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Is it normal for flatmates not to be keeping in touch after parting ways?

I roomed with a dozen folks in the past but only managed to keep in touch with 1~2 of them. I find it difficult accepting that folks I spent time under the same roof like siblings ended up becoming some kind of nobody in my life, especially one of whom is someone I have a crush on, which I have been struggling to get over.

I feel dejected every day and lack the motivation to explore any other endeavours that can help me feed myself rather than survive on my mum’s money, on top of my systemically disregarded disability constituting the biggest impediment to become financially independent.

Is it normal for flatmates not to be keeping in touch after parting ways?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Hi there, the short answer to your TITLE is Yes!
This is because we have to realise at some point that we are no longer 16 and are busy with our own little lives so it is and feels impossible to keep up with anyone, even if it felt like siblings. The movies and social media portray a fake scenario of how friendship looks like and you wouldn't know it until you experience it yourself of what it rally feels like. In all truth, no one is or will be stuck like glue and that is life.

However, on the other hand, I recommend to join societies and clubs in your local area that you might like, this will make you feel similar connections again and make you feel better about the situation. Similarly, you could pick up on some hobbies you want to try out aswell, which helps too.

Furhtermore, there is no harm in you texting your old flatmates and have a lil conversation or facetime which is always delightful and propose the idea of meeting up again :smile:

Keeping ym answer related to the question, it is hard to maintain friendships after parting ways, but the little moments of catching up after some time and nothing changing is the best feeling ever,

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

Hi there, the short answer to your TITLE is Yes!
This is because we have to realise at some point that we are no longer 16 and are busy with our own little lives so it is and feels impossible to keep up with anyone, even if it felt like siblings. The movies and social media portray a fake scenario of how friendship looks like and you wouldn't know it until you experience it yourself of what it rally feels like. In all truth, no one is or will be stuck like glue and that is life.
However, on the other hand, I recommend to join societies and clubs in your local area that you might like, this will make you feel similar connections again and make you feel better about the situation. Similarly, you could pick up on some hobbies you want to try out aswell, which helps too.
Furhtermore, there is no harm in you texting your old flatmates and have a lil conversation or facetime which is always delightful and propose the idea of meeting up again :smile:

Keeping ym answer related to the question, it is hard to maintain friendships after parting ways, but the little moments of catching up after some time and nothing changing is the best feeling ever,