sussex uni friends

I joined sussex on Saturday and its now Tuesday. I've spoken to some people and had some conversations but it hasn't developed into anything else or they aren't my type of people. I know its only been 2 days but I've always been bad at making friends and I really want some even if its just 2. I do plan on joining societies but the fair is on wednesday. On top of this, my family want me to come back on friday and then get to uni on monday again because its a family members birthday and I also need to pick up more stuff so I have 3 days just wasted on making friends.
It doesn't help that I keep seeing everyone already in their groups, yeah I get some of them may not last but It just makes me feel so lonely. I'm from Northfield accom and a girl btw

Reply 1

Chester Student

Official Rep

Original post by Anonymous

Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear you are struggling with this.

It sounds like you are really putting yourself out there and trying to socialize, which is great! It is really important to remember that friendships might not happen quickly. Yes, it might appear that some people found groups fast, but they may have been talking beforehand (and some of these groups don't last very long).

Continue putting yourself out there, and just try your best to meet new people. It's great you have plans to go to the fairs and sign up for societies - they are fantastic places to meet people. You can also look into things you might be interested in joining in your local area, such as volunteering, clubs, and part-time work.

When you next talk to someone, maybe you can ask them what they like to get up to in their free time? I find that sometimes they'll mention something that I like, so it is a good way to then ask them if they'd want to hangout or do something together soon. Asking someone to grab coffee and go for a walk is always a nice one, and once classes start, you can always ask someone to study!

It does get easier, and it sounds like you're doing a great job at putting yourself out there already. I have no doubt that once classes start, you'll have no issue in finding people to talk and hangout with.

Best of luck,

Isabella
Geography with a Year Abroad Student

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Hey I completely relate to you. I’ve been talking to people and socialising as much as I can but the conversations never progress. I feel so stuck and scared since I had such high expectations for uni and now I feel so disappointed. I’m also so worried that I might not be able to make any friends. Let me know how things go for you :smile: