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What would you consider to be truly in love?

Personally, I don’t think the concept of “true love” exists, however we are able to truly love someone or something temporarily.

I’m just curious to see what you think about the ideology of being truly in love would mean to you. Do you think you’ll every be truly in love?

Reply 1

It’s a mixture of sexual attraction and someone treating you well. It’s not necessarily for ever

Reply 2

I think that views on love depend mostly on the state that the person asked is in. Somebody who has just got married and is really in love will undoubtedly say that true love is something real, but they probably won't be saying that when they get divorced.

Reply 3

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by jelllyfiiish
Personally, I don’t think the concept of “true love” exists, however we are able to truly love someone or something temporarily.
I’m just curious to see what you think about the ideology of being truly in love would mean to you. Do you think you’ll every be truly in love?

Love as most people understand it is essentially a females brain being flooded with Oxytocin after sex and the male brain adopting another hormone over time (makes men territorial).

So love for a woman exists, it's just not singular.
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by Doomotron
I think that views on love depend mostly on the state that the person asked is in. Somebody who has just got married and is really in love will undoubtedly say that true love is something real, but they probably won't be saying that when they get divorced.

I heard many people fall out of love after the honeymoon stage - what’d you think?

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by jelllyfiiish
I heard many people fall out of love after the honeymoon stage - what’d you think?


I don't think it's a case of falling out of love, perhaps it's more that the people involved stop glossing over the flaws the other has and notice them more.

Reply 6

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by jelllyfiiish
I heard many people fall out of love after the honeymoon stage - what’d you think?

So basically what's happening here is that within 1-3 years a woman's brain will develop tolerance for the Oxytocin release during sex (in theory, the less a woman has slept with people, the lower the tolerance and the stronger/longer the love) which is why being 'in love' fades.

The intent by that point is that you will be sufficiently attached that the latent love is sufficient to remain together.
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by Rakas21
So basically what's happening here is that within 1-3 years a woman's brain will develop tolerance for the Oxytocin release during sex (in theory, the less a woman has slept with people, the lower the tolerance and the stronger/longer the love) which is why being 'in love' fades.
The intent by that point is that you will be sufficiently attached that the latent love is sufficient to remain together.

Makes sense.

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