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Am I making the right living decision?

Hiya, I am a second-year Uni of Warwick student and I chose to live in on-campus halls again in my second year. The circumstance of this was because it took me a while to settle into uni properly and by the time I had made friends with flatmates and coursemates, most already had a plan for the second year. It was also made worse when my closest friend had to drop out because she wanted to change her course.

I am quite honestly anxious about this decision and feel like maybe I should have just asked around, but since I am in leaving in just over a week to go back to uni, I feel like i made the wrong decision. It's so nerve-wracking bc although I know people, I feel isolated because I don't live near them (most are in Leam or Cov). I also have heard bad things about the kind of people I could share with (all will also be in second-year) and that they will be just bad people :frown:

Can anyone other guidance on whether this is the right choice or maybe if I can make a last-minute change? I am very lost on if it's a good idea or not at this point and I don't want the second year of uni to be as bad as the first?
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by Anonymous
Hiya, I am a second-year Uni of Warwick student and I chose to live in on-campus halls again in my second year. The circumstance of this was because it took me a while to settle into uni properly and by the time I had made friends with flatmates and coursemates, most already had a plan for the second year. It was also made worse when my closest friend had to drop out because she wanted to change her course.
I am quite honestly anxious about this decision and feel like maybe I should have just asked around, but since I am in leaving in just over a week to go back to uni, I feel like i made the wrong decision. It's so nerve-wracking bc although I know people, I feel isolated because I don't live near them (most are in Leam or Cov). I also have heard bad things about the kind of people I could share with (all will also be in second-year) and that they will be just bad people :frown:
Can anyone other guidance on whether this is the right choice or maybe if I can make a last-minute change? I am very lost on if it's a good idea or not at this point and I don't want the second year of uni to be as bad as the first?

Hi,

Like you, I struggled to settle in in first year. I missed a lot of the first term due to a family bereavement and by the time I returned it seemed that everybody else had already made friends and looked at houses and I hadn't even attended my first lecture. Because of this, I chose to stay in university accommodation just off campus (Lancaster has halls in the city centre for 2nd and 3rd years so I stayed there last year).

This decision was one that at the time, and after discussing with my parents, was the best option for me given the circumstances but I still felt anxious and like it was the wrong decision and that I could've found someone who needed an extra person to fill a place in a house.

The weekend I was supposed to move in I was away and so my Mum and sister collected my keys and moved some of my stuff in for me. I remember keep asking them who my new flatmates where, what they were like, what they studied, whether she thought I would fit in or get on with them etc. The week between her going up and then me moving fully in the next weekend felt like the longest week ever. On the day that I actually moved in I was a bag of nerves and so unsure of my decision. My worries and doubts were short lived - my flat mates were lovely and respectful and it was a totally different experience than that of first year.

I'm sorry to hear you feel isolated but please speak to someone at your university if this affecting you. Hopefully you'll find friends within your new flat and it be the experience that you deserve! You say that you have said that you have heard bad things about people you could be sharing with which is an understandable worry but hopefully they will not be in your flat. I found that in first year you "had" to stay in halls but in second year it's a choice to stay in halls - this means they will too want to be living where you will be living and be like minded in terms of this so hopefully their behaviour will reflect this choice.

Obviously this is just my experience and yours may be different but hopefully it isn't. If you were wanting to make a last minute change you would need to do it ASAP as I'm assuming you will have signed an accommodation contract so a replacement would be needed to be found and you may also have to pay for the room if you can't find one so please do bare this in mind.

I hope this helps and reassures you. I hope everything goes well with your accommodation too.

Ella - Lancaster University Student Ambassador

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by Lancaster Student Ambassador
Hi,
Like you, I struggled to settle in in first year. I missed a lot of the first term due to a family bereavement and by the time I returned it seemed that everybody else had already made friends and looked at houses and I hadn't even attended my first lecture. Because of this, I chose to stay in university accommodation just off campus (Lancaster has halls in the city centre for 2nd and 3rd years so I stayed there last year).
This decision was one that at the time, and after discussing with my parents, was the best option for me given the circumstances but I still felt anxious and like it was the wrong decision and that I could've found someone who needed an extra person to fill a place in a house.
The weekend I was supposed to move in I was away and so my Mum and sister collected my keys and moved some of my stuff in for me. I remember keep asking them who my new flatmates where, what they were like, what they studied, whether she thought I would fit in or get on with them etc. The week between her going up and then me moving fully in the next weekend felt like the longest week ever. On the day that I actually moved in I was a bag of nerves and so unsure of my decision. My worries and doubts were short lived - my flat mates were lovely and respectful and it was a totally different experience than that of first year.
I'm sorry to hear you feel isolated but please speak to someone at your university if this affecting you. Hopefully you'll find friends within your new flat and it be the experience that you deserve! You say that you have said that you have heard bad things about people you could be sharing with which is an understandable worry but hopefully they will not be in your flat. I found that in first year you "had" to stay in halls but in second year it's a choice to stay in halls - this means they will too want to be living where you will be living and be like minded in terms of this so hopefully their behaviour will reflect this choice.
Obviously this is just my experience and yours may be different but hopefully it isn't. If you were wanting to make a last minute change you would need to do it ASAP as I'm assuming you will have signed an accommodation contract so a replacement would be needed to be found and you may also have to pay for the room if you can't find one so please do bare this in mind.
I hope this helps and reassures you. I hope everything goes well with your accommodation too.
Ella - Lancaster University Student Ambassador

Thank you so much for the response! The end of my first year was so positive that I am worried it will reset, but hearing about your experience has totally made me more hopeful so thank you so much!
I have never thought about it being people who would have chosen to stay in halls again. I am defo more hopeful now that they are respectful and easy to get along with. Lowkey hoping for a nice girl or something who I can just hang out with!

Thank you so much once again <3
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by Anonymous
Thank you so much for the response! The end of my first year was so positive that I am worried it will reset, but hearing about your experience has totally made me more hopeful so thank you so much!
I have never thought about it being people who would have chosen to stay in halls again. I am defo more hopeful now that they are respectful and easy to get along with. Lowkey hoping for a nice girl or something who I can just hang out with!
Thank you so much once again <3


You're very welcome! I'm so glad the end of first year was so positive for you and hopefully this continues!

Looking at it as you all choosing to live there completely changed my mindset and hopefully thinking this way mean some of your anxiety and worries reduce but I'm so pleased you're more hopeful now and that my experience could reassure you!

You're so very welcome, I'll keep my fingers crossed that you find a nice girl, if not in your flat but in your block, and find your group of people to hang out with!

Hope all goes well for you and if you need any more advice you're more than welcome to ask!

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