making friends after college, no uni

i feel like leaving college and not moving on to uni straight away is so isolating. whilst obv i know uni students dont all have the social life we see but it's still such an opportunity to grow social circles meet new people, especially with the uni groupchats made before freshers and societies. when you leave college there's just nothing. i think its so hard to socialise and make new friends without using your current friend circle at this age. like i'm 19 and sure i work but my coworkers aren't friend friends yk. sometimes i just wish there was more ways for young people to connect outside of educational institutes because i feel like at this age its such a key role in how we meet new people

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hotpud

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Join clubs, play sport, talk to people, be open, be aware that making friends takes time.

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weetabix_muncher

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Original post by aishaclrke

i feel like leaving college and not moving on to uni straight away is so isolating. whilst obv i know uni students dont all have the social life we see but it's still such an opportunity to grow social circles meet new people, especially with the uni groupchats made before freshers and societies. when you leave college there's just nothing. i think its so hard to socialise and make new friends without using your current friend circle at this age. like i'm 19 and sure i work but my coworkers aren't friend friends yk. sometimes i just wish there was more ways for young people to connect outside of educational institutes because i feel like at this age its such a key role in how we meet new people

I have always thought that the friends you make in Y11/college are the ones that you tend to stick with for the rest of your life. If you can stay close with your friends from college. then I don't see why you would need any more. For me, I have always hung with the same friends since primary school and if anything, me going to uni and them not wouldn't affect me at all because I know I can fall back on them

Original post by aishaclrke

i feel like leaving college and not moving on to uni straight away is so isolating. whilst obv i know uni students dont all have the social life we see but it's still such an opportunity to grow social circles meet new people, especially with the uni groupchats made before freshers and societies. when you leave college there's just nothing. i think its so hard to socialise and make new friends without using your current friend circle at this age. like i'm 19 and sure i work but my coworkers aren't friend friends yk. sometimes i just wish there was more ways for young people to connect outside of educational institutes because i feel like at this age its such a key role in how we meet new people

Hi @aishaclrke

I understand how isolating it can feel without friends to hang out with and connect. You're right that college often provides opportunities to meet friends because you see people almost every day. And while not all coworkers turn into friends, some do—speaking from experience, some of my best connections started that way.
In addition to that, there are plenty of other ways to socialize. Joining fun activities, whether it's dance groups, the gym, sports clubs, or gaming, can be great ways to meet new people and build friendships.

Ravina
(Kingston Student Rep)

(edited 2 weeks ago)

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aishaclrke

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Original post by weetabix_muncher

I have always thought that the friends you make in Y11/college are the ones that you tend to stick with for the rest of your life. If you can stay close with your friends from college. then I don't see why you would need any more. For me, I have always hung with the same friends since primary school and if anything, me going to uni and them not wouldn't affect me at all because I know I can fall back on them

i didn't keep most of my friends. i don't speak to anyone from primary anymore and i only have a a lasting friendship with my 2 best friends i met in secondary school. i've never formed close enough friendships that they were actually maintained when we went separate ways. i speak to 1 person i made friends with in college and that's it. maintaining and growing deeper friendships is always something that ive struggled with. it's just not natural to me

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