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Is it even worth being kind to people anymore?

These past few months have been eventful, graduating from uni, getting a new job and starting my masters' degree soon. It's been nice and because of all my good news I've received recently and I've gone out of my own way to be kinder to my own family - helping out more around the house like with cooking, cleaning, laundry, babysitting, helping my parents on jobs and supporting my siblings. It had been a good past week.

I don't know what it is, but whenever I am good to others I'm always receiving horrible experiences in return - something bad always happens. This morning my older brother had been using my skincare products without my permission and had made a mess of it leaving things everywhere and not bothering to put them back, he's a really lazy person and always expects everyone to do things for him, so me and my parents always have to clean up after him, we tell him off but he never listens.

I didn't bother to clean it up on this occasion and was going to speak to him when he came home later. My dad noticed this mess afterwards and he started telling me off by shouting at me and interrogating me over the mess - it became a really heated argument and I told him it was my brother's mess so why didn't he speak to him instead of me - but no, apparently it's my fault for the mess. I was supposed to go out with my parents , but now everything has been ruined and they chose to leave without me.

I'm so annoyed and upset - what's the damn point in being kind to people who treat me like this?

Reply 1

username7272953

Original post by Anonymous

These past few months have been eventful, graduating from uni, getting a new job and starting my masters' degree soon. It's been nice and because of all my good news I've received recently and I've gone out of my own way to be kinder to my own family - helping out more around the house like with cooking, cleaning, laundry, babysitting, helping my parents on jobs and supporting my siblings. It had been a good past week.
I don't know what it is, but whenever I am good to others I'm always receiving horrible experiences in return - something bad always happens. This morning my older brother had been using my skincare products without my permission and had made a mess of it leaving things everywhere and not bothering to put them back, he's a really lazy person and always expects everyone to do things for him, so me and my parents always have to clean up after him, we tell him off but he never listens.
I didn't bother to clean it up on this occasion and was going to speak to him when he came home later. My dad noticed this mess afterwards and he started telling me off by shouting at me and interrogating me over the mess - it became a really heated argument and I told him it was my brother's mess so why didn't he speak to him instead of me - but no, apparently it's my fault for the mess. I was supposed to go out with my parents , but now everything has been ruined and they chose to leave without me.
I'm so annoyed and upset - what's the damn point in being kind to people who treat me like this?

I know sometimes people are horrible and sometimes I feel the same way as you but I always think that if I let myself be consumed by bitterness and hatred it's not good for me. Besides by being nice sometimes you can make others happier / change the world in a very very small way, and at least I feel good in myself for it.

Reply 2

Sha.xo527

Be kind (not necessarily nice, unless you want to, but kind) but put on the persona that if they try to mess with you, you'd put them in their place quick and heavy. People mistreat kind people because kind people don't have this. You can have both worlds

Reply 3

elareare

Original post by Anonymous

These past few months have been eventful, graduating from uni, getting a new job and starting my masters' degree soon. It's been nice and because of all my good news I've received recently and I've gone out of my own way to be kinder to my own family - helping out more around the house like with cooking, cleaning, laundry, babysitting, helping my parents on jobs and supporting my siblings. It had been a good past week.
I don't know what it is, but whenever I am good to others I'm always receiving horrible experiences in return - something bad always happens. This morning my older brother had been using my skincare products without my permission and had made a mess of it leaving things everywhere and not bothering to put them back, he's a really lazy person and always expects everyone to do things for him, so me and my parents always have to clean up after him, we tell him off but he never listens.
I didn't bother to clean it up on this occasion and was going to speak to him when he came home later. My dad noticed this mess afterwards and he started telling me off by shouting at me and interrogating me over the mess - it became a really heated argument and I told him it was my brother's mess so why didn't he speak to him instead of me - but no, apparently it's my fault for the mess. I was supposed to go out with my parents , but now everything has been ruined and they chose to leave without me.
I'm so annoyed and upset - what's the damn point in being kind to people who treat me like this?

I promise you, being kind is always worth it. I know people can argue with you over unimportant things- but you will be respected and loved for being kind, and make others happy.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

These past few months have been eventful, graduating from uni, getting a new job and starting my masters' degree soon. It's been nice and because of all my good news I've received recently and I've gone out of my own way to be kinder to my own family - helping out more around the house like with cooking, cleaning, laundry, babysitting, helping my parents on jobs and supporting my siblings. It had been a good past week.
I don't know what it is, but whenever I am good to others I'm always receiving horrible experiences in return - something bad always happens. This morning my older brother had been using my skincare products without my permission and had made a mess of it leaving things everywhere and not bothering to put them back, he's a really lazy person and always expects everyone to do things for him, so me and my parents always have to clean up after him, we tell him off but he never listens.
I didn't bother to clean it up on this occasion and was going to speak to him when he came home later. My dad noticed this mess afterwards and he started telling me off by shouting at me and interrogating me over the mess - it became a really heated argument and I told him it was my brother's mess so why didn't he speak to him instead of me - but no, apparently it's my fault for the mess. I was supposed to go out with my parents , but now everything has been ruined and they chose to leave without me.
I'm so annoyed and upset - what's the damn point in being kind to people who treat me like this?

Don’t let bad people take your kindness from you. The best way to win against people who mistreat you is not letting it affect you and not losing yourself to it.

Reply 5

anosmianAcrimony

It's definitely worth being kind, but that doesn't mean you can't draw firm boundaries. Do no harm, take no ****.

If you manage to get through this while keeping your capacity for kindness, you will be much happier in the long term. Treating people well feels good, and generally, they will also treat you better.