Tips on how to be more Social

Hi, I am a 17 year girl, who has fearful avoidant attachment. I just started sixth form, but haven't been able to make any friends. What advice would you give me? 🙂

Reply 1

TheSpicyOwl1

Do you mean Social Anxiety Disorder?

If so, I would suggest just pushing yourself to do something.

It worked for me when I was trying to apologize to a girl that I like...

Also, I would recommend getting your buddies by your side as backup.

Trust me.

They work.

(check my bio for my posts for more info).

I hyperventilate when I talk to Carolyne, but I forced myself to do it. And it worked. 😊

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by TheSpicyOwl1

Do you mean Social Anxiety Disorder?
If so, I would suggest just pushing yourself to do something.
It worked for me when I was trying to apologize to a girl that I like...
Also, I would recommend getting your buddies by your side as backup.
Trust me.
They work.
(check my bio for my posts for more info).
I hyperventilate when I talk to Carolyne, but I forced myself to do it. And it worked. 😊

Thanks for advice.
I don't have any buddies or childhood friends so, what do I do ?

Reply 3

TheSpicyOwl1

Original post by Anonymous

Thanks for advice.
I don't have any buddies or childhood friends so, what do I do ?

Hmmmmmm......

I would say the EXACT same thing.

Force yourself to be there.

Do not care about what people will think about you.

And just be you!

Plus, if you want to make yourself be more approachable, here are some tips.

If you feel too scary or ominous, bend your legs inward to make yourself look smaller.

Smile way more.

If you have long hair, tie it into a ponytail. (this is just from a boys viewpoint)

Don't ignore people that look alone. Go out there and talk to them!!!!

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Original post by TheSpicyOwl1

Hmmmmmm......
I would say the EXACT same thing.
Force yourself to be there.
Do not care about what people will think about you.
And just be you!
Plus, if you want to make yourself be more approachable, here are some tips.

If you feel too scary or ominous, bend your legs inward to make yourself look smaller.

Smile way more.

If you have long hair, tie it into a ponytail. (this is just from a boys viewpoint)

Don't ignore people that look alone. Go out there and talk to them!!!!

thanks

Reply 5

TheSpicyOwl1

Original post by Anonymous

thanks

No problem!! Like at all!

I like doing this.

It feels good when people talk to me.

Reply 6

TheSpicyOwl1

Original post by TheSpicyOwl1

No problem!! Like at all!
I like doing this.
It feels good when people talk to me.

Plus.

I need your help.

I don't understand girls....

😅

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Original post by TheSpicyOwl1

Plus.
I need your help.
I don't understand girls....
😅

Ok, what's the problem/question

Reply 8

TheSpicyOwl1

Original post by Anonymous

Ok, what's the problem/question

Uhhhhhhh...............

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Original post by TheSpicyOwl1

Uhhhhhhh...............

Is it a crush?

Reply 10

TheSpicyOwl1

Original post by Anonymous

Is it a crush?

Yup.

It's Carolyne.

https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7523937&p=99889341&page=1&viewing_newpost=1#post99889341

(edited 2 months ago)

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

Original post by TheSpicyOwl1

Yup.
It's Carolyne.
https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7523937&p=99889341&page=1&viewing_newpost=1#post99889341

you should try create a new image in her head about you ( don't change yourself).
• Try remove yourself from the only friends route.
stop jumpscare her all the time do it sometimes ( like a inside joke between you two). Try find out her type subtlety!
If you need anymore advice, just ask me again

Reply 12

TheSpicyOwl1

Original post by Anonymous

Thanks.

Reply 13

NastySeagull

Original post by Anonymous

Hi, I am a 17 year girl, who has fearful avoidant attachment. I just started sixth form, but haven't been able to make any friends. What advice would you give me? 🙂

as an outside perspective, im not you. I can only give you advice from my point of view. And my genuine point of view is talk to someone. I know, I know, "that's like telling a depressed person to just not be sad" but this might work. start off slow, with a hello, maybe even try to get some people with your own humor. you might have better chances of getting friends if you crack a joke once or twice in your conversation, really observe, did they laugh, were they confused, did they slowly back away? take these things into account.