having doubts re uni

im due to move in two days, and start my course on Monday. im really very anxious, as I haven't met anybody in my accommodation or on my course yet. several people ive spoke too are attending university with their friends from childhood and are staying at home (in contrast I will be living 1-2 hrs from my home city). Im really passionate about the course, but many people I met viewed it as a "don't know what to do in life" option, whereas as im very driven to make this my career. That being said, im aware of how difficult it is to have a career in the music industry, and have a backup plan as a paramedic. Any advice?

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Original post by eddy14

im due to move in two days, and start my course on Monday. im really very anxious, as I haven't met anybody in my accommodation or on my course yet. several people ive spoke too are attending university with their friends from childhood and are staying at home (in contrast I will be living 1-2 hrs from my home city). Im really passionate about the course, but many people I met viewed it as a "don't know what to do in life" option, whereas as im very driven to make this my career. That being said, im aware of how difficult it is to have a career in the music industry, and have a backup plan as a paramedic. Any advice?

Hi @eddy14,

It is completely normal to feel nervous before moving away to university. Whilst the people you know may be staying at home and going to university with friends from my experience an overwhelming majority will do the same as you, many of which will be moving even further away from home. I personally moved 4 hrs away knowing absolutely no one in Southampton. This is understandably a scary time but when you first arrive you will see that everyone is in the same boat as you and will want to settle in and make new friends. For me I found the apprehension before moving to university a lot worse then when I actually got there. I found going to societies a really good way to make friends with like minded people.

As for your course, it sounds like you are doing it for all the right reasons. Its really important to be doing something you are passionate about.

I hope this helps and best of luck,
Abby - 4th year UoS student

Original post by eddy14

im due to move in two days, and start my course on Monday. im really very anxious, as I haven't met anybody in my accommodation or on my course yet. several people ive spoke too are attending university with their friends from childhood and are staying at home (in contrast I will be living 1-2 hrs from my home city). Im really passionate about the course, but many people I met viewed it as a "don't know what to do in life" option, whereas as im very driven to make this my career. That being said, im aware of how difficult it is to have a career in the music industry, and have a backup plan as a paramedic. Any advice?

Hi @eddy14 ,

I will also agree that it is normal to feel like this before you start uni and lots of other people will be feeling the same way as you are right now. It is such a change than anything you will have done before and it can be scary moving away from home, however I will say that you will settle in and it won't be as scary as you think it might be at the moment.

Most people won't know anybody when they go to uni - I didn't know anybody and everyone I lived with didn't know anybody either so don't worry about this as it is a fresh start for everybody with lots of new people and there will be plenty of people for you to meet and make friends with. Some people do go with friends from childhood or people they already know, but this is rare so don't worry about this as most people will not know anybody.

In terms of making friends, there will be lots of people on your course to make friends with so it will be good when you start your course as there will be lots of different people to meet here and everyone will be looking to make friends. I would suggest maybe trying to sit with a new person in each of your classes and starting a conversation with them. Everyone wants to make friends and they will appreciate you talking to them so this is a good way of making friends with people!

You could also look into joining a society. These are great ways of meeting new people and also getting out and doing something fun that you enjoy doing. This could be anything from a sport, to your course society if there are any and these are all great ways of meeting people and just occupying your time!

Make sure you talk to your flatmates too - try and spend time in the kitchen when you first start as this is the easiest way of making friends with your flatmates as they will likely be in the kitchen cooking too and this is a great way of making friends. You could also ask them if they want to go out if you like things like this and if so, having pres is a great way of breaking the ice and making friends!

I would also say, don't worry about what other people are saying about your course. You are still doing a degree which will be just as hard as other degrees and if it was just a back up option, it wouldn't be a course at university, so try not to let this bother you at all.

I hope some of this helps,

Lucy -SHU student ambassador 🙂

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