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should i meet this guy in real life?

we met on instagram two weeks ago. at first, i had no intention of ever meeting him irl, but he really wants to. ngl he's decent looking and loaded and we have a lot in common. i'm also kinda lonely. i cut ties with most of my family and friends a long time ago. my boyfriend is always busy and i feel like he's given up on me because of my declining mh. every day feels the same. i feel like i'm just destined to ******* die in this house, if i don't change something

should i give it a try and just meet him (as friends)? he's made it pretty clear that he likes me. but i know it's usually all talk and most men just want to **** and will tell you anything, lol. i have no intention of cheating btw. just want to see what his intentions are, what he's like irl. i'm scared i'll just ruin everything

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Reply 1

Dunnig Kruger

Go for it.

BTW did you ever try the Vitamin B12?
And the home-made tomato soup?

Reply 2

Maximum-tragedy

Yeah go for it as long as someone knows where you are, that youre safe and you've made very clear your not interested in a relationship

Reply 3

Zarek

Meet as friends 🤔 Maybe dump your boyfriend first and give it a go

Reply 4

Ciel.

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by Dunnig Kruger

Go for it.
BTW did you ever try the Vitamin B12?
And the home-made tomato soup?

yeah, but i still feel ****, lol, so don't think im b12 deficient
i've given up on cooking altogether for the time being :<

Reply 5

Ciel.

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by Maximum-tragedy

Yeah go for it as long as someone knows where you are, that youre safe and you've made very clear your not interested in a relationship

his acc is verified so probably not a serial killer, haha

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

I would meet him irl but make your intentions clear: that you want to be friends. Maybe after getting to know him more, be more than friends.

Reply 7

Ciel.

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by Zarek

Meet as friends 🤔 Maybe dump your boyfriend first and give it a go

why should i have to dump him first? i mean, it's not even a date?

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

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by Ciel.

why should i have to dump him first? i mean, it's not even a date?

I would advise you not to dump your boyfriend

Reply 9

Zarek

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by Ciel.

why should i have to dump him first? i mean, it's not even a date?

It’s testing the water though. And you're already pretty clear on his motivation. It’s a playing with fire situation

Reply 10

Ciel.

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by Anonymous

I would meet him irl but make your intentions clear: that you want to be friends. Maybe after getting to know him more, be more than friends.

yeah, he could be a complete jerk irl so will see.

Reply 11

Ciel.

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by Zarek

It’s testing the water though. And you're already pretty clear on his motivation. It’s a playing with fire situation

well, it's possible to be just friends even if you're attracted to someone, we're not animals. it's not a crime to explore your options imo

Reply 12

Maximum-tragedy

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by Ciel.

his acc is verified so probably not a serial killer, haha

I would hope not 😭

Reply 13

Zarek

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by Ciel.

well, it's possible to be just friends even if you're attracted to someone, we're not animals. it's not a crime to explore your options imo

It’s more honourable to end a relationship before exploring options, although a stepping stone approach to moving on is common enough I suppose

Reply 14

Ciel.

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by Zarek

It’s more honourable to end a relationship before exploring options, although a stepping stone approach to moving on is common enough I suppose

but i don't know if i want it to end. i'm just tired of everything including my relationship, but that doesn't mean a new one would be any better, so idk. it's very possible that i would really regret losing what i have now.

Reply 15

Zarek

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by Ciel.

Understand, it has the potential to get a bit messy though

Reply 16

Dunnig Kruger

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by Ciel.

yeah, but i still feel ****, lol, so don't think im b12 deficient
i've given up on cooking altogether for the time being :<

If you had a live-in professional chef. One that cooked to Michelin rosette standards. That also focused on first class nutrition for you. Would you eat what they cooked?

Reply 17

Ciel.

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by Dunnig Kruger

If you had a live-in professional chef. One that cooked to Michelin rosette standards. That also focused on first class nutrition for you. Would you eat what they cooked?

probably not. i'm very obsessive/ocd about my food. i like to know the exact calories etc. i'm also extremely picky, when it comes to food, my diet is pretty restricted