Worried about seeing bully at uni

I'm going to be starting uni in September. When I was in years 7 and 8 I was bullied by my best friend and my ex friends. We were best friends for 5 years before that. The situation caused a lot of anxiety and I went to counselling because of it. I'm now past the situation and was discussing my oast experience with my sister and I brought up how sometimes the thought of coming face to face with her again makes me so anxious my heart races. My sister said I should block her as a year ago she followed me on insta and I followed her back. My sister also told me to not worry and focus on my path. I hung out with some friends today and they mentioned that she will be studying in the same uni I will be this year ans will be studying a course of the same field as mine. I really don't want to see her again. What id she asks why I blocked her. What if I end up being friends with her again I have a tendency to forgive, get too attached and they ditch me.

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mp12345678

As a person who has experienced bullying and being left alone by my own friends, I am deeply sorry to hear this ☹️. I myself have been so left out that it came to the point where I wanted to move area and school. Luckily I have an incredibly supportive mother who has been with me since. Though my experience of being teased and bullied has strengthened me and sort of toughened me out. I don't feel shame or hurt from being alone or being made fun of and i think you should feel the same! You are not here on this earth for the fun of it. You have a purpose that is beyond this bullies existence. Should you interact with this bully, act unaffected and uncaring towards her presence. Bullies like her respond well to emotion. By showing this bully that you are untouched by her, she will be discouraged to trouble you again. I'm sorry if this sounds extreme, but I don't think that you should make friends with this bully again. Bullies like her like to pretend to be friends with you, but ditch you after getting whatever it is that they want. Honestly, some people are not worth your time and friendship! If you ever need someone to talk to, I am here 🙂 I wish you good luck and happiness as you start your university life :smile: