiters! 😆
Stick it out then go back at the end of your year and order in flawless French! 😃
Original post by Anonymous
Yea it’s another one of my vent/rant posts because suffering will definitely recognise me from my other posts.
I’m on an exchange year in France and it is completely destroying my mental health. Before I went I thought that I spoke French but since talking to a few people in french I’ve realised that I clearly don’t. Every interaction I’ve had with someone here bar one has been extremely unpleasant. I’m genuinely trying my hardest but nearly everyone has been rude to me in return.
I tried to order in french in a restaurant and the waiter just stared at me then git another waiter to tell me in english that they cant serve me because they dont speak english and my French wasnt very good (those were the exact words). Also had multiple just say I can’t understand you or just walk away when I speak. In all fairness I do have a strong English accent but I wouldn’t say it’s so strong they can’t understand simple sentences like asking for water in a restaurant.
I’ve been here less than a week and already know I hate it. My classes have started and I now have three or for shots of vodka before I can even get out of my front door because otherwise I will feel too anxious to even function. Also had the people from my class in my uk uni pretty much cut me out of the group and just leave me out so I will go the full year without saying a word to another person.
And to anyone who’s recognised me from my other posts yes I know it’s entirely my fault that everyone is rude to me and I’m an unpleasant horrible person who pushes people away and deserves to be alone or whatever lol
I’m on an exchange year in France and it is completely destroying my mental health. Before I went I thought that I spoke French but since talking to a few people in french I’ve realised that I clearly don’t. Every interaction I’ve had with someone here bar one has been extremely unpleasant. I’m genuinely trying my hardest but nearly everyone has been rude to me in return.
I tried to order in french in a restaurant and the waiter just stared at me then git another waiter to tell me in english that they cant serve me because they dont speak english and my French wasnt very good (those were the exact words). Also had multiple just say I can’t understand you or just walk away when I speak. In all fairness I do have a strong English accent but I wouldn’t say it’s so strong they can’t understand simple sentences like asking for water in a restaurant.
I’ve been here less than a week and already know I hate it. My classes have started and I now have three or for shots of vodka before I can even get out of my front door because otherwise I will feel too anxious to even function. Also had the people from my class in my uk uni pretty much cut me out of the group and just leave me out so I will go the full year without saying a word to another person.
And to anyone who’s recognised me from my other posts yes I know it’s entirely my fault that everyone is rude to me and I’m an unpleasant horrible person who pushes people away and deserves to be alone or whatever lol
Not the best recommendation but maybe study with a language app? Idk like duolingo (ironic ik) or other onlie ones which may be better? I started using hellotalk which allows you to also converse with people of your chosen language as they can teach you hands on personal advice and i've found it helpful.
I know from experience that french people are just naturally rude and pieces of sh*t especially with tourists and people coming from abroad so try not take their reactions personally even if it's horrible, try practise at your dorm even if you're unsure because some practise is better than none
Sadly with the friend situation, people come and go and if they're leaving as they're in disagreement with your or don't understand your reasoning of how you work well with your mentality, then they probably aren't understanding or true friends enough to stay, obvs idk you from maybe some past posts so idk what's happened or the situation, but maybe you can try talk to people in your course in france? hope this helps but idk how effective it'll be
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