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What is too revealing for a first date?

I have a first date coming up with a guy from out of town who is a little older (20) and I want it to go well. I got in a debate with some of my girlfriends about whether you can dress to provocatively for a first date. I got a lot of opinions from the girls but I wanted to get some male views. I feel like IRL they are afraid to say it but wouldn't most guys like a girl who is willing to show some skin?

For context I'm a dress size 6 and D cup and I'm thinking of some outfits that shows off my tummy or cleavage or wherever.
Original post by Emily's Teapot
I have a first date coming up with a guy from out of town who is a little older (20) and I want it to go well. I got in a debate with some of my girlfriends about whether you can dress to provocatively for a first date. I got a lot of opinions from the girls but I wanted to get some male views. I feel like IRL they are afraid to say it but wouldn't most guys like a girl who is willing to show some skin?
For context I'm a dress size 6 and D cup and I'm thinking of some outfits that shows off my tummy or cleavage or wherever.

if I was on that date with you you might be coming home with me 🤣😅
Original post by YoungG-OG
if I was on that date with you you might be coming home with me 🤣😅

Haha thanks but that doesn't answer my question! Can a girl be dressed in top revealing an outfit?
... I kinda did answer it ... I am saying yeah ... I would like it personally
Original post by YoungG-OG
... I kinda did answer it ... I am saying yeah ... I would like it personally

Good, but is there an upper limit? You wouldn't take a girl to a restraint or bar in a bikini, right? So what is too much?
yeah but I don't imagine you are going out in a bikini 😂

what you described seems normal
I think showing your tummy is a little trashy? It's not that you can't be sexy or even slutty, but it has that association which might make men think twice about actually dating you.
Original post by SamuelOctopus
I think showing your tummy is a little trashy? It's not that you can't be sexy or even slutty, but it has that association which might make men think twice about actually dating you.

I get that. But does it matter how you show your tummy? I get that if it was just a crop top it could be trashy but if it was in an open dress like one of these would it be trashy?

https://www.aliexpress.com/i/1005005503960706.html

These are just cheap examples by the way. I'd buy better quality.
Original post by Emily's Teapot
I get that. But does it matter how you show your tummy? I get that if it was just a crop top it could be trashy but if it was in an open dress like one of these would it be trashy?
https://www.aliexpress.com/i/1005005503960706.html
These are just cheap examples by the way. I'd buy better quality.

looks good
Original post by YoungG-OG
looks good

So many of my girlfriends said it was too slutty!
Original post by Emily's Teapot
So many of my girlfriends said it was too slutty!

nah I think you are fine - that's my opinion
Original post by Emily's Teapot
So many of my girlfriends said it was too slutty!


Just wear something modest and classy.
Original post by Anonymous
Just wear something modest and classy.

Like what? I don't want to seem prudish.
Original post by Emily's Teapot
Like what? I don't want to seem prudish.


Why do not find a classy and modest fit? You don’t need everything that needs to be revealing
Depends, are you after a long term relationship or casual. If you’re after something meaningful then keep it classy, less of display. Provocative dressing is only signalling that I’m up for fun and nothing serious. Guys who want wifey material want someone who dresses modest classy. Have your legs out and boobs away, as you want him focused on you and not distracted by your chest lol but that’s my opinion
Original post by Earth rotating
Depends, are you after a long term relationship or casual. If you’re after something meaningful then keep it classy, less of display. Provocative dressing is only signalling that I’m up for fun and nothing serious. Guys who want wifey material want someone who dresses modest classy. Have your legs out and boobs away, as you want him focused on you and not distracted by your chest lol but that’s my opinion

I'm young and not looking for anything serious. If I am just looking for fun is it ok to go further to the provocative side?
Original post by Emily's Teapot
I'm young and not looking for anything serious. If I am just looking for fun is it ok to go further to the provocative side?


If you’re after fun then dress how you feel, provocative or not up to you. Provocative dressing in my eyes is just a girl out to have fun and nothing serious.
Original post by Earth rotating
If you’re after fun then dress how you feel, provocative or not up to you. Provocative dressing in my eyes is just a girl out to have fun and nothing serious.

I think cus I know the guy I'm meeting is from circles where girls dress far more provocative I should match that? Or maybe he'd like a more "modest" dressed girl as a contrast. I don't know lol
Original post by Emily's Teapot
I think cus I know the guy I'm meeting is from circles where girls dress far more provocative I should match that? Or maybe he'd like a more "modest" dressed girl as a contrast. I don't know lol


If I was you I’d dress different to the girls on his circle. If he likes that kind of thing he’d have taken one of them out. Dress classy sexy and leave some for his imagination and don’t put everything on display,
Personally I'm more in the camp of modesty. It depends on whether you want him to find you sexually attractive or if you want to get to know him. That dress you linked to is probably a bit too far. I wouldn't call it slutty, but I think you might come across as trying too hard. Dress nicely, but I think you'd be better off wearing something tamer.

It's also worth noting that with a tamer outfit you'll be leaving a lot to the imagination of your date, which can help you come across more attractive. You may remember in memes from a few years back people talking about oversized hoodies being attractive - that is pretty much what I'm talking about, although I'm not saying you should wear a hoodie to your date.

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