I think I have feelings for my friend
I’m going to preface this by saying that it’s more of a rant, as I am not looking for advice to confess.
I speak to him every day and have found myself smiling at my phone like an idiot every time he messages. He messages multiple times a day and we have fun conversations so I guess I’ve grown attached.
He would never be interested in me as I don’t align with his values, so I don’t entertain any thoughts about a relationship with him or anything like that. I just think I care for him quite a bit. Perhaps I’ve mistaken that care for feelings? I don’t really know. I don’t think it would make sense to figure it out since it wouldn’t change anything.
I just didn’t have anyone to say this to so I’m posting it on here.
I speak to him every day and have found myself smiling at my phone like an idiot every time he messages. He messages multiple times a day and we have fun conversations so I guess I’ve grown attached.
He would never be interested in me as I don’t align with his values, so I don’t entertain any thoughts about a relationship with him or anything like that. I just think I care for him quite a bit. Perhaps I’ve mistaken that care for feelings? I don’t really know. I don’t think it would make sense to figure it out since it wouldn’t change anything.
I just didn’t have anyone to say this to so I’m posting it on here.
Well you need to figure it out then. Do you want to get involved with him?
Original post by Anonymous
Well you need to figure it out then. Do you want to get involved with him?
Getting involved with him isn’t a possibility. So I’ll just have to move on.
Don't shoo away the idea. Do you know FOR SURE that he doesn't feel the same way about you as you do him? Don't give up : )
Original post by Anonymous
Don't shoo away the idea. Do you know FOR SURE that he doesn't feel the same way about you as you do him? Don't give up : )
He wants a girl that would wait until marriage, and I was in a long term relationship previously so I haven’t waited. So I know for a fact that he just sees me as one of the bros, which is kind of nice bc I always know where his intentions are.
Original post by Anonymous
He wants a girl that would wait until marriage, and I was in a long term relationship previously so I haven’t waited. So I know for a fact that he just sees me as one of the bros, which is kind of nice bc I always know where his intentions are.
Oh. So maybe tell him how you feel (or feLT) and that you understand it would be better if you guys were friends (shrugging)
Original post by Anonymous
Oh. So maybe tell him how you feel (or feLT) and that you understand it would be better if you guys were friends (shrugging)
I feel like that would put a strain on our friendship 😅. The best thing to do is probably nothing haha
Original post by Anonymous
I feel like that would put a strain on our friendship 😅. The best thing to do is probably nothing haha
Okay, yeah, you're probably right 🤣
Original post by Anonymous
He wants a girl that would wait until marriage, and I was in a long term relationship previously so I haven’t waited. So I know for a fact that he just sees me as one of the bros, which is kind of nice bc I always know where his intentions are.
He needs to find his way into the 21st century - his life would be more interesting if he ever got here!
Original post by anosmianAcrimony
He needs to find his way into the 21st century - his life would be more interesting if he ever got here!
No it’s ok- I respect his decision. It’s just a shame that I’ve caught feelings for someone that would never reciprocate.
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