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Should they be together?

This guy and this girl have been talking for about a month.
Before he met her, he was dating this one girl for like forever and the two broke up because he cheated on her with several girls. Before she met him, she had been dating this one guy for like forever and he cheated on her so she ended it. She hates the guy.
This new girl really likes this new guy and has been warned about his history.
Should they be together?
You know a little too much, this about you?
Anyways, regarding the question, I think a little more time would be needed to those two. They’ve both left long relations, girl got cheated on, guy she likes now cheated with several girls…. I wouldn’t advise but you never know, time will tell.
Reply 2
No, it is not about me. I was friends with the new guy, and am friends with the new girl.
Okay, that makes sense. Thank you!
Reply 3
It is good that the girl knows the guys history so it’s her decision to make, the guy may have learnt his mistakes and be willing to change his ways in his next relationship. As long as everyone knows the facts, they can make their own decisions :smile:
Reply 4
Original post by Bluefoxy09
It is good that the girl knows the guys history so it’s her decision to make, the guy may have learnt his mistakes and be willing to change his ways in his next relationship. As long as everyone knows the facts, they can make their own decisions :smile:

She wont listen to me when i tell her about his history
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
She wont listen to me when i tell her about his history


Don’t worry, she has heard you and it will be in her mind , you have done all you can , you will come across as a good friend in the long run
Reply 6
And she gets mad whenever I ask her how the guy shes talking to is (I dont know why because they are doing pretty good right now)
Reply 7
Original post by Anonymous
You know a little too much, this about you?
Anyways, regarding the question, I think a little more time would be needed to those two. They’ve both left long relations, girl got cheated on, guy she likes now cheated with several girls…. I wouldn’t advise but you never know, time will tell.

What factors should be taken into account when advising friends who are navigating new relationships after experiencing betrayal in their previous ones?
Reply 8
No she shouldn’t what he did to the girl before he’s gonna do the exact same to her she’s no exception
Reply 9
Original post by OJ321
No she shouldn’t what he did to the girl before he’s gonna do the exact same to her she’s no exception

That's what I feel like is going to happen, and she doesn't deserve that again. Whenever she sees her ex somewhere, she is extremely heartbroken. I hate to see her like that.
Original post by Anonymous
This guy and this girl have been talking for about a month.
Before he met her, he was dating this one girl for like forever and the two broke up because he cheated on her with several girls. Before she met him, she had been dating this one guy for like forever and he cheated on her so she ended it. She hates the guy.
This new girl really likes this new guy and has been warned about his history.
Should they be together?

if they want to be together, yes. it's their decision, not yours...
Original post by leroymerlin

What factors should be taken into account when advising friends who are navigating new relationships after experiencing betrayal in their previous ones?

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I know its not my decision, but I'm trying to look out for her. Hes the type of guy who "gets bored" with girls very easily, and I'm trying to spare her even more heartbreak.
Reply 13
Original post by Anonymous
That's what I feel like is going to happen, and she doesn't deserve that again. Whenever she sees her ex somewhere, she is extremely heartbroken. I hate to see her like that.


You should deffo stop it before it happens then
I honestly tried without seeming like I'm trying to make them not happen.
He's manipulating her and making himself seem like an angel and that HIM cheating on his ex wasnt his fault- and shes falling for it!
He knows I dont like him, though. A) because his ex was my friend and B) because he tried to cheat on me after he cheated on her with several other girls. When she expresses her doubts to him, I have a gut feeling he knows that I'm behind trying to stop their growing relationship.
And hes manipulating her into thinking Im the bad guy here, but Im not.
Original post by Anonymous
I know its not my decision, but I'm trying to look out for her. Hes the type of guy who "gets bored" with girls very easily, and I'm trying to spare her even more heartbreak.

Your motives seem good here, but I think you need to butt out and let her make her own decision. She has to live her own life. You've said your piece.

The question of "should they be together" is not really for you to ask or answer; it's not your business.
(edited 1 month ago)
It kind of is, though
UPDATE: she found out he was talking to other girls while they're talking

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