Want to drop out of university after 5 days.
Started university. don't like my flatmates, not my people at all. they have all become good friends and go out every night and i do not speak to them. I have been around people everyday (people i met from freshers gcs) but its becoming quite obvious im the one person in the group that nobody really likes that much and that ******* kills me inside. i don't know why i cant just connect with people like the others in the group have.
I feel like a failure in every way and am considering dropping out or deferring a year. i feel like i have just gotten so unlucky with my flatmates and other things. My course hasn't started yet, so i know there is still hope of me making friends there, but even then i feel like im just going to have a **** year if im living with people i don't like.
I have tried so hard to socialize but its not been paying off. i think that people just think that im boring.
At this point im a few days away from calling my parents and telling them i just cant do it.
I feel like a failure in every way and am considering dropping out or deferring a year. i feel like i have just gotten so unlucky with my flatmates and other things. My course hasn't started yet, so i know there is still hope of me making friends there, but even then i feel like im just going to have a **** year if im living with people i don't like.
I have tried so hard to socialize but its not been paying off. i think that people just think that im boring.
At this point im a few days away from calling my parents and telling them i just cant do it.
Original post by ReeceV123
Started university. don't like my flatmates, not my people at all. they have all become good friends and go out every night and i do not speak to them. I have been around people everyday (people i met from freshers gcs) but its becoming quite obvious im the one person in the group that nobody really likes that much and that ******* kills me inside. i don't know why i cant just connect with people like the others in the group have.
I feel like a failure in every way and am considering dropping out or deferring a year. i feel like i have just gotten so unlucky with my flatmates and other things. My course hasn't started yet, so i know there is still hope of me making friends there, but even then i feel like im just going to have a **** year if im living with people i don't like.
I have tried so hard to socialize but its not been paying off. i think that people just think that im boring.
At this point im a few days away from calling my parents and telling them i just cant do it.
I feel like a failure in every way and am considering dropping out or deferring a year. i feel like i have just gotten so unlucky with my flatmates and other things. My course hasn't started yet, so i know there is still hope of me making friends there, but even then i feel like im just going to have a **** year if im living with people i don't like.
I have tried so hard to socialize but its not been paying off. i think that people just think that im boring.
At this point im a few days away from calling my parents and telling them i just cant do it.
It is hard I was in a similar situation once my course started and i joined in a few societies met a few randoms things got much better. Give it a few weeks if you still hate it there is no shame at all in dropping out. I actually dropped out in my first university just after christmas that year. good luck and it will get better it could just take time.
Original post by ReeceV123
Started university. don't like my flatmates, not my people at all. they have all become good friends and go out every night and i do not speak to them. I have been around people everyday (people i met from freshers gcs) but its becoming quite obvious im the one person in the group that nobody really likes that much and that ******* kills me inside. i don't know why i cant just connect with people like the others in the group have.
I feel like a failure in every way and am considering dropping out or deferring a year. i feel like i have just gotten so unlucky with my flatmates and other things. My course hasn't started yet, so i know there is still hope of me making friends there, but even then i feel like im just going to have a **** year if im living with people i don't like.
I have tried so hard to socialize but its not been paying off. i think that people just think that im boring.
At this point im a few days away from calling my parents and telling them i just cant do it.
I feel like a failure in every way and am considering dropping out or deferring a year. i feel like i have just gotten so unlucky with my flatmates and other things. My course hasn't started yet, so i know there is still hope of me making friends there, but even then i feel like im just going to have a **** year if im living with people i don't like.
I have tried so hard to socialize but its not been paying off. i think that people just think that im boring.
At this point im a few days away from calling my parents and telling them i just cant do it.
Hi
I can totally emphasise with your situation.
You are the only person who knows yourself the best, however I think once your course has started and you have met your coursemates and joined some societies (I think that it is a really good idea to do this as it gives you a chance to meet like-minded people).
I hope this helps,
Matt
Wrexham Uni Reps
Sorry to hear you have had such a horrible start. It possibly wont help, but know lots of people have been there and did settle in (including me) and right now lots of other people will be struggling too, just like you
I did find that things got better once my course started, got to mix with a few different folks and had a few different things to talk about.
Joining some clubs helped too but it took a little time to find people I got on with (fwiw I ended up helping out with Hockey, getting kit ready, packing it away etc and found that much easier to get to know people that way rather than just training / playing, where chat was less easy anyhow)
If you need something outside of Uni, a friend of mine actually joined a club in the local town with a wider mix of people / ages and that suited them really well. Another worked in a charity shop in town, others got jobs in coffee shops etc and made friends that way
I did find that things got better once my course started, got to mix with a few different folks and had a few different things to talk about.
Joining some clubs helped too but it took a little time to find people I got on with (fwiw I ended up helping out with Hockey, getting kit ready, packing it away etc and found that much easier to get to know people that way rather than just training / playing, where chat was less easy anyhow)
If you need something outside of Uni, a friend of mine actually joined a club in the local town with a wider mix of people / ages and that suited them really well. Another worked in a charity shop in town, others got jobs in coffee shops etc and made friends that way
i have deferred and honestly it’s so hard seeing everyone go off to uni and living the life your going to in a years time.
that being said, i ofc have no idea what it is like being at uni since i have chosen not to until next year but genuinely try to stick it out as long as you can before you make a decision that you may regret
all the best
that being said, i ofc have no idea what it is like being at uni since i have chosen not to until next year but genuinely try to stick it out as long as you can before you make a decision that you may regret
all the best
Original post by ReeceV123
Started university. don't like my flatmates, not my people at all. they have all become good friends and go out every night and i do not speak to them. I have been around people everyday (people i met from freshers gcs) but its becoming quite obvious im the one person in the group that nobody really likes that much and that ******* kills me inside. i don't know why i cant just connect with people like the others in the group have.
I feel like a failure in every way and am considering dropping out or deferring a year. i feel like i have just gotten so unlucky with my flatmates and other things. My course hasn't started yet, so i know there is still hope of me making friends there, but even then i feel like im just going to have a **** year if im living with people i don't like.
I have tried so hard to socialize but its not been paying off. i think that people just think that im boring.
At this point im a few days away from calling my parents and telling them i just cant do it.
I feel like a failure in every way and am considering dropping out or deferring a year. i feel like i have just gotten so unlucky with my flatmates and other things. My course hasn't started yet, so i know there is still hope of me making friends there, but even then i feel like im just going to have a **** year if im living with people i don't like.
I have tried so hard to socialize but its not been paying off. i think that people just think that im boring.
At this point im a few days away from calling my parents and telling them i just cant do it.
keep going man💯
Original post by ReeceV123
Started university. don't like my flatmates, not my people at all. they have all become good friends and go out every night and i do not speak to them. I have been around people everyday (people i met from freshers gcs) but its becoming quite obvious im the one person in the group that nobody really likes that much and that ******* kills me inside. i don't know why i cant just connect with people like the others in the group have.
I feel like a failure in every way and am considering dropping out or deferring a year. i feel like i have just gotten so unlucky with my flatmates and other things. My course hasn't started yet, so i know there is still hope of me making friends there, but even then i feel like im just going to have a **** year if im living with people i don't like.
I have tried so hard to socialize but its not been paying off. i think that people just think that im boring.
At this point im a few days away from calling my parents and telling them i just cant do it.
I feel like a failure in every way and am considering dropping out or deferring a year. i feel like i have just gotten so unlucky with my flatmates and other things. My course hasn't started yet, so i know there is still hope of me making friends there, but even then i feel like im just going to have a **** year if im living with people i don't like.
I have tried so hard to socialize but its not been paying off. i think that people just think that im boring.
At this point im a few days away from calling my parents and telling them i just cant do it.
Sounds like you got really unlucky with your flatmates. I’d say wait until your course starts,that’s where you usually meet the people you have things in common with as you all chose the same course. Try joining societies to meet others with similar interests. Also, if it’s your flatmates that are the problem try moving to a different accom if you can. There’s so many ways to make friends at uni so try sticking it out for at least the first term and if you still hate it you could possibly think about transferring to a different uni instead of dropping out. I’d try to stick it out as long as you can as dropping out can make thing ls very complicated student finance wise. Try and put yourself out there as much as you can you’re bound to find at least 1 person you vibe with
Does your halls or flats have a bar? You might just have to go alone and try striking up conversations with people who look friendly. Make sure you look cool and act easy going. Sure it's a tough call but it's risk and reward. If you chill out completely, hold your head high, you believe in yourself and treat everyone with the respect they deserve and you're straight with people, you should make some friends quickly.
Original post by ReeceV123
Started university. don't like my flatmates, not my people at all. they have all become good friends and go out every night and i do not speak to them. I have been around people everyday (people i met from freshers gcs) but its becoming quite obvious im the one person in the group that nobody really likes that much and that ******* kills me inside. i don't know why i cant just connect with people like the others in the group have.
I feel like a failure in every way and am considering dropping out or deferring a year. i feel like i have just gotten so unlucky with my flatmates and other things. My course hasn't started yet, so i know there is still hope of me making friends there, but even then i feel like im just going to have a **** year if im living with people i don't like.
I have tried so hard to socialize but its not been paying off. i think that people just think that im boring.
At this point im a few days away from calling my parents and telling them i just cant do it.
I feel like a failure in every way and am considering dropping out or deferring a year. i feel like i have just gotten so unlucky with my flatmates and other things. My course hasn't started yet, so i know there is still hope of me making friends there, but even then i feel like im just going to have a **** year if im living with people i don't like.
I have tried so hard to socialize but its not been paying off. i think that people just think that im boring.
At this point im a few days away from calling my parents and telling them i just cant do it.
Hi there,
This can be a really tricky situation to be in and it can feel like you are the only person who is in this situation, but trust me there are so many people who didn't/don't get on with their flatmates. You have been put with a group of people that you don't know- the chances of you all getting on are quite low so try not to worry too much about this. As hard as it might feel at the moment, you will have so many other chances of making friends so try and stick it out for a little bit longer and give yourself the chance to make some other friends and see how it goes for a bit.
I would definitely wait until you have started your course as there will be lots of people that you will meet here and you will most likely make friends with some of them. You will meet so many new people and I am sure that you will click with some of them at least so try and stick it out until you have started your course.
I would also think about joining some societies as you will meet lots of people this way and they may be more your kind of people as you will all have a common interest which you share which can be good for making friends.
I hope some of this helps,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador.
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